| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:36:44 PM | Dated this girl couple of years back... Found out 2 weeks in she was a recovering crackhead... (insert boot in ass pic here ) needless to say it was over at that point..
Was i wrong in doing so?! I dont think so...
Once a cracker always a cracker...
just wanted to say to all you Previous Crackers that you need to Keep it REAL and stay straight
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:42:19 PM | hmmm, ........ a lil harsh there dont ya think?
Yeah sure since they were addicted to some type of drug, they are more likely to go back. However, i think there are a few that stay away from that . Personally I dont think I would date a drug addict just because I have a daughter and i dont need for her to have any part of that in her life.  | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:55:03 PM | It would depend on what kind of drug they was on and since it is a "previous" wich means they arent on it anymore why not?.......people can change with someones help they can become a better person, if you walk out on them/away from them during their hard times they could/might just give up and NEVER try get help or kick the habbit but why would you even let your daughter around someone your dateing anyways?.....I don't think kids should be allowed to be around your date unless you both are serious and know what you want and know how long things will go, to many kids get emotional hurt by seeing men/women in N out of their father/mother lives. | |
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Banji
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Joined: 7/9/2006
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/21/2006 11:59:34 PM | | Yep...once a cracker always a cracker....unless they go thru some serious treatment/rehab including a maintenance plan on how to stay sober they are almost always relapse...safe yourself the agony....there are plenty of healthy fish out there....throw that one back in for those 'rescuers' who like to 'help' and 'fix' people...LOL | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:01:08 AM | Yeah me to....Dan_Gogh
I think what was done in their past should be LEFTER in their past and not brough into the future because bringing the past into "NOW" will/does hurt the both of them more than you will realize it i mean why should someones past, matter if they did NOT kill/rape someone. | |
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Banji
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Joined: 7/9/2006
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:13:54 AM |
I think its pretty shallow and heartless to end a relationship just because someone has done drugs in the past. Not to mention, their addiction is in the PAST. As in, they dont do it anymore. I'd have more respect for someone if they got out of it.
Wouldn't it be wise to find out these kinds of details BEFORE you start to date a person? And as for RESPECT...anybody who has kicked an addiction deserves all the Respect in the world...but respecting someone doesn't mean you have to date that person. | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:14:54 AM | Im sure that it may sound a lil hypocritical for someone who is a weed smoker to say.. but id be REALLY hesitant to date anyone who had any serious amount of their lives consumed by crack or heroin. (or even current heavy tobacco smokers)
Not saying I wouldnt in the right situation, but it would seriously be an obstacle to my trust.
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:18:32 AM | I agree with this post....
"Wouldn't it be wise to find out these kinds of details BEFORE you start to date a person? And as for RESPECT...anybody who has kicked an addiction deserves all the Respect in the world...but respecting someone doesn't mean you have to date that person."
And yes it would be WISE to know these kind of details before you two start to date i mean if you ask or talk about it in a calm/adult2adult manner than there should be no reason for the people, to get offended or mad because your asking.
And i guess to some it all depends on what kind of "drug" it was i mean if it was something like "pot" I could over look that and him smokeing pot would not bother me because there are some people, who know how to control their selves and know when its gone to far. | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:26:46 AM |
Yep...once a cracker always a cracker....unless they go thru some serious treatment/rehab including a maintenance plan on how to stay sober they are almost always relapse...safe yourself the agony....there are plenty of healthy fish out there....throw that one back in for those 'rescuers' who like to 'help' and 'fix' people...LOL
does rehab 3 times constitute a never gonna change cracker? | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:27:07 AM | Depends how long they have been clean. Personally if a gal has been clean for 3 to 5 years, I would give her a chance. Anthing to soon is to unstable. Takes a while to beat the want. Last time I was drunk was a decade ago and I quit smoking 6 years ago but I still get urges for 'em both.
A question came to my mind for you Brokenwing after reading what you wrote and I would like your opinion. Not to address the "why" they killed but what would be the differance between meeting a convicted felon who killed someone, did their time and stayed clean than say a cop or military person who had been given a license to kill and say the cop and military person have killed more people than the convict while on the job? | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:28:41 AM | I think I mentioned briefly in another thread that I've dated guys who have been into cocaine and heroin... And the experience wasn't that great. The guy who did heroin was "recovered" and very upfront about his problem. From the get go he assured me that was all in the past... But it seemed like as soon as a problem came up in his life he would go back to heroin, and everytime he had a relapse he would swear it was the last time... After a while I just got tired of the bullsh it and the drama...
I don't want to say I would NEVER date a guy who had been addicted to hard drugs in the past because one never knows... But if I found out a potential mate had been a drug addict I would definitely proceed with extra caution... I mean, it's one thing to have dabbled with hard drugs in the past and another to have been an addict. With an addict I would constantly be worried about a relapse or something, whether my worries were founded or not... | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:29:32 AM |
"Wouldn't it be wise to find out these kinds of details BEFORE you start to date a person? And as for RESPECT...anybody who has kicked an addiction deserves all the Respect in the world...but respecting someone doesn't mean you have to date that person."
