| | Workplace BackstabbingPage 1 of 2 (1, 2) | | "Shappy" mentioned this in another post was experiencing the exact thing so figured Id start this thread.5 minutes or so ago I was walking to the back when 2 people I work with were ddep in ones "cubby" whispering away like children,and hushed completely as I walked by(maybe was about me lol)this annoys me to no end I find it cowardly and childish,anyone else?If I didnt know any better Id think most of my coworkers were straight out of kindergarten the way they double talk and whisper and generally talk behind everyones back,Ive heard people completely talk down about someone one minute then see them spreading more garbage about someone else to the person they just dissed,its amazing the immaturity you can find in adults,anyone else find this going on in the office? | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:30:33 AM | | I changed workplaces last year and discovered just how bad an office can be. I had worked with only men for 10 yrs and thought they were bad but its crazy how bad the women get in our office. It seems most think that by making others look bad, it makes them look good. It is ridiculous. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:32:46 AM |
edir.......Still.....They need to remember when you throw mud, it sticks to you!
Hi Prof. It goes on everywhere. People love to talk.......it's easier than looking at their own problems. They also love to be judge and jury. Like their opinions count? 
I suggest you never ascribe to the gossip windmill. Simply tell others you do not dwell in idle gossip, and do not take you there. Amazing how that works. People will respect you in the work place if you do not join the rabble rousers.
Also remember your not powerful enough to cause anyone to do anything.......even talk about you. It could simply have been about someone, or something else. Never assume. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:33:41 AM | Where I work....people steal eachothers lunches!!!
Talk about a bunch of babys!! They all whine about eachother, and when they see the person they where talking crap about....they are all like
" Hi______ how are you? Thats a lovely dress."
Then they walk away, when they are out of ear shot...
" who does that b!tch think she is whearing that?"
It makes me sick...because im half their age...and Im more mature...go figure!! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:34:15 AM | | If you are uncomfortable - paranoid - even definitely sure they are backstabbing or being childish - I would confront them and tell them that thier behaviour is totaly unacceptable, especially in the work place. I would also let my boss know right away what you have been party to - be sure to back it up with proof. If you are not ready to hit this situation head on then let it go and don't be bothered by it. Why the hel! would you want to live your life worrying what the heck others have to say?!?!?! Live your life free of the BS you have encountered by doing something about it - deal with it, or ignore it! | |
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Mayor
| | Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 6 | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:35:57 AM | tis a mad, mad, mad world we live in,
and while none of us may like it, in fact if you talk to most they never do it, that facts are playing the game of politics , be it in government, the office or the bedroom has been around for ever and not likely to change. It all in how we deal with it.
but that may just be me | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:37:27 AM | | no I never assume just found it extra annoying,they could have been talking about anyone or anything ,and Ive never been part of the gossip mill,I hate it to much to be a part of it,its true that people will put others down to try to make themselves look better,if I have something to say about someone Ill say it,not whisper and hide it, it just sooooooooooo rubs me the wrong way. | |
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LMAO
| | Joined: 2/20/2006
Msg: 8 | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:40:17 AM | Work is like that many places, no matter where you go!!!!
What I dislike the most is when someone speaks in a different language ,,,,,,,,,,that really is disrespectful I think!!!!!
Maybe I do not want to know what they are saying,,but is very disrespectful for sure!!! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 8:40:18 AM | | I'm still new where I work, but yes, it happens there too. I find a certain few people like to run over from their desks to talk to a couple people in my area and they sit behind me just whispering and talking about things they shouldn't. I block them out and couldn't give a rat's ass really. Half the time it's so quiet it just becomes annoying whispy sounds when i'm trying to work. I picture myself turning around and yelling at them to either talk at a normal tone or to shut the hell up, but thats just in my head lol. It's only making them look like gossipy twits. I just walk away and do something else when that starts now. | |
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lovejr
| | Joined: 12/16/2005
Msg: 10 | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 10:16:39 AM | | I've been at my job for a long time and its a small practice of only 6 people. Every now and then I start to think that I should considered moving to a larger firm for alot more money. When that urge comes on, I call up some colleagues to go for lunch, sit and listen to the gossip, whining and complaining and I realize that although the extra money would be nice the extra stress and bs just isn't worth it and I stay where I am. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 10:27:28 AM | | I work in an office environment where gossip is very much alive and well! I usually just stay in my office and work..Am busy with client appointments anyway. I try not to partake whenever someone starts with the juicy bits or taking someone down by words. We are all there for one purpose and that is to make money! I do not have time for gossip! But alas, tis a fact of life for sure. One I choose not to be part of! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:13:13 PM | | Backstabbin is the worst. I worked at a place where this one girl who was supposed to be training me acted like she was my friend. Trained me to make mistakes and would run to the boss....Over the course of the year, she completely sabotaged me and had the company let me go. She had them wrapped around her little finger thinking that she was the best. Near the end, I didn't care and made sure I pointed out all the little "wrong things" she had done. Muahh ha ha ha ha.....It didn't do me any good but gave me so much satisfaction. Women can be so catty it's discusting. Why someone would do that to another is totally beyond me. At least with me....if I don't like you....you'll know it and I certainly won't go out of my way to be nice to you either....why can't more women be more like that? Got a job to do.....do it.....and shut the hell up!! Revenge is best served cold...... | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:26:40 PM | | Men can be that way too! Dealt with it, didn't let them draw me into it! When they start playing the blame game, better back it up with the facts, not start half truths and lies! Especially when the person is not around to defend themselves, because I will get the truth and defend that person in their absence to the gossip monger! | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:29:38 PM |
What I dislike the most is when someone speaks in a different language ,,,,,,,,,,that really is disrespectful I think!!!!!
