| what is your type???? ....... visual imprinting of our perfect mate
Posted: 7/13/2006 5:09:25 AM | I have a theory, and I have read some studies on it too..................
'we imprint in our minds perfect faces for us ........early like by 8yrs'
........an early crush maybe?
for example..............
I recently saw 'The Sound of Music " on tv
I have not seen it for 25 yrs ............
seeing it again ,I remembered as an 7yr old, I had a strong crush on the
youngest brunette girl ..........remember I was about the same age as 'her ' in the film
but, seeing it again it triggered the memory of seeing a women that looked like her..........
I lived with a women for 6 yrs and almost married her ..........she was a spitting image of that girl all grown up.......................hmmmmm
I think this imprinting happens quite early
think about it in your life
I have even asked female freind to show me profiles of their 'type of guy'
often there are common trait particular to each person's tastes
shape of face/hair style..........etc
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| what is your type???? ....... visual imprinting of our perfect mate
Posted: 7/13/2006 5:12:41 AM | I'm sorry to disappoint you, but the theory doesn't work for me. If I have a crash on somebody, it's got a lot to do with who he is, not with the way he looks like. You would not find a cerain type of looks among the men I dated.
But then, I'm just a crazy girl... I might be that 1% execption to the rule.. | |
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| what is your type???? ....... visual imprinting of our perfect mate
Posted: 7/13/2006 5:19:47 AM | yes this also plays into what I am saying
often times a person does not recognize the common features
it often takes an outside source to point it out !!!!
In my example with ladies pointing out men that they found attractive I had to point out the common traits
same thing with a very good male friend of mine he showed me 10 girls
I could easily define 'his type'
some people are very intune with their preferrences, and can be very specific | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 5:27:50 AM | ^^^^^^^^^
it was a show I saw on bbc
they did that with different people
they never saw the similarities
then they track the different face shapes on a computer,they got so good at it
they could anticipate accurately the women a certain subject would find attractive before even showing them the photos
it was amazing stuff.............and as we know' the bbc' is never wrong bro | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 6:29:43 AM | There is some scientific investigation into this. Mammals, after birth, recognize their mother by scent, sound, and sight. The documentary I watched used a zebra herd as an example. Humans think all zebras look alike, but the baby zebras were imprinted with their mothers' stripe pattern so they could recognize Mom in the herd.
I think humans carry some of that over as well, remembering the first woman who ever shoved her boobs into our face to stop us from whining, and the one who sang us to sleep and cuddled us when we were lonely. (did we ever grow out of it?).
My situation was a bit different, as my mother was absent much of the time and I spent my best early childhood years with the woman who lived next door. Until I was 30 I couldn't figure out why I had a warm attraction to dark brunettes, particularly those having a french background, until I studied psychology in university and examined my own childhood for signs of imprinting. Oddly, my own mother didn't generate any warm feelings at all, but when the woman who was with me as a child walked into the room, my attention went to her.
Oddly, after I realized her role in my life, I changed my preference for women. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 7:24:17 AM | What an interesting subject! And I'm serious! I think I imprinted my ex brother-in-law (he was 15 years older than me) and he and my sister carried me all over since I was a baby girl. Now.... I am "more" attracted to dark, long-haired, hippie types. I may date a variety of men, but dark men get my attention quick!
Yup.... I gotta delve into this a bit further..but damn good subject!  | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 7:32:05 AM | I suppose this makes sense. Visually there are certain 'types' that will attract me. If I am rating photos I notice similarities in what I find visually attractive. Sometimes I will go back and check out profiles and think wow, this person is SO not my type after all.
I can't pinpoint any 'type' from my childhood......hey wait just a minute, I did have this major crush on Keith Partridge~maybe that's why I have a 'thing' for musicians
great post, think I'm going to be picking my brain a little more about this.... | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 9:02:43 AM | Okay well, I'm a classic (nut)case on this one. I am definitely attracted to a certain physical "type," and I even have a good idea as to WHY --
= Tall 6'+ (tho I was once engaged to a guy who was 5'7")
= solidly built with more of an inverted-v shape: broader shoulders than hips, rather than an "otter-ish" body that is roughly even from shoulder-to-hip
= preferably dark-haired, tho I married a blond (hair is important tho), no facial-hair and less body-hair preferable, tho I married a furry-chested man
= fair-to-light/medium skin color
= lighter-colored eyes (greens, blues, greys)
= deep-voiced
= details that are a plus: classic/"all-american" looks, strong (some might say big) nose and strong jawline, a strong neck(!) and hands, solid legs (surprising how many guys have "chicken legs," lol)
I sometimes have the uncomfortable sense that it's a sort of "aryan" checklist, as I tend to whitebread/WASP-y looks and am not attracted to swarthy/ethnic looks.
