| | Advice on a first datePage 1 of 1 | Ok...I have a friend, who like me is new to dating. He's going on a "date" with a woman he recently met, and has no idea what to do. They've talked a bit and he is definately interested in getting to know her better and possibly start dating seriously...problem is, he doesn't know how serious she is about it...whether she's looking at it as just something casual and "friendly", or whether it's the start of something. He doesn't want to mess up the first date by holding her hand or anything like that, but at the same time he wants to show her that he's interested. He's asked me what he should do, and the thing is, since I'm in the same boat as him I don't know what to do...so...some advice and/or insights would be great. I want to help him out, but I'm gonna need help myself(besides, it wouldn't hurt me for the knowledge anyways). So...I guess it's more how do you tell if a woman is interested in something more than friendship, how do you tell how interested she is, and how do you show your interest without pushing too hard and scaring her off. This thread can also be used inversely for women wanting to know the same about a guy. I'm sorry if this is a redundant thread, but it's 11:20pm and I'm too tired to go thread hunting right now. Thanks in advance for any advice and insights.
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Posted: 7/6/2006 11:40:20 PM | Ask what they have in store for themselves in the next year ...3 years....where do they see themselves in 5 years...
Or
Read their profile, check out any wording that might mean this person is looking for Longterm...to shorterm relationship...
Or
You could ask.
You can also be bold by stating honestly what your looking for or what your intentions are. The fun part might be finding creative ways to say it | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 12:36:58 AM | Hmm.......believe me interest is communicated quite easily even if there is no hand holding, hugs or any other touching. Just the eyes alone are enough to communicate interest. If you continue to talk and time goes by very quickly, that is also an indication that things went rather well.
However, it all depends on how long they have been communicating online and whether they already feel a connection, correct? Women in general do not scare easily either, they will let you know whether there is any interest or not.
LOL....perhaps I should not comment as I rarely date, that would mean one date every 4 months or so..... .....I most definitely would not qualify as an expert!! What you need are opinions from those that date frequently.  | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 9:35:12 AM | Hold the door open, say something nice about her hair or outfit choice.
Chew with your mouth closed and Dont talk with food in your mouth,
If your about to say something you think might be stupid, just don't, (it probably is stupid, even if it wasn't stupid, its not worth the risk)
Dont comment on that other womens low cut top, unless you do it like "Can you believe the nerve of that women, wearing such a low cut top so her boobs are hanging out", ill be right back, im gonna get to the bottom of this"  | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 10:05:08 AM | If the chemistry is there, it will show. If you call her
for a second date, she will know that you are interested! | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 11:45:04 AM | OMG Rod! You ROCK! That is hilarious! You forgot to add..."Here, hold my beer"...lol! (true story...that's how my ex proposed years ago in a bar...lol!)
I am will Well Balanced on this one...you said it! It's all in the eyes. | |
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Posted: 7/7/2006 2:49:58 PM | | lol...well it certainly is a wide range of advice so far...keep in mind this is for me to relay to my buddy...he hasn't given me much info himself...but I'll most certainly pass this info...except for Seymour's(you crazy man you...lol)...I'm sure it'll help him out quite a bit...especially since most of the advice is coming from women...thanks a bunch, and keep it coming...I'd like to see this guy happier than a pig in sh*t...lol | |
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JenRae
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| Advice on a first date
Posted: 7/7/2006 5:10:35 PM | Get him to try light contact and see if she pulls away...touch her knee or hand. Ask about interests, if she likes going out every weekend with the girls, chances are she's probably not into a relationship per say. When I'm out on a first date, I usually ask about friends and their backgrounds-especially if a lot of her friends are married or seriously dating, she may put forth more info into what she wants. Ask about plans for the future, what her thoughts are on "casual dating" and so on...
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Posted: 7/7/2006 10:23:17 PM | I agree with JenRae.... touch her lightly, on the arm, or leg, or tickle her, in fun.... make it light, but see how she responds. If she pulls away.... either it's too soon, or she just isn't that into you. I think it is important to establish that physical contact, establish chemistry... and that's what touching does.
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Posted: 3/23/2012 4:32:00 PM | My advice to anyone on a first date..
No matter how good the photo is that they have sent you or all the hype you are lead to believe...
enter with an open mind and keep your wits, don't fall for those old fables..
no matter how much make up or lip cream they apply!..look at what your getting into
if there are open sores around their mouth...RUN!
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Posted: 3/25/2012 6:13:03 PM | Why doesn't he just ask her?
All the normal guys I've met on POF ask "Can I hold your hand" or "Is a hug okay?"
After a few dates, they might ask if I'm interested in dating seriously or would consider being the girlfriend.
Clear communication is a wonderful thing. | |
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Posted: 4/6/2012 7:18:59 PM | | well women are wired, some would like you to hold her hand, flirt or no flirt or even a quicky on her first date. And if you refuse or give a sign of refusal......BOOM like "CONAN" you are done ..........................they will move on becoz they hv million choices, and they knw it. That's what I hate | |
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