| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:16:38 PM | I hope guys chime in too so that I can find out if I'm alone here.
I've had a few dates with this girl, but this situation has cropped up in other relationships. Anyway, she has no problem telling people how she feels if they are intruding on our space. For example, if someone is on a cell phone right by us gabbing, she'll say "Do you mind?", or if we are at the theater and some gang bangers are drinking and talking nearby she will say something to them about it, or if some huge parolee type who has a pit bull that gets near her with it's wet and muddy body she will tell the guy to get his dog "out of here!".
So, most of these things don't bother me too much, but more importantly, they are not hills I want to die on. Frequently, I can kick the guy's ass (and the girls') if they start mouthing off in response to her statements, and some of the guys she says stuff too I believe it would be a close fight (it could go either way), but occassionally (with gang bangers, etc) the situation is hopeless. We're going down and hard. Scary stuff. I don't want to tell this girl my fears, so I was thinking about packing a gun (provided I can get a permit). What do you think?
I'm truely not a wu$$. Also, i think she is correct to stand up for her rights in public (and people are ruder than ever), but I suspect it will be me who actually will have to do the "standing." Anyway, I would like to be the one to pick the hill I die on. Know what I mean? Any suggestions? Thanks. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:20:18 PM | msg 1.. nope
both me and bf
have permits to carry...
not a problem here in the states.
Both of us know how to use them too
if your not licensed... then
you shouldnt carry one.. or you might hurt yourself
or someone will take it away from you
and pistol whip you. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:32:06 PM | Hey Supernatural,
Your girl is right to tell people when they are being rude. However, not in potentially dangerous situations. I have three solutions for you:
1) Tell her to be careful around thugs. Especially if she does this when you are not around.
2) carry a gun -- and be prepared to cause serious injury or death -- and face the consequences
3) carry a stungun or pepper spray -- something non lethal, that you dont need a permit for.
Brother, it isnt fear you are dealing with... its street smarts. You have 'em, and she doesnt. Maybe both of you need to carry some defensive equipment.
Peace! | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:32:22 PM | | Well I'm in Canada and we have different gun law here. And yes, I would mind. I don't think it's being a wuss to tell your g/f to simmer down. If she is mouthing off to people and you actually feel that she could be potentially putting you in danger.... I would tell her. Plus, shooting someone or getting shot because your g/f can't keep her mouth shut I don't think is a very good reason. How can you justify it. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:33:53 PM | Nope, I don't mind someone who has a CCW permit to legally carry a weapon. But I'd prefer someone who has the sense to use foresight inregards to all the ramifications good and bad of using a weapon especially in a public venue.
There is a saying "Don't start none, won't be none". One day girlie is going to write a check her butt, your own or anyone else with her at the time she shows out is not going to be able to cash. My guess is after a major incident goes down that requires police intervention you may find yourself on a hot tin roof, if they deem you as a couple started the incident.
Just some things to think about before trying to obtain a CCW permit. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:37:56 PM | first I would tell her that she should be more carfull with groups. size and skill dont matter if there are to many. second hell ya carry a gun, just be carefull when you play that card.
if you tell her about the groups thing and she gets in your face or calls ya a wuss, i know it sounds bad but the next time she mouths off to a woman (that you think she could beat) let her fight. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:39:52 PM | I would definitly mind if my husband carried a weapon.. We're both anti gun citizens so luckily I don't have to worry about that. Now i do wonder if more Americans are for their partner having a gun then us Canadians...or is it about equal.( That is not a Slam to anyone..just a curious question..I do know alot of Canadians have guns as well i was just wondering if the consensus seems that way)
I wasn't raised around guns..none of my family were hunters..I've never even seen a real gun up close before or held one...I guess it's all in if you were brought up around it or not to wether you would be comfortable with it.. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:40:39 PM | | Thanks. I should mention that she isn't disrespectful, just direct. If she was yelling or being a bithc I wouldn't even go out with her. Anyway, she does seem a bit naive about danger. These days though, even a polite request to stop can frequently lead to extreme retaliation. These days, even a nerd who I could whip can be packing. sux. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:41:12 PM | I would start by not interacting with people who frequent that type of environment, if there's no dog, there's no rabies.