And yes it would be WISE to know these kind of details before you two start to date i mean if you ask or talk about it in a calm/adult2adult manner than there should be no reason for the people, to get offended or mad because your asking.
And i guess to some it all depends on what kind of "drug" it was i mean if it was something like "pot" I could over look that and him smokeing pot would not bother me because there are some people, who know how to control their selves and know when its gone to far.
it was crack..
im a blazer myself... but i dont think a cracker would make a good wife/mother for my children.... maybe im just insensitive... | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:30:26 AM | technolackey
You know what this is about U and this PERSON....it should not matter what we all think or say what you should do because after all were not liveing yalls life and you KNOW how you feel and you KNOW rather, or not this person will seriously change for the better or worse.
I don't think someone whos a crackhead/pothead/drinking can NEVER change i think its ALL UP TO THEM TO CHANGE because if they truly want to change and care about someone then they will start getting help and try to better, their lives and make them N the other persons realtionship/lives alot happier. | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:43:56 AM | | Living it right now my friend.It depends on how strong you are to handle it and If you care and see value in that person between the fog.Its no use trying to stop it as the will always find something to blame on you as they live in denial of their addiction.They have to bottom out before anything can be done,and want to help themselves and want to change a lot of people just can't handle Tramas in their lives and they get weak and take the drugs and alcohol to cure that pain and go on a mental vacation or they end up killing themselves.In reality its a bad thing to go out with an addict as they are good liars and can mask their addiction for a while and sooner or later it comes out then you live an emotional roller coaster for a long time.But the key is are you strong enough to handle that and do you care for them that much and know if there is a real person in there.The person I'm in volved with is a beautiful person inside and doesn't see it even though she's left me I will never give up on this person as I would never want to see her fall and I would always be there for her no matter what as she touched me in a special place and it is so sad that she hates herself and has tried to kill herself at one time.When I came into her life I almost had her off for three months before she went back on but I believe in her and one day she will get healthy but if she fall I will be there to pick here up as I will always love her.Its up to what you believe and you can do so if you love her and believe in her just be there for her as she has to know someone cares and she does have somewhere to turn ,its not going to be easy. | |
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lira
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Joined: 6/8/2006
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/27/2006 12:58:12 PM | | WOW! That is a little harsh man! There are addicts like myself that have cleaned up their act and done rehab and rebuilt their lives. There are some addicts that can't quit but there are a lot that can if doing the right things. I am very proud of myself clean 4 years, 2 jobs, healthy lifestyle, will I go back? One day at a time is all I can say. I know there are a lot of people that have been hurt pretty bad and burned in the past by addicts, every individual is different, it's your choice to not every date an addict again, or if they have some clean time, and you physically see how they live then I would put all that crap from the past behind you. | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/27/2006 1:40:20 PM | My s/o is a recovering meth addict.. once recovering, always recovering. There are some days where she she gets really down and wishes she could get her hands on some, and admittedly, it really stresses me out but I always stick around there as long as she's willing to fight the urge and pick herself back up.
There were a couple weeks last month where things were very bad and she actually did coke as a substitute (granted there were a lot of things going on at the time) but she told me about it and after the initial outrage and disappointment we worked through it.
We've both agreed to give up all drugs and even alcohol, leaving us with a lot of time for chainsmoking.. lol.
Anyway, my point is some people deal with recovering addicts better than other and if you can't.. maybe find out BEFOREHAND and cut off the relationship right there instead of being an ignorant and inconsiderate ***hole, what with your BOOT TO ASS and all. That kind of pissed me off, in all reality. How is someone supposed to recover if they keep getting thrown to the curb for letting someone who is supposed to care about them know that they aren't in fact PERFECT. | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/27/2006 1:47:26 PM | | There is no way I would get involved with a drug addict or a former drug addict. Been there, done that, bought that sad, ugly little t shirt. Cocaine or any form of it is a very horrible drug, and changes a person in ways you can not imagine unless you have been with such a person. Perhaps some can change but I just can't deal with it. | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/27/2006 1:50:30 PM | No NO NO...I am a cracker, she is a crackhead - BIG difference...
Cracker (pejorative), a slang term for a white person, usually considered pejorative.
A crackhead is a person who is addicted to crack cocaine.
Thank you, WIKIPEDIA...
Fry
and if they really wanna stay clean they will; it's all a matter of choice....if you don't choose to be with her because of her former addiction, that's your choice too.... | |
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| Anyone else think Dating someone with a previous Drug Addiction is a BAD idea?!
Posted: 7/27/2006 8:27:53 PM | | Actually, if a person is in recovery it is encouraged that they don't date or get involved in relationships. One setback or disagreement in the relationship could cause them to fall back on their drug of choice. Maybe writing them off totally is kind of harsh, but best to just be a friend until they get healthy. In the end it is your decision, if you cannot handle the ups and downs that will surely be there--then you have to do what is best for YOU. | |
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