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Are there any Single, Tall, employed guys in GR who can handle dating a plus sized African American Women?
IS there a group i should join? a secret handshake i missed when skimming the handbook? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 9:10:27 AM | Im from near the Grand Rapids area and would like to try and handle a plus sized African American Woman! Check me out and see what you think!
Tim | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 12:35:01 AM | No reply---hahahahahahahaha
Typical GR women.
Try answering some of your messages sweetie---try the ones you think are just OK, not the ones who tell you what you want to hear. You know---one of those hundreds of messages you have gotten but ignored.
A Grand Rapids woman has no business asking "where are the good men"? because, from my experiences, they put in no effort in finding them. They all want GQ guy--but he allready has a boyfriend. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 7:53:02 AM | See? How wrong of you.
I'd been around but not to check the responses here.
Typical? Hardly.
Im sorry that maybe some ladies from GR have burned you (Because you seem quite scorned!) However i don't think that statements like "A Grand Rapids woman has no business asking "where are the good men"? because, from my experiences, they put in no effort in finding them. They all want GQ guy--but he allready has a boyfriend. " are constructive.
Im a GR Girl, Not Born.. but still, I've lived her for a great deal of time now..
Now I could say..
"GR guys are all full of themselves...When clearly many of them have no reason to be.."
But that's not constructive. You seem angry..or very jaded if nothing else. If you need a shoulder to cry on.. Im here.. :)
-Sloan | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 7:58:19 AM | | HollandHunk, Tried to send you a message...Seems you don't care for girls who smoke.. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 12:12:21 PM | You may think I am scorned because I just spoke a truth--just like you did by saying GR guys are full of themselfs for no reason. Your right about that, I see it a lot more than where I grew up. I don't think it is a gender thing, I think we are usually products of our enviroment, and it is the way they were taught to conduct themselfs (dress up like a professional--but your really just an amature). I am not scorned because of GR women not knowing how to talk to people they don't know.--I feel sorry for them (speaking generally of course) because I am sure many of them are really very good people that deprive themself of oppertunity. I think it depends on what an individual considers "constructive". To me constructive is offering a different, but probably prudent perspective to shed some light on a subject. I don't consider things like tollerance and politically correctness very constructive since they usually give very little support to truly better change.
Will you ever meet the guy above who showed interest in you? If not---what will be the cause? | |
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Posted: 7/15/2006 12:33:36 PM | | I lived in GR but now Muskegon, Im not sure where the guys are, since i am never looking for those, but feel free to send me a message! | |
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Posted: 7/16/2006 9:01:00 PM | Truth should never sound like it's coming from a place of hurt...like it did with you.
And for me Constructive is something that others will only be open to really hearing and absorbing if they wern't offended.. Otherwise it's just some schmoe with a opinion flapping their gums. Constructive is keeping your audience open and focused..Which means that you need to be Tolerant and politically correct to reach most people..I don't see where that can harm your message..
If anything people can get away saying some really nasty things.. if packaged correctly..
Example :" Wow baby.. your ass is getting really really fat!! You need to start dieting..like..yesterday." (She gets pissed.. Burns all your clothes..and suffocates you in your sleep)
"You know what babe, I heard about this diet i really wanna put the family on.. maybe start walking.. I think it'll not only bond the family but we all will be healthier too.
(She sees you care for the family and it's wellbeing.. she drops 80 pounds.)
Basically said the same thing..without pointing a finger directly at her and snorting like a pig :) anywho..
I'd like to talk to him..see if we can connect..I doubt it though..
Im a occasional smoker..He doesn't seem to care for them...
Im not all about getting laid.. Many here are..Not saying -HE- Is..but in general.
Meeting people and not thinking about scoring a POA doesnt seem to rank high with guys these days. -Shrug- But at least I tried to make contact. | |
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Posted: 7/16/2006 9:33:47 PM | | WHATEVER, girls are more superficial than guys are. You simplysloan are just looken for tall guys with 6 packs. its an example today that girls like u have way too high standards. Sorry if i m coming off as harsh, but im just speaking the truth. We average guys always lose | |
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Posted: 7/16/2006 9:45:43 PM | Simply--you have been trained well. I don't know the intelect of the heavier women that you know--but I can tell you this. My old GF would see right through that line of BS with no problem. LOL. Are you talking to kids here---or may be just talking to people that have been trained well by a little thing I call "Social Engineering".
Now don't get me wrong. It is good to be nice to people, and I am good at it (even though it may not seem like it to some people on line). In fact--I think I may be better at it than most, because I answer all my mail somebody took the time to write to little ol me. I will talk to just about anybody that has anything of worth to say, or just being friendly, on line or in person--on the street--or even in a public bathroom. I can, and do, get along with a very very wide range of people. Probably more than anybody I know around here in GR. The city is full of "levels of society", and these people just don't feel comfortable exploring a level (what ever that is) that they are not used to. They put themselfs in a catagory, that does not exist, or think they are in a Richard (the filter delets the real first name)Devos level---like you said---for no reason.
