| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 3:12:30 AM | | Why is is that you can have a dating relationship tha tseems to be going really well then all of a sudden Pfft the guy disappears. I mean why can't they just be honest and tell you they no longer want to continue? (Don't mean't generalize guess woman do this too - just not htis woman). | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 3:27:49 AM | (1) They change thier minds, or
(2) They find something in you the don't like, or
(3) They find somebody they like more
And....
(4) They are spineless, inconsiderate lizards with no concern for other people's time or feelings, with whom you are better off without anyway. Don't shed any tears over jerks like this.
And yes, women do it too. I've had them do it to me so many times I could spit, but they aren't worth the saliva.  | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 3:37:46 AM | | if in the past iv meet someone and it hasnt been what i thought it would be i allways let them no.so why carnt men do that it doesnt cost anything to send a message.would rather be told straight than get the blanking treatment,then you are called a bunnyboiler,nothing wrong with wanting an answer. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 3:47:15 AM | Wow good question. They turn into David Copperfield and poof they are gone.
I am a big girl and can handle it if they say "sorry not interested anymore".
They say that they get rejected by women alot but to be chatting back and forth, going out a couple of times then just say or do nothing.
Guys just tell us so we can move on. Of course you will have the women (men too) that are crazy stalkers but most of us would appreciate a "I am not interested anymore". | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 3:50:40 AM | | Are there any documented instances of a woman doing this exact same thing? Or is this solely the acts men perform? How about it guys--and girls----anyone know of a woman who's does this same thing???? | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:09:40 AM | | Angelndisguys I totally agree with you.What's with these He/She that are not Man/Women enough to send a E-Mail to let you know,I feel they probably don't want to let it go because if He/She doesn't work out they could always come back with some excuse.He/She should take the time to get to know someone first,(some don't).I call them Players a type of game,i believe called how many He/She can i get,but all they do is hurt people and seems like they are very proud of themself.(I see this game as cold and heartless). | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:11:24 AM | if in the past iv meet someone and it hasnt been what i thought it would be i allways let them no.so why carnt men do that it doesnt cost anything to send a message.would rather be told straight than get the blanking treatment,then you are called a bunnyboiler,nothing wrong with wanting an answer.
what is a bunnyboiler? | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:21:09 AM | Had that happen to me a couple of times! Was seeing one guy for a couple months...he left here for work on a friday morning, telling my daughter hed be back on sunday to take her to a movie...and never saw him again. Didn't hear from him for like 3 weeks, tracked down a friend of his online and asked if they'd heard from him, called hospitals, his place, etcetcetc and then finally he wrote...never did really tell me why, or if he wanted to break up..haha so I just moved on!
Then actually the next guy I dated for about a month, went to his camp for the weekend..and I never heard from him again either...
Oh well their loss!
But I dont get why they just cant be friggin honest and tell us they ont want to see us anymore...and not just disappear! That's friggin nuts! and so cowardly to do!!! For being men they dont have much in the line of balls do they gals???? | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:26:07 AM | 1) he might be lying in the hospital with amnesia, but likely he's just not into you.
1) no answer is your answer.
3) don't give him a change to reject you again
4) let his mother yell at him your to busy
5) he's gone & he wasn't good enough for you
words of wisdom from the girls bible | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:40:33 AM | | Male bashing threads like this have been done many times. It kills me how women post on these kinds of threads and group "all men" in the same category. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 6:54:36 AM |
Why is is that you can have a dating relationship tha tseems to be going really well then all of a sudden Pfft the guy disappears
They develop dementia! | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:11:41 AM | Good thing a woman has never done this, eh?
Why must so many people generalize that because one person does something the entire gender is the same way?
Did you ever consider than maybe YOU weren't good enough for HIM in his eyes?  | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:17:25 AM | Well without knowing the specific men I can only give you some possible reasons.
They are undercover CIA agents called away on assignment.
They were abducted by UFOs and are now being anally probed.
You're being stalked and the stalker is bumping off all your boyfriends.
They violated their parole and are dating someone new in prison.
You're insane and you're the only one that sees these men. When you're on your meds they vanish.
A crocodile ate them. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:20:15 AM | well just maybe men don't say anything because he finds that telling the woman winds up being a 100 question as to why, why, but why, and he finds it easier to just disappear.
and no i have'nt just disappeared but have come close many times when i know i am about to have to tell her its not working out. ( i do get the 5th degree everytime though) | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:37:35 AM | Its because the majority of the women just do not take the news very well. Even on a first time coffee date, you find some common interest and chat for well over an hour, the lady is like being out with your aunt Ida, she wants to prompt you for a second meet, and Bang the explosion goes off when you say , " I have a few other things to do some other time may-be".
Hey it happens to us guys lots of time, but we get the message real quick Humm not her type.
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:38:38 AM | It's not all men that do the disappearing act and I'm sure that women do the same thing... It's happened to me a few times in my life but you just need to move on. At least it was better than one of the reasons I got from someone on this site...it was a guy that we went out a couple times then didn't hear from him for about a month...thought no big deal it just didn't work out... then he sent me a message telling me he couldn't talk to me cause his new lover (he gave a guy's name) would get mad... couple weeks later he sent me another message saying he remarried his ex-wife... now he's back on here looking again... I didn't respond to any of his messages but got a good laugh from it all.... so who knows why men and women do the disapppearing act they do it and you have to be the one to decide how it to deal with it... either you move on or dwell on it and it makes more sense to just move on... now if they lie to you that's a whole other thing..... | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:43:57 AM | | I think guys are more afraid of commitment than women....... so rather than give an honest answer, its just easier to disapear! | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:47:17 AM | Men do this for a number of reasons...
1. Committment scares them.
2. They really like you.
3. They don't want their freedom taken away.
4. "Feelings" are confusing to them and they feel wussy.
Probably many more reasons too.
This is what you do when you find your guy doing this... DO NOT GO AFTER HIM, DONT CALL , DONT EVEN ASK!!
They will eventually call you. When they do if you are friendly and act like nothing is wrong they will want to stay with you.
Oh one other reason is they may not like you - but thats not usually why. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 7:50:30 AM | | Inneowithgeo, I think that all the posters want to know is, be it male or female, why can't these people have the courtesy to end it and not leave the other person hanging? Just an "I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me" would be sufficient. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 8:02:02 AM | well, all the one's i've read have been true to me. It's totally amazing that others have the exact same experience as I do. And men tempt to follow what other men are doing in terms of popularity. It seems that there is not one guy I've met that does totally a different act then the rest.
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 8:02:16 AM | legalbill2
Maybe it's bacause you're a clinging harpie who reminds them too much of thier ex . . . it appears that he was the "clingy" one if what the poster says is true. "He" seemed to have "clung" on very tightly after a mere 2 weeks of getting to know this woman. If it were me in the poster's position I would have been the one disappearing...(but first I would have set the record straight with the fella..."YOU'RE TOO CLINGY")
Just to clarify...it is NOT just the male species that do this ... women do the same thing. | |
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| Why do men do the diappearing act?
Posted: 7/14/2006 8:05:06 AM | I agree with memory maker.
Men find a better girl who they like and have more ideas with. Plainly she is prettier or younger.
Also, some men when they think they have met you enough to know your $ and feel they can't grab a penny out of you they look elsewhere.
Keep in mind, men can get sex anywhere!
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