Especially if they were speaking english in the first place... you know they are up to no good.
Coworkers (especially the lazy ones and the ass kissers) tend to make me suspicious when they speak the following:
"I'll take care of it."
"Ah. Don't worry, I won't tell."
"Anything new going on?"
"Were you out late last night?"
Gossiping coworkers despise me... I don't indulge their behaviour in the least bit.. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:34:06 PM | | couldnt you rename this thread "laying in a pool of your own Blood" Cause your a Dork". if ya want to go for a beer at five oclock then go talk about it then. otherwise your fired . haha. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:41:36 PM | I get stabbed in the back on a daily basis.The person on the other shift that does the same job as me loves to stir the pot.He is always putting me down in front of anyone that will listen(even the plant manager).I was approached by the plant manager one day and he asked me what this guy had a gainst me.I said that is just the way he is and if he's pickin on me he is leaving everyone else alone.I have a broad shoulders and a strong back so his carrying on doesn't bother me.He has made himself look like a moron in front of supervisors and management but at 62 years of age he still hasn't grown up.Oh well just another day at work.lol
Hoss | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:46:04 PM | | Exactly what I'm talking about, have someone like that at work too. Picks on the person on the other shift, so I defend this other person with the truth. Told my gossipy co-worker to get the facts before making accusations. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 5:57:46 PM | | I let the old fart ramble.Most of management have caught on to him and I don't get upset to easily.We have had words before (it's gone on for 14 years)and it's like trying to talk to a child cause as far as he is concerned he is right and the rest of the world sucks. | |
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Posted: 7/18/2006 6:09:35 PM | | Gossip hurts everyone, specially if it's not justified and damaging and is NOT called for in a workplace (or anywhere for that matter). ALL employers should have policies in place that it should be tolerated. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 7:16:06 PM | One of my childhood friends went down a dark path over the years i knew him, long story.
He graduated college and was placed in a big company and told of placing some of his college buds in postiions above im t okind of leap frog up thecorporate ladde ras he did such a favour for them. A year or so later he mentioned a black book with favours owed to him by others as his newest incentive.... it goes on and on... I shake my head and try to be busy if he calls. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2006 7:20:20 PM | I had a knife in my hand at work today and my friend was annoying the hell out of me. I told him that if he kept it up then I would carve my name in his face.
That wasn't exactly backstabbing, but the look on everyones face was fvcking priceless! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 5:52:41 AM | lmao ,thatd be more like face stabbing.
They only trust us with sporks here | |
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Hezron
| | Joined: 12/15/2005
Msg: 23 | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 5:59:38 AM | | People are children. Look at the middle east...Children with bombs..."Mine...Mine...Mine" They are like the seagulls from finding nemo. At work I let it slide. talk all you want..actions speak louder than words. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 6:09:48 AM | couldnt you rename this thread "laying in a pool of your own Blood" Cause your a Dork". if ya want to go for a beer at five oclock then go talk about it then. otherwise your fired . haha.
huh?? Someone needs to wash their Lederhosen | |
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Posted: 7/28/2006 7:50:16 AM | Had this happen at work FAR too many times  Worst of all it was almost always about me & my buddy (also a co-worker)... The cosmetision was the worst! She would talk about how I didn't belong there because I didn't wear war paint.. Ok didn't know I had to wear war paint to work in a post office  Then I'd walk into the room & she would say hi & other nice things It was far worse when she started spredding rumors about my buddy & I hooking up We were gamers & thats it. She also did the same thing to another guy I hung out with at work... Before he quit, he made sure he gave her a piece of his mind.. made her cry I wish i was there.. also wish I told her off too | |
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