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| never given a chance
Posted: 2/28/2005 2:33:52 PM | | I'm a nice, romantic guy. The problem is that the women I've dated never gave me the chance to show them that. They were just interested in using my good nature then dropping me like a bad habit. It does make me wonder sometimes if I should just give up being a nice guy. Hopefully someday I'll meet someone who will let me sweep them off their feet rather then stomp all over mine. | |
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| caveman days
Posted: 2/28/2005 2:44:10 PM | if courtship today was the same as it was back in caveman days I'd be out looking for a female to club over the head and drag back to my house, lol. But oh well, I can wait for love. got plenty of other stuff to keep me occupied. my novel being the top of the list | |
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| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/1/2005 6:08:35 AM | | Tony.....we've all run into those who aren't truly nice, even though they label themselves as such. You haven't hit sore spots....you asked a questioned and are getting answers....the most important result to come from this thread is to remember that nice matters>>always! | |
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| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/1/2005 11:19:07 AM | | Yes, I am a nice guy and I love being romantic, but most (not all) of the women I meet these days don't appreciate it like women did years ago. Oh, well. | |
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wayne
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Joined: 5/9/2003
Msg: 10 | |
| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/2/2005 6:37:05 PM | Go to the mall someday and just watch the people there. You always see some hot lady with a guy that is a real a hole. The reason for this is guilt. If you treat them badly they think they did something wrong and want to please you. Its just their nature. Treat them nicely and they walk all over you. Sorry Ladies I dont make the rules I just have to watch guys live by them.
Whats the moral of the story here? Treat them like s%^t and they love you forever. Which is really cool if you think about the fact that they out number men about two to one in this country. So treat them nice let it wear in Kickem to the curb for being such a Biatch and MOVE ON BROTHER !  | |
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| the real reason girls stay with a-holes
Posted: 3/2/2005 11:20:45 PM | I think the real reason why a girl stays with someone who treats her like sh*tis because she's afraid that if she breaks up with him then, being the a hole he is, he'll beat her up or stalk her or worse. No woman in her right mind stays with a complete a hole. same as if I were in a relationship with a woman who treated me like shit. I would leave her in a heartbeat. I wouldn't go to the mall to watch girls with a hole boyfriends though cause I have a great respect for women and if I saw one being mistreated by a a hole I would make a scene right then and there and probably land myself in jail to defend her cause nothing bothers me more then a man who treats a woman like sh*tor treats her like an object instead of a human being. I'll never be an a hole toward a woman...unless she wants me to of course and she likes that kinda thing, lol. My parents fight all the time. they dislike each other and treat each other like crap. People say stuff like that is passed down in the genes and maybe someday I'll be fighting with my wife like that too. I say bullcrap. genes were meant to be broken. everyone else in my fam started losing hair at age 21. I'm the only one that didn't. my whole family has a history of smoking. everyone still smokes but me. I found a way to break my genes and I'll also find a way to break any a hole genes that may have been passed down to me. Cause if I ever mistreat a woman then may god strike me dead right then and there. I don't even treat my ex-girlfriends like crap. There are plenty of other fish in the sea and the one for me is out there somewheres. It takes many tries to finally find that one and my ex's just weren't the ones. But any woman that is with a guy who treats her like crap, may she beat his a** and leave him on the curb cause that's what he deserves. I've spoken my mind and now I'm off to make myself a late night drink and play video games, lol. cyas | |
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| the real reason girls stay with a-holes
Posted: 3/3/2005 3:55:39 AM | psychosis82,,Why couldnt you be more younger....You can break patterns I beleive that 100% I did it with my own kids I was verbaly and mentally abused as a child and I broke the cycle with my own children so did my brother with his...You are a good guy and seems like you want to and will always stay that way ,,its nice to see that you are so wise at even your young life... | |
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| the real reason girls stay with a-holes
Posted: 3/3/2005 4:13:26 AM | thanx marie. Throughout my life I've always witnesed women being neglected and abused. and that was in my own family alone. I couldn't stand to see that. members of my family have always have a history of some sort of spousal abuse and such. I learned to break that gene. If I ever get married me and my wife may have fights with each other now and then, that's natural in a relationship. But I will never hit her or abuse her in any way. I may only be 22 but I feel much older, much wiser then a normal 22 year old. thanx again for your compliments marie and sorry to hear about you being abused when you were younger. I guess the only thing we can do in that situation is block memories of the past and work on the here and now, make a new past to look back on. you take care marie, and everyone else too.    | |
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| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/3/2005 5:45:42 AM | | thats the odd thing. I look around these days being one of the "all around good guys" romantic, caring, affectionate. And most people compliment me on my looks... yet when I look I see girls with some of the worst slime there is. Guys who cheat on them regularly and they are even away of it. So why on earth to they try to "fix" things. I mean if a guy is gonna be an ass, he's gonna be an ass. I know people like a challenge but people need to understand people are who they are changing a habit in someone is one thing getting them to turn over a new leaf is another. Oh well there's my rant for today. | |
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| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/3/2005 6:18:14 AM | Gentlemen, Unfortunately most of what you're saying is true. However, there are a lot of men out there who impress the hell out of you with the gentle words, shower you with attention, get you hooked and then turn into either slime or pervs. My first husband: so gentle with me and so caring, we married, within a month I had my first blackeye. Within a year, I had been beaten repeatedly, cheated on, everything I owned thrown away (EVERYTHING), threatened with death, shot at, and found myself divorced and living in my car. My second husband: totally different type, acted like a good Christian, thought he adored his son (marriage #1 for him), treated me with respect, career military man. After 17 years of never complaining about moves, 9 miscarriages, 2 adoptions, and 4 years caring for his widowed, ill-healthed mother...having given up my home I discover he has been having multiple affairs over the course of our marriage, he refused to quit using drugs and here I am.
