| Does age matter?
Posted: 7/15/2004 3:32:38 AM | | I'm 19 and I'm dating a 35 year old. Is this too much of an age difference? | |
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/15/2004 6:28:31 AM | my personal thought is yes
but if your in love and he treats you right then i guess its ok. make yourself happy | |
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Posted: 7/15/2004 6:29:44 AM | Well I'll be honest it won't be easy now or in the future... that 16 years between you which is nearly your age now.
But that's not to say it's impossible either... I have a freind who is now 30 and she started dating a 38 year old when she was 18 and they're happily married still to this day.
Good luck
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/15/2004 8:00:33 AM | | Im still learning age is just a number ask me in about 10 years. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2004 8:07:56 AM | | It depends on the people and their maturity. There's some 19 year olds that act about 15, but there are some that act like adults and the same goes with 38 year olds. If you love the guy and you honestly have stuff in common and enjoy each other's company I see nothing wrong with it. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2004 8:27:23 AM | It will be a pain when you are in your late 30's though trust me... I have trouble keeping up with women that age and I'm 27.. couldn't picture trying in my 50's
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Posted: 7/15/2004 12:58:42 PM | | Tickettoride i'm confused, first you say there's nothing wrong with it but then you say you wouldn't go 15 years below your age so which is it? | |
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rjn40
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Joined: 2/15/2004
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/15/2004 1:45:47 PM | | if it works then great, but things go bad in relatoinships even if the two are the same age. I dont think age should matter at all, as long as you dont go too far with it, like a 40 yrs old with a minor or something sick like that.. keep it legal, but age is just a number... | |
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Posted: 7/15/2004 2:04:30 PM | | What I might consider wrong, and what I prefer are not the same thing. I cannot tell you what you should prefer, but it certainly isn't wrong. | |
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Posted: 7/15/2004 5:47:31 PM | | My last significant other was alot younger than me...I was 35 and was told he was 29....I was 3 months pregnant before I found out he was only 18 ( Dami just about had a heart attack right about here)....in the end it wasn't the age difference that broke us up...it was more the 'country girl v.s. the guy from down town vancouver' thing. We found that people that were closer to my age were quite fine with our age difference, but people his age were very opposed to it. This caused alot of problems for him with his peers. | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/16/2004 3:15:44 AM | Sara, in my opinion you are cheating yourself.
A 35 year old will have already have had numerous relationships and maybe has children to support. He could even be hiding a wife.
Some older men like younger woman because they need their Ego boosted constantly. Woman their own age find this needy and unattractive in a mate.
You, I am assuming, has had limited experience dealing with "wolves in sheeps clothing". You have doubts yourself or you wouldn't have asked about the age difference. Trust your instints";-)
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Posted: 7/16/2004 3:31:38 AM | | He has been married but he is divorced. He doesn't have any kids. I know he is telling the truth about these things because I work with a lot of people that know him. | |
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Ruby_
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Joined: 7/10/2004
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/16/2004 5:16:19 PM | You are welcome Sara ":-)
I still hope you don't pursue the relationship. It could make you old before your time ":-( | |
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/17/2004 7:01:18 AM | hi sara,
i think age does matter but i don't think that the relationship will not last just because of on age difference, my boyfriend is 33 and i am 19, it can work but your guy sounds like he's a bit different to my situation my boyfriend was never married and never had to go through the process of divorce which can change peoples opinions about life and loving again.
it depends on his attitude to life if he thinks and feels on the same level as you thats fine .
but if he is old fashioned he could make you old before your time and you'll regret staying with him.
i went through a phase with my boyfriend of constantly pointing out the difference , but when i realised i really love him , i don't even think about age anymore.
if you love him stay by all means , otherwise give yourself a chance with someone slightly younger or you might regret it | |
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/17/2004 5:51:47 PM | Do I think age matters? Well sometimes it does and other times it doesn’t. For the most part that is up to the individuals in the relationship. In your case I do think that it is too much of an age difference just for the reason that you two are in very different points in your life. Have you talked it over with your family or have they met him as of yet?
Have you two talked about where you both want this relationship to go or where do you see it heading? You left a lot of questions left unanswered, why not spend some time talking to him to get all the answers out in the open. I think that is a good start.
Good Luck to you!
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Posted: 7/17/2004 9:15:30 PM | | I think you need to follow your heart and stop allowing the "what ifs" to cloud your judgement. Life is about taking calculated risks if you are to reach your full potential. This includes in romance and love. Age is just one factor of many in relationships. After reading over each persons advice there are good points to consider but if you weigh it too much into one category you may talk yourself out of something that could be a blessing. I think the best thing for you to do is get quiet within yourself. Perhaps a short getaway. When your soul is quiet then your heart will speak to what is best. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2004 2:45:42 AM | Age don't matter. By now you know I have to "rent" women. I've been with 18's all the way to 20's and 30's. Maybe a couples of 40's. As I'm getting older, probably somehow I'll end up with older ladies. I will see them as ok and beutifu. Not that I don't think of them as that.
Naw, age don't matter at all. Just be healthy and think young. | |
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/19/2004 11:37:00 AM | I wouldn't date anyone with an age and a shoe size in common...
Unless she was great but had size 22 feet......hmmmm
Do big feet on women mean the same as they do on men? | |
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Posted: 7/19/2004 12:53:52 PM | | Lol.. no woman's show size doesn't mean anything like with men. And that's hardly ever accurate with men anyway. But what did you mean you wouldn't date someone with an age and shoe size in common? | |
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| Re: Does age matter?
Posted: 7/19/2004 1:38:35 PM | If a womans shoe size resembled her (acting) age.....you know
9 longs
12 slim
um....uh....eh....Well darnit I forgot whewre I was going with that.
heard a great comment on last nights
6 Feet Under
Reason for Vaginal Reconstructive Surgery = "Nobody want to F*ck a glass of water!"
Now that is funny... (however off topic) | |
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