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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:17:12 AM | You havent known each other long, and the worst case scenario you find out you are preganant.
What would you do, question for both men and women...
And no i aint...... | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:20:01 AM | | hard to say unless your there.... | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:23:14 AM | 1) Tell the dad and let him know he has the option of staying or going
2) Have the baby and raise him or her with all the love I have raised my first two children. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:23:31 AM | | eesh.. flashback - discuss what options are available, and have an input in her decision, but ultimately the decision is hers and should be supported either way. If you're having sex and the woman ultimately gets pregnant, that's a responsability that you have. If you aren't going to be there in case she decides to carry a pregnancy to term, you have no business having sex in the first place. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:23:48 AM | Just can't imagine someone hardly knowing a person and yet they are having unprotected sex without contraception. What is up with that? Or did the pill and condom both fail just that one time.......at band camp?
Oops.......looks like my nasty sarcastic side took over.....but then really.....how on earth could this happen in the 21st Century?
*EDIT* Forgive me...I know how it happens....just don't think anyone who would be that careless should be dealing with such influential decisions and responsibility. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:44:44 AM | Tell the guy but don't expect him to jump with hapiness. Maybe he will, maybe he won't. Just don't raise your hopes too high. Also, raise the kid with all the love you have to give.
~*Flavia*~ | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 11:55:40 AM | | Be honest and tell the guy, but prepare yourself for ALL reactions he could give you, from being ecstatic and excited to being a complete jerk and telling you it's not his. Best to have yourself ready for any type of reaction than leaving yourself open and unprepared. Communicate about all the choices, and be honest about those you will not entertain. And don't let him bully you into making a decision you don't want to make. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 12:00:32 PM | | NOthing you can do except inform him and make a decision and hope it is supported. Best to be upfront about everything including expectations. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 12:02:08 PM | The man has a right to know, and the right to have a say in what happens.
I would talk to him and see where that takes us. Hard to say without being there. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 12:04:04 PM | msg 5
you must be psychic
cuz you read my mind ! | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 2:05:27 PM | | I would tell the father see how he feels and go from there. If he does not want the child but I do then I decide whether or not I am willing to raise a child alone, if he wants the child but I don't then he has the option of whether or not he wants to raise the child alone or not, if you both do not want the child then you make your decision accordingly. I am a big believer that the father has the right to know so try to include them in that part of the decision as well. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 2:45:41 PM |
Forgive me...I know how it happens....just don't think anyone who would be that careless should be dealing with such influential decisions and responsibility.
The pill gives some women excruciating migraines....and condoms do sometimes break. If you don't believe me, check out my profile~son #1 is the best surprise I ever had! I didn't think so the day I found out I was pregnant, but I'm so glad I made the right choice. And so is my Andrew. :) | |
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Posted: 7/12/2006 2:52:53 PM | | Yes it would be hard to know until you're faced with it. Sure it would be frightening if it was unplanned...and of course there is her feelings in the matter to consider. But I would take responsilbilty for my actions and do what she and I felt would be in our best interests...as well for the new life we created. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 4:30:58 AM | I have to agree with "The Maven" on this one...
Pregnant...after such a short time?...That can get sticky... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 4:36:34 AM | I was with my boyfriend for 4 months when i fell pregnant... i was 34... had a 10 y/o daughter and thought that i was happy... until i told him... then i was accused of a few things... the main things were he said it wasn't his... or I meant to fall pregnant on purpose.
He went off the deep end after a few weeks and ended up taking it out on my daughter ... so i left... I am happy to say my kids are very happy... my son is 5 and my daughter 15 and i gave my sons dad the option to see him but he has never wanted to.
Its a hard situation to be in... depending on the person... their beliefs and their morals and their age... it depends on their decision and actions. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 6:06:40 AM | Tell him and see what happens.
My dd was the result of condomn failure and problems tracking my ovulation cycle. I can't take the pill due to it raising my blood pressure to stroke level, my migraines and hormonal issues, it almost killed me when I was on it.
