| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 1:32:41 PM | | You chat on line for a bit and then decide to go out on a date to meet this person. What would tell you that it wasn't a match. I think when you are out and your date starts to text message someone while you are trying to have a conversation with him over and over again that would be a good sign that we are not a good match. To me that is like someone speaking a foriegn language in front of you. I consider it rude and do not wish to be treated that way. So what would be your deciding factor? | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 1:43:39 PM | | well the deciding factor would be that if his messaging w/someone else was more important then getting 2 know me 1 on 1.. then i would just stand up & walk out.. cell fones should either be left at home or turned off when on a date w/someone.. unless there`s some sort of an emergency.. but in that case.. u should let the other person know AHEAD of time y u need ur cell left on.. | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 2:00:29 PM | Hmmm interesting thread and these are probably a few things that would indicate to me that this one wasn't for me:
1) Being deceptive - meaning posted old pic and he is not looking very much like who he has portrayed himself to be.
2) Not talkative - I enjoy great conversation and someone who is not receptive or cannot add to it would lose my interest.
3) Cell phone constantly ringing - yes that would be annoying.
4) Talking of the X wife constantly - been on a few of those and there is nothing more annoying than to hear about how wronged he has been by her.
Those would probably have to be my top four...........could think of more, but dont want to ramble on lol
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 2:01:00 PM | | Definitely if he smelled bad I would want to keep my distance. I would say go easy on the cologne if used at all. I like the freshly showered smell most of all. If they smoke too then I might not like it so much either. The phone thing well sometimes Ive had to deal with business or kids while on a date so I have to be somewhat tolerant but would not like it if he were just shootin the breeze with someone else while with me but sometimes there is a reason and I do have tolerance that way. Im also a bit shallow I guess when it comes to physical stuff, I mean I cant go for a guy really well if hes not tall enough and if he is very fat then that is hard too, and I do prefer them to look decent, clothes not wrinkled, groomed properly, dressed appropriately for the occassion, some fashion sense, prefer more casual but knows how to clean up and can fit into any social arena. Also his language, I prefer a man who comes across as decent without using swear words every other word, and is positive in his attitude, seems like there are so many things no wonder Im single. Gosh. | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 3:09:04 PM | If he lied about anything - that's a deal breaker.
Bad manners. I went out with one guy and met for dinner and he held his fork with all the finesse of a garden shovel. It wasn't pretty. He also wrapped his arm around his plate like I was going to take something from him.
Being rude to waitstaff. That's right along with bad manners.
Bragging about possessions. I don't care how many homes/cars he owns, how much money he makes, how much he spent on this, I don't want to hear him brag.
trying to convince me how nice he was. I don't think there is anything as bad as a guy telling you he's really a nice guy, and I could call his ex/sister/mother/cousin to verify this. Once I hear "I'm a nice guy.. you can trust me!" it's over. | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 4:34:51 PM | IntoU...OOOOO don't you just want tell him to put a sock in it?? These guys are PRACTICING on you so they can get their first meeting conversation perfected..I have had so many of those...now I know what they are doing..and then they ask for a critique... | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 4:47:15 PM | If he paid more attention to the guy at the bar than me
If he said he was low on cash this week and asked me if I would pick up the check
If his wife showed up during dinner
If he asked me to pay for his cab fare back home as his car had been re-poed
If he gave the waitress his Visa and it was declined.
If he brought his Mother along
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 4:48:51 PM | I am just nodding ~ all of these things above me would indicate it's not happening. Then again, if we are talking internet first time meetings ~ the question for me is better phrased in this manner "While on a first date or meeting, what would tell you he IS for you?" That's a much easier, shorter, less negative answer. Sorry ~ but I've done this a long time and it's usually a no go. Once in a while ~ they actually LOOK like their pictures....wooo hooo ~~~~ | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/16/2006 6:09:20 PM | Anything that has been proven to be dishonest either from the profile, picture or phone conversations with this person. I also do not like gifts. It feels like the person is trying to buy me. And I can't be bought.
If the first date involves dinner, manners are important but also, as silly as this sounds, how much a person eats. I have become aware of this due to a major weightloss myself (42 lbs) and the desire to lose that last 20 lbs to get myself back to my h.s. weight. | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/17/2006 4:59:19 PM | If he lied about anything - that's a deal breaker.
Bad manners. I went out with one guy and met for dinner and he held his fork with all the finesse of a garden shovel. It wasn't pretty. He also wrapped his arm around his plate like I was going to take something from him.
Being rude to waitstaff. That's right along with bad manners.
Bragging about possessions. I don't care how many homes/cars he owns, how much money he makes, how much he spent on this, I don't want to hear him brag.
trying to convince me how nice he was. I don't think there is anything as bad as a guy telling you he's really a nice guy, and I could call his ex/sister/mother/cousin to verify this. Once I hear "I'm a nice guy.. you can trust me!" it's over.
I think we might have gone out with the same guy . I have found when men tell you what a nice guy they are I am not sure, if they are trying to convince me or themselves. | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/17/2006 5:45:24 PM | The last one I meant from another dating site, had a lot of things that said he wasn't a good match for me. Below in no order of importance.
1. The picture he had on the dating site was 20 years old. He only had a pic of his face. In person he was very thin and had the body of a 12 year old girl.
2. His cell phone rang at least two times an hour, and yes he picked up on each and every call.
3. When he wasn't on the phone he talked non stop about a video game.
4. He kept looking in the mirror and fusing with his hair.
Half way through the date, all I could think was how it would have been a lot more fun to be home sleeping than out with him. | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/19/2006 11:22:43 AM | I've been reading other posts and think some people might see this as a male basher post.
That was never my intent. I probably should have phrased it more along the lines of...What are some of the most irritating things that you have encountered on first meetings or dates in general. This is for both men or women. | |
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| While on a first date or meeting what would tell you he wasn't for you?
Posted: 7/19/2006 11:32:26 AM | it works the same for both sexes,
if a women actually answers her phone, see ya!
if she is there with 2 or 3 friends and she didnt mention it before hand.
if the bill comes and she doesnt even offer to pay, not that she has to but a least offer to show us your not a whore. | |
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