Then again, my dad was 6'5", a big man with a deep voice and reasonably good-looking. And I spent a formative chunk of my childhood living with my uber-WASP-y, hardcore old-school New England grandparents, who were just plain racially (and to an extent socially) bigoted as h3ll. So you can see whence it derives.
But you can also see that in certain situations, I threw out those parameters because the individual guy attracted me on other merits above-and-beyond just looks -- the shorter guy I was engaged to looked like a dark Paul Newman, the blond guy I married looked like a physically-fit Gerard Depardieu (I remember people pointing at him in the theater when we went to see "Green Card").
And even so far as personality types, I have my "imprints": My parents were separated/divorced by the time I was in mid-kindergarten, but even by then I knew my dad as a more-darkly-shaded, not-always-so-fun personality. So, I have tended to go-for emotionally distant men, "diamonds in the rough," "fixer-uppers." One assumes this is the Opedipal card in play as I tried to somehow re-write the un-re-writable past by somehow having such a person love me as my own absent father did not.
That's invariably bitten me in the a***, and you'd think I'd have learned, but it's deeply ingrained and hard to rewire. The kinda guy I should be going-for would be much more like me than unlike in outlook and temperament; no more of this "opposites attract" BS.
But lol, my sister and I will go out and nudge each other, "Hey, there's one of yours," because she knows my type, and I know hers: medium-to-tallish, slim-to-skinny, a bit funky/offbeat looks -- basically an anti-Dad, since she was old enough to have been in the midst of the divorce BS and ended up with a deeply-seated dislike of him. On the other hand, at 7-8 years younger than she, I was young enough to have missed most of that, so I was able to unrealistically idolize my absent father-figure.
As references, famous guys I've found attractive include
= Farscape's Ben Browder (lawsy) (tho oddly enough, he doesn't do near as much for me in his current role in Stargate, so in part the attraction was "John Crichton's" sassy/snarky characterization -- but he was still hot as h3ll in person a few years ago)
= Roswell's Brendan Fehr (tho I also met him a coupla years back and he was nowhere near as attractive "as himself" as he was as his character -- while his character was sultry and smouldering, he-himself was a bit of a petulant poser, ouch)
= Harrison Ford, especially in the 80's
= Bruce Willis, in his wise-ass action-hero mode
= Transporter 1+2's Jason Statham
= Lost's "Sawyer" ain't bad
= Brendan Fraser was gorgeous in his ripped, long-haired George of the Jungle look, but doesn't move me at all with short hair, go figure (tho lovely, lovely voice)
= While Alan Rickman's looks are "alright," he makes the list on the basis of his MMMmmmMMM voice (oh baby, read those tax laws again! yes! yes!) and his quirky personality...
You tell me: is there a consistent "look" amongst these men? I think so, if not in detail then in type... Mostly full-on alpha-male; a lot of brooding not-too-talkative-types, tho when they do speak they are smart, sassy-unto-snarky; the 2 bald guys from sheer strength of personality (sorry man, ya gotta luv Bruce-the-character; did Statham say "boo" in those movies? who cares? lol), most are big or at least they make'em look big on screen... Oh, and if you could put a Scots accent on any of'em, that'd be the capper (tho I have no idea where that turn-on comes from)...
But it's funny how obvious some of it can seem when you reeeeally look at it. And danged if it doesn't stay dug-in, like it or not... | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 9:50:35 AM | Interesting thread - I'm one of those that can't see the trees for the forest, so thus far I would have said that I don't have a type. Looking back though, I can see that I probably do have a type and while it may not link to skin colour, height, hair colour or eye colour - I can definitely say that I go for symmetrical faced people with well looked after hair. I can say with a degree of certainty that I would find someone that has the following visual traits attractive:
~Shiny healthy hair - it doesn't matter what colour.