You just do what you have to do and hope for the best. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 7:26:57 AM | I was actually in this situation. We had been dating for 3 months found out I was pregnant. I kept my son and we aren't together. We are still friends though and have a great friendship.
Oh yeah pill doesn't always work... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 7:47:31 AM | | def talk to the guy about it and just hope for the best is all you can do. All I hear about in this is the pill, there are other methods as well if the pill doesn't work well for you. Just carefully think things through and do what would be best for you AND the baby. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 8:07:52 AM | | call maury to schedule your taping, cuz u know he gonna say, i'm 1000% sure it aint mine!" | |
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Posted: 8/9/2006 8:15:04 AM | #1 - tell the father. Find out what he wants to do
#2 - decide whether or not you want to go through with the pregnancy; place the baby up for adoption; or keep the child
By all means no one should get married just because of pregnancy, its the wrong reason. Explore all options and go from there. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 10:59:26 PM | | Myself, personally, would be thrilled because I was. I would also be terrified if I wasn't with the baby's father, but I would definitely tell him because he does have the right to know. There wouldn't be any options for not keeping the baby, I would do it on my own if I had to. Would I get married because of pregnancy? Not if that was the only reason. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 11:24:33 PM | If I accidently got someone I barely knew pregnant, and the women decided not to keep it, I'd rather not know at all. I'd rather she abort and not tell me. Men are completely powerless in this area if the woman wants him to be powerless, so it would probably be difficult to know that I would have no say in the matter in most cases. I'd rather be ignorant to it than be told I have no choice. But to be honest, abortion is probably the preferable option for me. But of course most women tell you at the worst time about stuff like this anyway. When you are fighting with them and they are pissed and they really want to hurt you, they pick that time to tell you they slept with your brother or that they had an abortion or that they used to be hooker or whatever.
If I accidently got someone I barely knew pregnant and the women decided to keep it, I would figure out a way to get sole custody by any means necessary. I don't care if I had to fight dirty to do it. I don't want children, but if in some strange alternate universe where I had one, I wouldn't trust someone I barely know to raise my child. Yeah, I guess to be fair, it would be "her" child too, but I would never see it that way. I've seen way too many men get leveraged out emotionally and financially by someone using their own children as weapons. I wouldn't care what it cost me to get custody. It wouldn't even bother me if I had to rack up a body count to do it. I wouldn't care what favors I'd have to cash in or markers I would have to take out. I would make it so if the woman wanted sole custody, she would pretty much have to kill me for it. Then I'd raise the child on my own. It's not what I would ideally want, but hey, you do the deed, you have to be prepared to face the consequences of it.
Then again, I've been snipped, so I guess I wouldn't generally have this kind of issue. Unless of course I have some rebel sperm who would pull a latex eating Dukes Of Hazzard kind of jump and pump kind of miracle Hail Mary shot.
If you are going to abort the fetus, don't tell him, all I can suggest. | |
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Posted: 8/31/2006 11:39:29 PM | If some chick gets me pregnant,
first thing I'll do is call the
National Inquirer.
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Posted: 8/31/2006 11:44:19 PM | As i do not believe in voluntary abortion, i would let the father know that i would be going ahead with the pregnancy and he can decide what he wants to do. I would never murder a child because of my own ignorance.  | |
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Posted: 9/1/2006 12:29:20 AM | | If I'd not known him long, there would be no chance of pregnancy, because it's a risk I take extremely seriously. I don't want children for various reasons and the enormity of the responsibility frightens me, but I could not contemplate abortion. In that nightmare scenario, I would change my life in whatever way was necessary to bring up the child as well as I possibly could, taking full financial and practical responsibility. I would hope that the boyfriend would remain involved and would be emotionally committed to his child and would continue to show love and affection towards it (the more the better): whether his relationship with me lasted or not. I'm quite confident that I'd not take the risk of pregnancy with any man who would not make a reasonably emotionally supportive father to a child regardless of his relationship with me, if that accident did occur. I would certainly have already discussed this scenario with him, however off-putting that may be considered. | |
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