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Posted: 7/20/2006 7:42:42 AM | | So, I treat everyone with respect. Had a date lined up with a woman. End up waiting hours (she had my #; I didn't have hers) & she never showed... now not responding to my messages asking what happened! I'm pretty laid back: she could just say she "got scared", or something & I'd be good! Chick totally blew me off & is read/deleting my messages (which are very mellow & conveying that I'm not angry)! What gives, ladies???? And you say men can be jerks!! | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 7:44:49 AM | just forget her.. atleast you didn't have to waste your time with someone like her ...
just.. be happy that you got to find out who she really was before you ever even had to meet her! lol too bad it wasn't always like that!! 
everyone can be jerks.. not just men. not just females..wish people would stop gendre bashing.. gets old after 23 years old... | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 7:52:59 AM | ferymay....I wouldn't have stood you up!
My girlfriend and I were chatting about the same type of thing....once a person that you are chatting with on line starts to become real, people get scared and disappear. Don't put too much into it, it happens all the time, but usually they email you before your date and cancel....this one just took it one step further. Sorry it happened to you. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 7:54:32 AM | | OUCH !! THE AUDACITY ! Smash the living ba-jesus OUT OF um, um, your pillow with a tennis racket and then report back to me. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:15:18 AM | A girl stood up a guy?? that's never happened before lol..
seriously though, just be glad you weren't too invested with her.. now you can go meet girls who want to be with you. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 8:19:36 AM | Some people have zero manners,,,, its so easy to say that your having second thoughts and would like to take a little more time to know the other person. Plus one date is just a meeting! Youre not committing to more than just meeting n getting to know one another. So many people seemt o think its a big deal.
It happened to me, the guy was mass mailing me from nov-aug, Finally sometime around April he asked me out, well we finally had the date, in late august,,, I went all the way downtown in summer traffic time, on a Friday, he never showed up n had my cell, and home number. Wed spoken on the tel almost every day,,, finally after about 7 mo or so he send me an email from some new screename, I Immediately knew it was him, he sends me jokes, n health , n natural products articles etc,, and has asked me out,,,,I said it was neve r going tohappen, because,,, you never get a second chance to make a Good first impression. LOL
Im glad, because I now know that IF wed have finally taken things further, he wouldnt have treated me Right,,,,, Youre beter off,,,,,, this woman had no consideration whatsoever,, You deserve better, keep looking, kep faith, you never know what tomorrow brings! :) best to you :) | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:30:00 AM | I'm really an advocate on showing early and waiting a while.... but you certainly went way above and beyond the call of duty. Waiting for hours. I think it is lame when someone waits 10 or 15 minutes and then takes off... (first date). I think a min. of a half hour is appropriate. A lot of things could have happened that have nothing to do with the date who is late, being inconsiderate. (if a date is persistently late on future dates... that is another matter). But, you deserve two gold stars for your availability. You get my pat on the back. I hope the woman is reading this, and now realizes what a great guy she stood up! ha.
As to...why she did it, ect.? If she doesn not come forward after all you have done, and exhibited.... let it go. She is Not worth wondering about it. She doesn't even deserve your conderations and exertions. Period.
Lovemetrue: didn't you mean, mdarnell? Hmmmmmmmmm? | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 8:34:06 AM | I had the same happen with a guy on here. Had a date planned, but the evening of, there was no phone call, no email, no nothing. Later, he claimed that he'd lost his cell phone ! Ha ! Funny that he'd had no problem with sending me emails up to that point !! I don't buy the cell phone story for a minute. Even if that were the case, he still could've gotten ahold of me, had he choosen to do so. I would not give him another 'chance' after that. I am quite sure that I would not get along with someone so rude..........so now he claims that I have anger issues............ Yeah, whatever. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:45:53 AM | | don't call her, don't email her or even think about her. If she calls you, don't even think of picking up or returning the call. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 10:26:08 AM | | I can tell you what your doing wrong allready "she had my number I didnt have hers" Never give a girl your number unless you have her's first. She was a flake, girls will do that, I've gotten a few "read/deleted" in my time and honestly find it offensive though I dont take it personally. Though some nice ladies on here have the decency to write that there not interested for whatever reason. But its allways best to give priority to those who show the most interest. Just my opinion though. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:38:42 AM | | Never wait hours. Wait 30 minutes, and if they haven't called, leave and do something else. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 10:44:36 AM | Quote:
Had a date lined up with a woman. End up waiting hours (she had my #; I didn't have hers) & she never showed...