Are there nice guys out there? Yes. Have I lost hope? No.
So to all you nice guys....hang in there!! | |
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wayne
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Joined: 5/9/2003
Msg: 16 | |
| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/3/2005 7:56:43 AM | Thanks Hotbush ! Sorry to hear you've had it so bad. I guess I hit a nerve. Just calling things the way I see them. The thing is I have also seen the abuse women can get my dad was a womanizer and smacked mom around. I was getting into fights with him late at night at the old age of twelve on up to fourteen when he died. The night he died we had an arguement.
I will end my conversation on this subject with this lil piece of advise for the guys out there. Stop making excuses! Its not your fricken genes, its not the way you were raised, You aren't suffering from a lack of breast feeding as a child, or any of that pschyco Babble they give you its easier then that. Its all about right and wrong. We all live in a civilized society and its time to act accordingly. I saw abuse for a lot of years yet I have never laid a finger on a woman she didn't want on her. Its all about breaking a pattern not the gene pool. Right is Right and Wrong is Wrong. So get some help. | |
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| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 3/3/2005 8:18:09 AM | No offense was taken and I hope I wasn't too harsh.
It's called personal resposibility for our iwn actions.
Thanks Wayne | |
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| I still say it's genes
Posted: 3/3/2005 8:23:39 AM | | no offense to you and all wayne but I still say it's genes. of course you're entitled to your opinion, as am I. I still think that it's somewhat of a genetic thing. just like marie said about breaking patterns, patterns are made to be broken. genes are made to be altered and changed. | |
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| i like romantic guys.........
Posted: 3/3/2005 11:47:23 AM | hey, i like romantic guys.......but sometimes thier idea of romance is different from mine.....i love to have the door opened for me...the chair pulled out for me......but, please, puhleeeaze, dont tell me how to filet my fish, or clean my turtles, and no, you cant bait my hook for me................ | |
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| i like romantic guys.........
Posted: 3/3/2005 12:53:59 PM | Well put Lady,
I also enjoy the little courtesies!
Don't give me cut flowers>>>they die.
Do give me a potted plant>>>they grow and thrive with care.
Don't give me candy>>>I don't eat it.
Do call>>>just to say hello. | |
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| i like romantic guys.........
Posted: 3/3/2005 1:40:17 PM | | hey, tammy, i looooovvee candy........all kinds, even eye candy............heehehehee and if it comes in a nice romantic package, then thats even better.......... | |
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| i like romantic guys.........
Posted: 3/3/2005 2:02:43 PM | Yes you got me.....I do enjoy the eye candy! LOL
And as for a romantic package....well, we all like that don't we? he he he "evil" laugh | |
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| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 4/27/2005 10:12:34 AM | Hotbush - first of all kudos to you for going through all that garbage and still maintaining a positive attitude!
Although there are more than enough scum out there, yes, there are still nice, romantic guys as well. Don't lose faith! I guess the challenge is weeding out the good from the bad before it's too late.
Wouldn't it be nice if someone invented a reliable shmuck test? Walk into CVS and buy one over the counter. First date, administer the test - like a breathalizer, or something easy (I was thinking along the lines of a pregnancy test, but can you imagine asking a date "excuse me, can I have a urine sample?".) It shows a + for a nice guy/girl and a - if not.
Romance is not a lost art. | |
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| nice guys who are romantic?
Posted: 5/14/2005 4:21:10 PM | | quit whining, thats the problem with us nice guys, we whine to much. Just shut up about how no women want nice guys, be nice, be romantic, and DON'T WHINE, thats what they don't like. | |
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