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Posted: 7/8/2006 11:46:35 AM | | it's so sad that the resulting search of "Has kids: No." is so tiny on here... I wonder why this site in particular attracts the single moms more than it does the single non-moms... | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 11:54:04 AM | I don't have children and not sure if and when I'll ever have any.
Your question is very easily answered.A lot of moms don't have a lot of time to go out,many are staying at home to be with the kids.Internet and especially this site offers them a form of entertainment and an easy way to meet potential dates without the cost of a sitter,night out.
I think it's wonderful they have this venue . | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 12:13:32 PM | and i can understand that...
but it would be stupid to assume that only women with children access the internet... i'm just curious why the majority on this site are like that... what is the attraction here (or the deterrant for those without children?) | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 12:19:35 PM | Not only single parents access th enet,who said that?
It's a great past time,not everyone is into going out and being felt up by passing drunken people.This site allows you to talk with many people from all over.
Why are you here Luckytopher? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 12:22:56 PM | let me rephrase
1) we know that both single moms and single non-moms access the net
2) it is apparent via searches that the vast majority of the women on this site are single moms
i'm trying to figure out the correlation between this site in particular
why am i here? i wouldn't mind making a few friends (of which i'm not particular about whether or not they have children) but i also won't turn down a valid, worthy dating opportunity (though i don't date women with children) | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 12:32:48 PM | Most people in our age bracket have children and sadly enough failed relationships.
The stats are against us in any entertainment venue.Go to a bar,most are parents and alone or married and acting alone.I know women my age 30 plus have at least 2 kids or more.I'm considered the abnormal one for not having a cauldron of little witches.
I too prefer to date non parents. | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 12:36:46 PM | I like dating moms since they are so passionate and worthy enough that someone wanted them for children. There is something so kind and nurturing and grounded about them and yet wildly passionate like they know exactly what a man is for.
(It can be a massive challenge because the kids sometimes resent the new man, and are afraid he will hog the mom or even take her away.)
P.S. BROOM HILDA we men on another thread are starting a thread on just you, and how your beauty is a life giving force. We all want to look at your pics so we can fire up our lives and be full of energy | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 1:33:04 PM | | It would be nice if "living at home" or "left the nest" were available options ! | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 1:35:52 PM | You men will have your asses kicked by me if you do that.I do not ever want to be the center of attention or anyones bone of contention.
Princess Leigh or whatever her name is may have lots of things causing her to be mean.I may have been her scapegoat,her way of venting.It can't be easy being a single mom and fat in an age where the onus is on being slim.Some people need to vent on strangers on a site from the safety of their homes.I'm sure if she shared a drink with me maybe she'd see past the blonde hair and the slim fit.I'm no better and certainly no worse than her or anyone else here.We are looking for friends and ultimately that one ever lasting love.Maybe we need to spread more sun then shit in this site.Ok.So please don't make me a scapegoat or the object of attention.I do ok on my own .
On topic:Everyone needs a past time,moms,singles ,fat,skinny,all colors of the rainbow.This site allows us all to meet and befriend.
We all have our reasons for being here.Does it really matter what they are? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 2:07:17 PM | | You know, being a single mom isn't ever good for the dating life. Even if I was a "club" person, I still wouldn't have the desire or energy to go. And although I respect every person's decision about whether or not to date a single parent, it's difficult to not become bitter towards those who judge because of my single mom status before getting to know me. My daughter's father waived his rights completely, so I don't have that type of drama in my life. And even though I'm not naive enough to think drama is the only reason men shy away from single moms, I do feel that it contributes. We all have things we look for in someone we date. But there are also compromises. I refuse to let go of someone fabulous because he has a child, or because he's divorced, or because he used to be an assassin...lol...you know what I mean? | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 2:50:36 PM | | drama has never been a concern of mine when dating someone with a kid... there are other, valid reasons/points... i won't get into them as i generally get bashed (basically for having my own personal standards/requirements/opinions) though they are well thought out... what it boils down to is that dating single moms isn't for me... i've tried it.. several times.. and the same results happen.. not just with her but also with me mentally/emotionally... by actually saying i won't date a woman with children, i'm saving other women the pain of dealing with a relationship that ends up nowhere because of my views... | |
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Posted: 7/8/2006 3:17:29 PM | | As I said, I totally respect that luckytopher. It's great that you know that about yourself. And also like I said, I realize drama is not the only reason for not dating a single mom. Believe me, I know what's involved in dating a single parent. I wish every guy knew whether or not they could handle dating a single mom. It would save me a whole lot of time. I totally agree with having personal standards/requirements/opinions...don't we all have those? I mean, I don't date smokers. Ever. I don't care if he's the most gorgeous, fabulous guy I've ever laid eyes on. The standard sticks. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 6:08:10 AM | put any person into the right relationship and with time, kids will become a part of it.