This is a common complaint with online dating services.
One real possibility is that the StanderUpper is lurking in the background of the meeting place, gets cold feet and leaves you waiting.
One of my neighbors has been stood up 3 times by the same woman and she keeps emailing apologies and making more dates. This leads to the next possibility.
Some prankster is making an underground video of StoodUpees impatiently waiting around in Starbucks coffee houses drinking Laté after Laté and then going home with full bladders. 
Could a coffee shop owner with slow business be doing this?
Nawwwww. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:55:53 AM | I agree with Giner_Vitus, 30 has got to be the limit for waiting on a date.
All you can do is act with respect for yourself and others.
Sure is a red flag! She could have shown up and then backed out who knows why but her. Frankly it really doesn't matter. She blew off an opportunity to meet you and maybe she has done so to others. Her lost!
Perhaps that is why they call it fishing not catching? Your fishie is out there! Good luck. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:01:05 AM | I'm sorry....... you waited what.......... hours???? Gawd.... what ever for!!! Number one stop trying to over analyze the situation. Even though that's the business you're in. There are times you have to accept that a cigar is just a cigar, and this is one of those times. There are always going to be jack knobs of both genders that stand people up. I've had my share. Never did it myself though. I like to believe I have manners even if there is no spark between us.
A very wise fishy in the pond once said it like this........... NEXT!!!!!!!
:))
Witchy, who really is sorry that happened to you. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:25:36 AM | NO EXCUSE, esp given our instant communication society....NO EXCUSE...move on, bud...she's an exception to the rule...keep your chin up and good luck...there are plenty of good women out there.
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Posted: 7/20/2006 11:31:40 AM | | I totally understand where the OP is coming from. Hell I even had her number and she kept not answering. I also found that she made plans with me despite knowning full well she had to work that night. And they call women the "fairer sex"? standing people up like that is hardly fair ;) | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:40:57 AM | | most people in the online dating scene have been stood up or blown off. shrug it off, she obviously wasn't worth the interest you showed in her, so why waste your energy chasing any apology or explanation that will probably be hollow and meaningless? | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 11:47:33 AM |
(she had my #; I didn't have hers)
don't ever let that happen again . meaning if you give out your number , you get hers , PERIOD . no number , no date , go onto the next person . and tell her that too .
i will not meet someone unless i have some way of easily contacting them , just incase something happens , like i'm running late , or got called into work for an emergancy .
or in your case , she decides to flake .
my experience is this , people are much less likely to flake ( male or female ) if they feel like they will be held acountable on some level , or could be held acountable on some level .
btw there's a rule with karma , do something good towards someone , and you will recieve something good from an unexpected source , do something evil or bad , and reciece 7 times 7 times 7 the same amount back from an unexpected source or sources . | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 2:00:12 PM | | I had plans with a gal about 100 miles from me. I was going to leave a little early and I am very lucky that I got her phone call telling me she was "ill". No problem I told her as she saved me 4 hours and $50.00! I will still talk with her but I will never be interested in her again. | |
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Posted: 7/20/2006 4:44:41 PM | yeah, that sucks.
people are jerks.
i recently got stood up for the very first time & although it was annoying, it was also kind of funny. i mean, i'm a totally fun date ~ his loss  | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 4:56:12 PM | it happened to me last week for the first time. He had asked for my number but
never sent me his. I waited half an hour and went home...and saw him online in POF.
Anyway, his full name was on his email and I googled it..and guess what? found a pic
of him with his wife taken last month. So who knows what her reasons are...maybe she's
married too? Anyway, don't let it get to you. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start
all over again. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 5:00:19 PM |
Lucky you! dodged that bullet (see, it's all in how you look at it)
Ezzzzz-ackly!!
Seriously, I'd rather know immediately that someone's a jerk than waste several weeks (or months!) to find out. | |
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| Stood up w/o ANY apology!!!
Posted: 7/20/2006 5:06:57 PM | I agree with ferymay that you got to see how she really was even before the first actual date. I think that's very rude. At least this scenario didn't happen to you: first time meeting. after a bit of talking, the guy gets up and walks away without telling my friend anything! OMG! I felt so bad for her. She thought the date was going well, but maybe not.
take care and you'll find someone.. | |
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