| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/9/2006 1:46:31 PM | | Why is it that on this website there seems to be an epidemic of 40+ men hitting on (trying to talk to) young women ? I am 25 and I get a least 2 messages everyday that are from men 40+ and quite a few IMs. Even when I put a age limit in my profile (22-32)...I still get so many? Any one else have this happen to them? | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/9/2006 6:31:38 PM | So I guess it's that we have older members of one sex feeling they can find what they want in sizeably younger members of the opposite sex? Give them time, they'll learn. Often it's just a matter of getting up in the morning and trying to converse with their partner du jour. That usually does it.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/9/2006 6:40:32 PM |
Why is it that on this website there seems to be an epidemic of 40+ men hitting on (trying to talk to) young women ? I am 25 and I get a least 2 messages everyday that are from men 40+ and quite a few IMs. Even when I put a age limit in my profile (22-32)...I still get so many? Any one else have this happen to them?
Epidemic? You sound like it's the plague.
Men find you desireable and wish to say 'hi' or get to know you. What the heck is wrong with that?
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/9/2006 7:02:55 PM | There's nothing wrong with it at all, violetskye -- not until one of the 2 people has a problem with what they perceive as the problems of large age gaps. Not everyone has this problem, you apparently being an example of this. But what you've read in here are mostly posts by those that aren't too comfortable with this, myself also being one of these people. Hey, to each their own ... but not when they are bothering others.
To put it in another perspective, I'm an older guy, quite a bit older than you. And I assure you I don't rock. Would be closer to roll, I would say.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 12:20:23 AM | | Bizaare, I get exactly the opposite problem........"20 something" women sending me mail. Gimme a break, a 20 year old wanting to meet a 50+? I delete with out even looking. Almost certainly Eastern Europe or SW Africa. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 7:33:19 AM | I have to agree you are a lovely lady but just go in and change your settings and it will eliminate the problem. you do state for talk and email so there may be some just doing that. Now I am not saying all but some. See I don't have a problem with age gaps however I set my own limits on younger women. I also have quite a few friends that are in thier twenties and thirties and we talk all the time. as far as dating them no I wouldn't just because they are friends. To me this type of friend is not the same as becoming friends with someone I have additional feelings for. for in any relationship there has to be friendship first no matter what.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 9:38:29 AM | Scenario:
Let me make a possible scenario for you unorthodoxchic. I read your profile and -- this is not about me, let me stress this -- but let's say I'm an art history major, interested in graphic design and play a few tunes on the weekends with a weekend band. I'm just over 40 (I wish!), a fairly decent guy and looking for someone just to talk to, let things happen as they may. I'm in here one day, pass your pic and find you attractive (which you are, no big deal, lots of attractive people in the world ... you're just one of them) so I go to your profile to have a look. I start reading down the page, see the Buffalo location (that's good, close by), read the education you have (that's real good, like that a lot), see the graphic arts, art history interests, all the rest and next thing you know, I'm writing you an e-mail just to talk to you 'in person' just to find out more about you -- some people (like me) are impulsive that way. I never got as far as your age restriction because the wish to talk with you had happened long before that. And this wasn't some sleazy sort of thing, couldn't be bothered reading a profile, or anything so demeaning as that. You had my interest long before I got to the end, so I reacted to it.
See where I'm coming from here? ... how it might not be such a bad thing that you've got an e-mail from someone a lot older. The intentions could have been quite decent. And I know this is a possible scenario as I have e-mailed women before where I've never got to the About me part of their profile -- their interests section was so much like me, I was amazed. I've sent e-mails to comment on a forum post that rang a bell with me without ever looking at their profile. And I haven't got any bad responses from any of it, and yes of course, I've always gone back and read the full profiles and all their forum posts if the response was positive.
You're obviously a very intelligent woman, so I write this to appeal to this intelligence to not automatically assume that all contacts like this are bad. If they really bother you (as they seem to), adjust your mail filter settings to the desired age range and stop the problem before it ever arises. The above scenario wouldn't happen if the mail setting stopped the e-mail from being sent.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 9:50:13 AM | Never hurts to try....so people (men and women alike) do.
Just say no thanks and leave it at that; HOWEVER....
...IMO, if you were serious about not wanting the attention,
you would put restrictions on your mail.
Seems like more of an attention getter thread unless you really believe
that men hitting on younger women is something new.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 9:51:31 AM | | Great advice cdn guy. Yet, I'm thinking she isn't looking for advice or opinions of what she should do, or she would not be so defensive on her settings. Sounds to me like another fish who just wants the attention and a chance for the age group she is seeking to see her profile. Nice try. Evidently it's working and I notice she still hasn't changed her settings after nearly two days. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 10:04:28 AM | ^^^^ Yes, Charlie Girl ... that is definitely a possibility, although I think I'd hesitate to jump to that conclusion until I knew for sure. The "not adjusting the mail settings yet" issue is a bit of a puzzle. Let's just say then that I'll address my "scenario" to anyone that may have come to this thread with the same problem (and, I suspect, there are many) and hope that it might do some good.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 11:19:48 AM | i can understand the resistance to change the email settings since I have none on mine. I have received several emails from ladies quite a bit younger. I just look at it as hey an ego booster to some degree. then I get my head back on straight. I know what I want and I know quite a few ladies from POF that has caught my attention. have to say tho that most are in thier 40s and late thirties. have even seen some in thier 50s that have caused me a second look. theres nothing wrong with talking to a younger woman as long as she has no objection. to give an example there is a lady in POF that I have known for over five years now she is 30 and I am the one that told her of POF. she is a very dear friend. age is not a factor when there is just conversation if the age factor is an issue with someone. I for one have quite well passed the 40 mark and the fifty mark as well.
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/10/2006 12:04:58 PM |
if you were serious about not wanting the attention, you would put restrictions on your mail. Seems like more of an attention getter thread ...
I totally agree.
you're not mentally mature enough to be on here
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/11/2006 12:05:07 AM | | To each their own.However,It is quite the phenomenom that you do see 20-something women with well-to-do guys in their 50's.I think in situations such as these,each party understands what they want/need out of the relationship.Me,i'm an 'age is just a number','you don't find love,it finds you' type of person/philosophy.It's about souls-love knows no bounds,it can hit you at anytime,at almost any age.The romantic type of love,that is.I know that's a double-standard,that's life,it is what it is,blah,blah-Seriously,why is this question even being discussed?An older guy wanting to date a younger woman is considered a dirty old man,while female schoolteachers are molesting their male students and that's supposed to be 'cool'?I'm lost on this one. | |
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| What is it about men 40+ trying to talk to young women
Posted: 7/11/2006 6:37:01 AM | An older guy wanting to date a younger woman is considered a dirty old man,while female schoolteachers are molesting their male students and that's supposed to be 'cool'?I'm lost on this one.
I guess I miss the memo that stated these schoolteachers were cool. As a matter of fact I think some of these ladies actually got jail time, so I don't think the jury thought it was cool either. | |
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