| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 5:01:53 PM | 1 evening after we had great sex, my ex-gf & I were just talking and she said "I am so glad that I can turn you on." "What?" " My ex would take a long time to come into bed, so 1 night I went to see what was taking him so long. He was in the other room looking at porn on the net. He said I have to look at porn so I can f uck you." Well he never got anything else at all from her again. And I dont blame her 1 bit. She is a very attractive lady. She is 50, but looks 30. I have NEVER had to look at porn to be able to have sex with any woman.
Ladies, would you be pissed? And guys, do you look at porn to be able to have sex with your woman? | |
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| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 5:04:50 PM | I think porn can be a good thing when used to ENHANCE a relationship. If a man or woman uses it all the time in order to get in the mood or to be attracted to their mate, well then he/she has problems. My ex and I would watch porn to learn from it and to enhance our relationship. I never felt as if we were doing it to get in the mood. | |
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| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 5:15:41 PM | Maybe there is something psychological going on to where he feels he cannot perform without it. Who knows?
I think, though, if the couple cares about one another and are truly attracted, porn shouldn't be needed to have sex. Enhance it maybe, help explore new things with each other maybe, but to perform? Something's gotta be wrong. | |
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| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 6:40:27 PM | ":that's a good point! ^^ I don't think most men need stimulation, especially in the mornings. Am I wrong? **giggles**"
You thought your remark was cute. Sorry to inform you that you're deadly wrong.
If you think you can just lay down and open up your leg, any guy should get a hard on every single day, think again. | |
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| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 7:11:50 PM | | if it was an ongoing thing.. then i would have a prob. w/it.. but if its once in awhile.. then i wouldn`t.. watching porn together as a couple or what have u never hurts a relationship.. taking it 2 the extreme does.. | |
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| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 10:55:18 PM | If she's ugly enough, hell - I'd watch porn WHILE having sex with her. But if that were the case, I wouldn't be with her in the first place, so it's a moot point.
I think you should be attracted enough to your girlfriend to not need porn to get excited about doing her. Unless she's attractive but just a dead lay, in which case, I also wouldn't be with her in the first place, so again... moot point. | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 10:59:03 PM | OMG... YEs I would be pissed! If someone HAD to look at porn to have sex with me? OMG!
That would mean they have a porn/sex addiction...........
I can understand once in a while viewing it together.... but one should NEVER rely on porn to get things going! It's not healthy! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 11:04:31 PM | I'm not going to say that it's wrong if you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex, but I would say that there could be an issue here.
I think a better idea would be to get your significant other to help you out, maybe do some role play. Act out a spicy situation, kind of roleplay a porno situation.
Save the porn for when you're home alone!! | |
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Posted: 7/6/2006 11:10:20 PM | Damn straight. Kink it up! Different outfits and "looks" really get me goin', and I love to be teased n' shit - as long as that's goin' on, I would scrap my entire porn collection (or at least put it in the closet until I'm single again)  | |
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| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:17:59 PM | 2 comments
Sassy.....no one needs porn when they are with a woman as beautiful as you....
Second....heres what happens. You are not in relationship for a long time. You have sexual needs. You get used to dealing with them...ahem.....solo. You got a system that works. Now you meet someone, lets say 3-4 years down the line. Now you gotta learn to have REAL sex again, which is never as hot as fantasy, but way more fulfilling...i mean its a real body, its got hairs and moles and funny bits and its not some airbrushed hottie....
And it can get to the point where u know how to get yourself off better than any partner can. But you want the affection and all the goodies. So you have to re-educate yourself about how to have real sex again. Sometimes porn comes along for the ride.
Okay, lets be honest. I was living with a woman for 4 years and I liked some porn and she HATED it....her dad used to look at porn and cheat on her mom and she's like "YOU PERVERT"......omg .......so we went to a family therapist/sex therapist (M.S.W.) and she starts going on about my porn problems and the therapist stops her mid sentence and says "what is your problem?". That is, many women are all screwed up about porn and see it as negative, but they are the ones who are scrwed up, not the guy who likes porn to get him excited.
So ignore these prudes, grab yer sex toys and go for it.....hopefully you will find a woman who is not this kind of prude.
OMG this reminds me of a funny story.....a gay friend of mine brings a guy home to his apartment. He is wanting some action. They try to go at it and the other guy just isnt getting hard, and he gives up. He says to my friend "sorry, its been a long time and now my hand is my lover". So my friend pours a beer all over his hands. The guy freaks out and sez "what are you doing?". My friend says, thought I wouild get your hand drunk so you can take advantage of it when you get home. Then he booted him of his place.
True story. | |
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| do you HAVE to look at porn to prepare for sex?
Posted: 7/6/2006 11:27:32 PM | | Good question. I have looked at porn before sex to get me in the mood but only 'cause the other party wasn;t willing to invest more than 10 minutes turning me on and warming my oven. I have also been in situations where it has enhanced the mood. I would be personally pissed if the other party looked at porn in order to **** me, however, if the other person is willing to give me treatment to turn me on that that is cool. It all depends on the other personality and who they are in general. | |
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