It is good to treat people nicely--most of the time. Here is what I see happening. They get spoiled, and then get offended by any damn little thing. Then we all have to walk on egg shells for fear we may hurt their ultra sensitive feelings. Now everybody has things they are sensitive about. For me, it is my work, and people that ignore me simply because we don't agree on something--or don't like my stupid profile. The other end is having a thick skin (which diminishes when you get offended easily from being politically correct--thinking it is the way to go). If you have a bit of a thick skin, people don't have to talk to you like a little baby so you won't cry. It is good, IMO, to be both--nice--and have a bit of a thick skin. I don't think I said anything that was all that damn offensive--but I do think you have thin skin--at least here, you seem to.
Talking about the word seem. If he seems that he won't be with a smoker---why don't you find out for sure. It is in yours, and his, best interest to take the time and learn that. If he can't be with a smoker, he better have a health reason (like he is an asmatic)---or else he may be just a little thin skinned, politically correct, drone, that you would have to walk on egg shells around. What a chore. | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 6:13:11 AM | NOT TRUE!
I like tall guys.. yep I don't lie about it..Six pack? Nah.. Im a big girl.. a six pack would drive me crazy...I've dated Semi- Pro football players...Tall guys.. usually heavy with beer guts. :)
I think however you're right.. Girls -usually- are more superficial than guys.. hands down.. because -usually- not only are we trying to impress the guys.. we wanna impress the girls too..
I don't feel that im asking too much..I don't think im looking for a type of guy that's unreasonable..Tall..Unmarried..No Kids...Job..Car...Is that so bad? Im not asking for him to cart me all over michigan..and pay my way.. I make damn good money doing what i do.. I don't see how what im asking for is any different than guys who don't date fat girls..only date blondes...So on and so forth..
I wish i could just stick up pictures of my ex's.. Regular Joe blows..Pretty much. No where near model perfection..-laughs- nowhere!
Average guys tend to lose out because they lack the courage to not only approach a girl.. but to be themselves...I've noticed that some guys tend to put on a front.. (Hell girls do it too..) but to seem more manly when they do first approach...But I like a good average guy.. (As long as he's 6 foot or taller :) ) | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 6:31:37 AM | True.. that line was kinda weak...(More than kinda.)
Trained well?
See.. Im not like you..I don't reply to every message i get..if you're older..or after reading your profile i don't think we're a match then...i don't answer..I put what im looing for exactly in my profile..and would think that if you sent me a message.. then you read my profile.. Im pretty to the point.. and yet people still send stuff..and i ignore..we can all read, right?
Just like if i see a profile..and he's looking for barbie.. No need for me to waste my time.. cause barbie i aint. -laugh-
I would say i was thick skinned...What would make you say otherwise? | |
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Posted: 7/17/2006 12:36:24 PM | | Maybe there is a Group you can join. I'm a member of a GR group of BBW's and their Admirers. We meet at Pour Authors on Burlingame usually The 1th and 3 Sat's of the Month. I'm sure you'd be welcomed with open arms. Also I may not be 6ft. tall but I do love big beutifull Woman of your descent. The first girl I ever really Loved was Afro-American. And I've allways been attracted to BBW. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 8:34:16 AM | I attend alot of BBW functions around GR and Lansing. I attend the yahoo group that goes to Francos one a month.. I had a bad experience at Poor Arthurs..which resulted in knocking a guy down with my car.. (NO MEANS NO!)
So i tend to stay away. But hell, i'll give it a shot. My only qualm with BBW parties is that the guys tend to be really heavy. and two big people..just don't work. :)
I'll have to tap you on the shoulder if i see you there :) | |
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jaymz
| | Joined: 4/19/2004
Msg: 15 | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 9:42:37 AM | | yo sup? you must not be in my hood lol, what side of town you on? i'm near downtown, off leonard st, hit me up | |
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naterb
| | Joined: 4/21/2005
Msg: 16 | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 11:32:22 AM | I'm 10mins out side of GR. where you looking in bars for the guys? If you where that s a bad place to meet them a night! | |
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Posted: 8/1/2006 11:24:53 PM | ^^^^^^ cuterguy Msg: 10
Sounds like you've lived IN and figured out the social structure of GR the same as I do/have!
I have never lived in such a BS town where people are so UNaccepting of anyone/thing outside of their own "box" so to speak and/or where they are so snoby that it makes my head hurt!
This freekin place drives me absolutely nuts when it comes to the self-rightous ultra conservitive down lookers & hypocrites that manifest within! A common decent man of avg. wealth/job (50k per yr) and avg. home (150k) and avg. non GQ looks/perfect body not full of over-rated/over played "values" who's not as you say "a thin skinned, politically correct drone" doesn't have a chance around here with these freekin stuckup holier than thou wanna be women!!