~Evenly spaced eyes that are slightly larger than average and aren't bulging or sunken.
~An evenly proportioned face that is neither flat nor round but somewhere in between.
~Clear complexion - a minimal amount of skin blemishes and/or zits.
~Healthy looking teeth - a "white" smile and straight teeth.
~Looks healthy - their body is balanced...neither obese or anorexic, hourglass shaped.
~Stands up straight and doesn't slouch but looks relaxed.
These are all signs of good genetics and I guess therefore I really do have a type although it may not have been obvious at first glance. There are other traits I go for, but they're not genetic traits:
~Well dressed - a sign that she can provide for herself.
~Well Manicured - a sign that she can take care of herself.
~Minimal tastefully done makeup - a sign that she has class.
~Someone whose body language says that they are at ease with themselves - a sign that they are happy with who they are.
Now I'm not sure who impressed those things on me as a kid, but I tend to go for the kind, caring devoted women and being brought up by my Mom, it's easy to see why that is - but visually, I don't tend to go for women that look like my mom - more personality wise. I guess society imprinted my definition of beauty on me with the countless beauty magazines you see on the racks. | |
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| what is your type???? ....... visual imprinting of our perfect mate
Posted: 7/13/2006 10:01:33 AM | well yes , that theory for me is true , when I was ten I had a nerdy little diary that I would keep , i still have it , I have a pcture of a girl that was about my first crush , , she was a little girl about 12 , she was in the underwear section of the Sears catalog , as a ten year old boy this was the first time I would dream asleep and awake about a girl , I even called sears to find out where she lived , I was so naive .
That little girl's face stayed in my mind a cute little thing with round red freckled cheeks wavy black hair , a gorgeous white smile, very big brown eyes, and in my imagination always nice to me .
I found a girl like that, was not in love but she became my best friend and I married her , she died 3 years ago but I seek someone again with similar traits , the big brown eyes and a beautiful smile who is actually nice to me.
She may come again one day .  | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 11:49:24 AM | | OP, I always had an idea of what I liked; actually drew a picture of my 'ideal man' when I was a young teenager...years later in my 20s I met and dated 2 guys who looked like that picture. I didn't realize it at that time, but when going through some old papers/journals in my attic prior to moving I ran across the picture I drew and saw the connection. Yet no one else I ever dated looked remotely like these two guys. I still have a preference for certain things I like, a strong jawline, a certain type of eyes, good legs, etc., but if I come across someone and they don't have some or all of those particular traits, it's not going to stop me from dating them if I find them interesting overall. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 12:09:27 PM | What can I say, I like them tall dark and handsome :)
but all joking aside, that seems to be the case for me, I'm pretty tall, so prefer to date someone over 6', ideally 6'2- 6'5 , I just feel so much more secure around tall guys, definitely has to be in decent shape, not slim, either athletic, though I dont mind someone bit bigger, not overweight though. I tend to be attracted to dark haired guys with light eyes, although hazel and brown can be equally as striking. Thats probably it when it comes to apperance, I seem to be attracted to guys without facial hair... go figure. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2006 12:27:41 PM | | For me, it's a little subjective but generally the same "type." Since my very first boyfriend they've all been similar in appearance, yet vastly different people. Today, I prefer someone unique versus someone "classic." One thing that has remained constant, they have to have a brilliant smile. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2006 5:05:34 AM | | I totally agree with you. When I was 9 yrs old, I saw the sexiest movie ever called " The Big Blue ". The fact that I was living in Limassol, Cyprus and traveled around Greece ( very happy childhood ) had a lot to do with me loving that movie bc it was set in Greece...but the actor there, Jean Marc Barr ( mmmm....) had such an effect on me as a 9-yr old girl. So, when I grew up, I noticed that most of the men I dated or have been attracted to had something about their face that reminded me of that one actor. In fact, even the shape of his eyes, sometimes the colour, the nice nose, fine facial bone features....are things that catch my eye...and it was all bc of a childhood crush on a movie actor :) | |
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