well thats kind of how all us seperated/divorced parents started out right?
we thought we were in the right relationship!
so to be a single parent, male or female, yup! it can take a fair bit of juggleing to even just get time to meet someone. let alone someone who is genuinely ok with thier situation.
at the moment, i'm kind of leaning toward a woman that does have children, perhaps for the exact opposite reasons some blokes feel the need to go for childless women.
just a thought..... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 6:34:25 AM | I used to be a single parent and if I still were the two things that would make me use this site would be that the population on here is high which would increase my chances of meeting someone AND it is FREE. Most single moms need to keep all the money in their pockets that they can | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 7:01:01 AM | Luckytopher,
Women with children are not just trying to find a mate for themselves, but also a man who can provide a good example for her children. By looking on the net they are seeing a broader spectrum of availible men with whom something might click.
Also, many women with children are left by men because they are not ready for daddyhood, and thus the mommy is alone.
It's hard being a single mom, working, keeping house, raising children, and sometimes finances are somewhat limited, so they cant afford a babysitter every night to go on the prowl to find a man, so they do it here.
You are probably looking for a gorgeous, young, single woman without children and ya know what?..........women like that dont NEED a site like this for dating..........they can find a man anywhere. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 10:46:19 AM | Why is it wrong if single women with no kids use a site like this.I don't NEED it to get a date.I had a date last night and we met at a friend's.The reason for using a site like this (for me) is two fold.One,I enjoy the forums,two,I'm moving soon and it gives me a chance to talk to potential friends in Edmonton.
This is a great site where young,old,married,single,parents,non parents,fat,slim can enjoy the company of strangers till they become friends. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 11:10:12 AM | | single non-moms have no different use... many are tired of the bar scene, the clubs, the typical pick-ups, etc and try online dating... and if you visit any other site you'll see there are quite a few... my point (again) was that the quantity on THIS site is larger than normal | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 11:23:05 AM | | there is a large amount of single moms on this site which is one of the reasons i use it, as a single dad i am more attracted to single moms since we have more in common. I think tex has the answer though. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 11:26:55 AM | | This site is free and it has the forums.There ya go. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 1:46:06 PM | | Ahhhh! I have a simple answer for you darlin'. The deterrant for those without children is the simple fact that single women without kids can easily go out on the drop of a hat and meet people, where as for single moms cannot. Single moms still have to deal with the childrens social activities, such as soccer, and tball, and school, and if they are sick, most likely the moms aren't going out on a date. If the single moms have their priorities straight, their kids will come first. I personally prefer to date single fathers because they do understand how sometimes you have to cancel a date because something else is going on with the kiddos. And they also know how difficult it is to balance everything out. I remember right after my divorce, I didn't even try to date men for 5 years because I just didn't have the time or the energy, (nor the interest for that matter). So that is your answer, single women are out their LIVING their lives (going to social events, going out with their friends, going to the bars, etc,)instead of sitting in front of a computer for hours on end. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 2:03:45 PM | | This site does seem to teem with yummy mummies. Single mothers are great; however, playing daddy and providing support for a child that is not my own is a terrifying prospect. The allure of exploring parenthood as a mutually unchartered area (should that ever happen) is too strong and there would possibly be unpleasant child support baggage: 'How I hate the slimy **stard!' issues to listen to as the ex drops by on weekends for visitation privileges. | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 2:14:45 PM | There are some pretty good points on both sides here, my question is where do women wanted to be met. The bars and clubs are out, church is not that good, and chuck y cheese just makes me crazy. As a single dad I spend more time with my 9 yo daughter than adults. not because I want to but because I have to. So we see women with kids the age of our own and like the way they treat their kids and would like to know them but then your a monster for hitting on a mom that is stressed... is there really an answer? or do we just wait till our kids are grown and then try to remember what it was we wanted in the first place | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 3:42:04 PM | well miss ladybug,
i tried to send ya a message here and it says tyou're not accepting messages from my gendre, hmmm..... | |
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Posted: 7/9/2006 6:52:29 PM | | all of you single moms out there, give this single dad a chance!! | |
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