Believe me, I've been here long enough to know the game - it's "EVERYWHERE" around here, and even worse yet - I live in Rockford at the moment!! lol
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Posted: 8/2/2006 4:52:18 AM |
I don't feel that im asking too much..I don't think im looking for a type of guy that's unreasonable..Tall..Unmarried..No Kids...Job..Car...Is that so bad? Im not asking for him to cart me all over michigan..and pay my way.. I make damn good money doing what i do.. I don't see how what im asking for is any different than guys who don't date fat girls..only date blondes...So on and so forth
I think the only real pet peeve i have about this site is that people are sooooooooooo quick to judge others by calling them shallow. Yanno what? People like who and what they like. If someone likes tall men,,,hey thats great (i happen to like tall men too). If someone happens to like only bbw's with blonde hair and pink ribbons on their hair,,,,,,,,far out,,enjoy. If someone happens to like people who wear poindextor glasses and rainbow suspenders,,,yee haa! Who cares?? Ya like who ya like and thats just the way tis is. Doesnt mean he/she wouldnt gravitate to something different if the oppurtunity and the chemistry was there,,,,but poeple DO have preferences and no one should belittle anyone for them!! To each their own folks!! | |
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Posted: 8/3/2006 8:51:42 AM | Ripley65- RIGHT ON!
The minute you put your likes out there, thoes who don't fit in freak out. -shrug- My motto is "It is, what it is." But like you said, if something catches my attention that doesn't fit into what i "Usually" like and chemestry is going i'll go for it..Im not closed minded.. Not your typical GR girl from the sounds of it. -smirk-
Question: You see a guy or Girl at the bar.. They stare all night.. You smile, do the whole eye contact deal...They never walk over though..So you just assume they're looking at someone else..(HIGHLY UNLIKELY) At the end of the night He/She walks over and says...
"If I wern't so shy i'd would have liked to get to know you." and walks off before you can answer.
WTF is that?!
Now granted. I have pink hair.. and a full sleeve im working on People usually stare for that fact alone. But WOW! I looked at my girlfriend and was like.. "Damn..That's crazy" | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 4:17:56 PM | gurl i know what u mean belive me im a big woman myself and all these men in gr are lazy but at least we got meat on our bones unlike these woman that are skinny and they can fit into anythin they want. but hey we are just like them but a little bigger trust me i gets mine and gurl pour aurthers suck so do go their go to gail wood their is fine men their that like bigger gurls like us | |
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Posted: 8/15/2006 8:50:04 PM | so where are the women that like the guys with some meat on their bones? or should i say the women that dont mind if guys are shorter with meat on their bones? i just cant seem to bring myself to wear platform shoes to get a date!!! | |
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Posted: 8/16/2006 9:11:03 AM | Thanks greeeeyes.
That is the general concencious with a lot of peoeple who have not grown up here from the people I talked to.--man---your in Stepford??---aummm--errr Rockford? Damn---I would shoot myself in the head. Good thing you ride off road to clear your head.
But--I do have some very good native friends from here--so of course there are acceptions. I think most of the women here are looking for a shirt tail to hang on to. May be they should have stuck with their marriage. Was the marriage really as bad as going on line for a date? hehe
Simply--I don't think your looking for anything unreasonable, and I hope you hit it. What is your personal-non biased reason for you single in this town? (say it from the gut please) I have my reasons, and understandings for myself--but I may be wrong.
I know you have expressed to yourself something like----- "What is with all the darn metrosexual guys in this area" "I want a freaking man--and all these women in this area, with their ferry tail dreams have slowly but surely ruined them all" I don't want a man that is about two weeks away from ovulating" I know your smileing Simply big right now. :)
I stomached about 10 min of a sit com (that is suppose to be funny) called "sex and the city". Four beautifull, smart women that can't find a date. They overanalyze the crap out of everything, and actually talk them selfs into being single.--What a pethedic show. I think a lot of women here are like that, accept here, they are divorced at least twice, with several kids to take care of and a $30,000 job. Now there is nothing wrong with that (accept the divorced twice thing is not to hot)--but really--these ladies don't know their place in their own manufactured "Social level". They would not dream of dating a guy that works just as hard (if not harder---because we are flat chested--hehe) for what he gets, so they know they can work together to achieve just about anything---it's nutz. 
Anyway Simply--I think your fine, and your confusion is not developed by any problems you have that I can see. I don't think I would date you (and visa versa I am sure), but I would have a drink with you and shoot the poop. One thing I see different about you from tjhe population around here, is that you don't have a problem discussing a different opinion with somebody. That is a great trait--and it only makes ya more wise. The need for the native people to "fit in" here in GR is so great---they sacrifice their own minds to do so. | |
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