| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:37:26 PM | If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
I just read the results of a very interesting survey. Of people who are single, and are looking for a relationship, about 50% of them go on less than 4 dates per year. Doesn't sound like a great action plan to me. How about some feedback from our faithful P.O.F. members...
Oh yeah, I'm not dating right now because I'm too lazy or something like that... | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:41:51 PM | Perhaps they are not involved in enough "outside" activities in their own communities? There are lots of wonderful organizations that a person can become involved in. Through this, you meet other people, get to know them, then they in turn introduce you to their friends and so on and so on.
There are also "clubs" that can offer a person that "outlet" to meet others. Sports of any kind come to mind. Softball, golf, curling, and sometimes at a local park, people just get together to play volleyball. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:44:31 PM | I'm not even sure anymore.
If you asked me last year I may have said I haven't met her yet. Which was code for I don't know what is wrong with me but I just ain't feeling it.
Now a year later a good heart surgeon and my answer is I'm not even sure anymore.
I guess the pickins are to slim around here not to mention the fact I'm feeling a lot younger lately.....as the doctor said you feel like a 20 year old in no time. That is about the time I cracked the joke about can I chase them..........
Who knows why maybe it just is.... | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:46:46 PM | Well i dont know about you, but dating costs money.....and im broke..and will be for a while....im also trying to get my own life in order before i try to spend it with someone else.....cuz then its just one big cluster **** of random crap that never got done and is now in the way.....did that make sense????......oh well...more rum will fix that!
Justin | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:47:13 PM | Lets see...
The short list,
~Been hurt too many times
~Sick of the games
~Tired of putting in all the effort without any reward
~No one out there appeals to me anymore
~Can't find anyone that DESERVES me
~Won't settle
Boy did I take that bitter little pill today? | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:49:00 PM | Just don't feel like it, im too busy prejudging everyone to past relationships to ever let them develop into something. Theres a girl who ive met/talked to several times as she was the manager at a local food place near where I used to work. I would go there like 2-3 times a week and we would always chat/make jokes and what not. Shes nice, and always gets excited when I come in -- but she doesnt make me not think about the past, and the people that DO get me over that hump, are in relationships so im screwed  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 8:53:32 PM | | Its probably cause I'm the vice-president of coolville and the ladies are just so intimidated by my position there that they don't want to message me...or something along those lines. Seriously, if I ever referred to women as "ladies", I'd probably shoot myself. Anywho, some of us were in long-term relationships and are not certain whether or not we are emotionally ready to date again. If we were to date and bring that emotional baggage into the relationship, even if it is only for a mac attack period of time, it would be unfair to the other party. Some people still respect the feelings of others | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 9:07:11 PM | | I need to cultivate my interests and really believe in the goals I've set out for myself before I can expend the energy of fighting tooth and nail to get into a longterm relationship. And secondly I haven't been out of a 4(1/2) year relationship more than 3 months. I only realized these things after people here in the forums told me so. But if something happens between me and somebody else in the meantime I certainly won't stop it. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 9:11:42 PM | Well in my case I spent almost 7+ years without going on a date... Mainly because I had a bunch of health problems that needed to be resolved. Well, a few months ago, I got things resolved for the most part, so now am ready. One of the reasons I joined POF. I had looked around here and found no women who were even remotely interested in dating. And after checking, I found out escorts were way too expensive so just hung out and hoped POF would work. Unfortunately, I have had lots of responses, but almost all of them live clear across the country. Of the 3 here that sent me an email, (None of the women I emailed replied), one left for about 4 months on an extended vacation, one I heard from a few times and then nothing...and the last, I went out with her, but she is a commitment Phobe and wants to remain eternal friends until I can prove myself to her. She says I am her friend and she doesn't have sex with her friends. And that she is in no rush to have sex or get into any kind of relationship other than friendship... So basically she is out, although I will remain friends with her...
So still not really dating... and am kind of in the same position I was months ago when I first joined. I do have a lot of female email friends though... Much good it does me... Oh well
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 9:30:03 PM | Too busy on my comp...LOL
So busy with work, school and taking care of my kids.
Also I need to take my time, slowly taking down the walls. Need to be comfortable when meeting someone. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 9:40:21 PM | For me, it's because I ended a 2 year relationship last month. I went through a lot and am not ready to meet anyone or start dating right now at all.
However, I really enjoy the forums and talking with some of the people on this site. So you never know what could end up happening eventually. A lot of relationships start with getting to know each other through friendship. Therefore, I'm not ruling anything out.  | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:08:04 PM | I used to be one of those people. Trust me, it wasn't by choice. I WANTED to go on dates but that requires a woman to say yes when I ask her out.
Lately though I have been having more success because I have gained some confidence and been asking a bit more often. With practice I got better at my methods and found some success. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:12:51 PM | Well heres the reasons
1) the girl i ask tells me she wants to stay single, yet goes out with the next guy who asks, who also happens to be more attractive.
2) I do get a date with a girl, but she tells me she just wants to be friends
3) I get a date with a girl, and things good great, call her up, and she tells me she just started to date someone yesterday, when OUR date was the day before that!
4) I get told that she cant see herself dating me, because she cant see herself Fukking me!
5) I am too NICE!!!!!
6) I am too much like one of her Ex's
7) Because I was in the Marines
8) I dont do drugs and get piss azz drunk every nite
9) I am just not her type
10) she is too busy with work or school, but finds time when someone more attractive comes along
And yes everything that I said either did HAPPEN or was Said to me!!!!! | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:14:38 PM | | The chimp in charge of my social calendar keeps deterring my dates because he wants to stay in and play scrabble. That, and I live at the end of the road and don't get out much. I should make an effort though. I'll pounce at the next available opportunity where I can't resist. If I have any baggage, I've forgotten by now. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:19:19 PM | | I am still recouping from my wife leaving me just before Hurricane Rita struck my home town. Several women have indicated that they want a relationship, but I'm just not really interested. Friends and buddies are what I need now, lovers and more later. Am I crazy, probably, but that's how I feel. I need companionship without too much intimacy, I think. Or I could be crazy...it may be. | |
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| If you're single and not dating, what's your reason?
Posted: 7/20/2006 10:31:04 PM | | I want to be selfish for a change. I just want to focus on school, work, and myself. I tried pulling it all off in a relationship but it left me putting him on the back burner. Sounds kind of harsh.. I know. | |
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