If I think I may find myself involve in a situation like that involuntarily, then I would learn how to defend myself without the need to do something illegal.
In confronting a person with a gun, the situation is hopeless if you don't know what to do when being in an inferior condition; a bullet can make a hole on your body that can cause death, that's IF it reaches you, and or if you give enough time for the person to reach for that gun.
There are ways to defend yourself far more dangerous than a gun, which are not illegal. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:41:45 PM | IMHO she doesn't have any common sense - why risk antagonizing someone who could potentially harm you? And frankly, if I had to consider ARMING myself because of the company I keep? Definitely something wrong there.
Also - There's a time and place for everything, and you can't teach adults manners and respect. Its only impressionable children this has an effect on. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 4:52:40 PM | | I'd tell this girl to simmer down before she gets you both beaten up or killed. If she thinks you're being a wuss, too bad. I'm a big guy and can handle myself - but I didn't get to 30 without getting beaten up because of my size, I got here because I can keep my mouth shut in situations I'm not physically able to control. I wouldn't want someone putting me in a situation I can't handle, which is where your girl is going to end up putting you if you're not careful. Violence begets violence - don't go down that path, it's a long road to nowhere happy. You could end up with someone's death on your conscience and potentially on the wrong end of a criminal trial for murder one - even if you were in the right. Are you willing to put yourself in that position because of your girl's inability to keep her mouth shut? | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:16:36 PM | I don't remember telling anyone I was against firearms. In fact I have owned many over the years and am very skilled in using them.
I was commenting on the reason he was asking the question - scared his girl is going to get him killed for opening her big yap...and to my mind, better to cease the behaviour than pay the price for the consequences of her actions! | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:24:25 PM | I suppose "the street" is a bit more dangerous in the US then, such that maybe my concerns seem outragious to canadians.
Regarding the girl. I tried to emphasize that she is polite and not a bithc in her requests regarding offensive behavior. The thing is I would tell people who were offending me to stop the behavior if i was alone. I suspect she would do the same, but the issue is that she makes the decision to say things in my presence which circumvents my ability to make the judgment call as to danger. Pretty subtle stuff and hard to talk to a girl about. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:28:13 PM | | I think the first thing to be done is what fellow repliers have stated: Tell her to quiet down! She's doing the mouthing off and you're the one who's going to have to get into the brawl about it? That's not cool at all. If she's lipping off gangsters and huge burly redwoods with hair I think you should really re-think being out in public with her before you consider getting yourself a gun. I wouldn't be with a guy who carried a concealed weapon, myself. Too much potential for something to go drastically wrong. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:43:01 PM | | Even though you say she isn't being a **** I feel that she is acting passive agressive. She is putting both of you in danger needlessly. If she has a problem with someone in an establishment that is what management is for. For her to tell strangers that they need to stop the behavior that she finds offensive is just asking for trouble. As to the gun issue my late husband wanted to carry as we have the right to carry and I was adamently against it, in my view guns can only escalate a problem. My question to you is, is she worth your doing time if you are convicted for shooting someone by accident because of her mouth? | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 5:54:05 PM | I can respect the fact that she values her space and is willing to defend it. I do to, but sometimes, I find it easier to remove myself from the situation all together. If I'm in a theater and thugs are being roudy, I'd relocate myself to a different area. Sometimes looking at someone wrong is enough to set them off.
We do have our share of violence in Canada too, but no not to the same extent as in some States. But I think that if your carrying a gun (and in my case it would be illegal unlike yours) it would only enhance a situation to a different level of danger, and it all could of been avoided. | |
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| Girls, would you mind if your guy carried a concealed weapon?
Posted: 7/9/2006 6:22:37 PM | maybe get some sort of education prior to dating, ur use of whatever language ur using, some kinna white wanna b african jargon really makes u sound childish
learn to write b4 ya waste time making a thread it really is quite lame reading kiddy chat
goito school if u need a weapon then yes u are a wuss and u get what u deserve
personally if it was my sister dating a dork that talked like u do hed b down the road in a heartbeat | |
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