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Posted: 7/22/2006 11:57:45 AM | | Ok, this is my first time ever creating my own post on the site.....so I am gonna make this simple and to the point.....For the past few weeks, I have been trying to get a certain man's attention on here, and he won't respond back to me....I have read his profile dozens of times, stared at all his pictures over and over again...he stays in my mind all day long wherever I go...work, mall, hair and nail salon, etc etc....I get these strange urges and desires I have never felt with anyone....we have never dayed each other, but I have let him know that I want him for me!.....Whenever he posts on the forums....I reply after him and always mention his user name to let him know I am interested...I am a big fan of his poetry on the forums as well....I always tell him how much I love his poetry, and how I wanna see him....What can I do to get his attention???...I know he isnt seeing anyone right now cause he just broke up with someone not too long ago, and posted on the forums about it.....He is in mind when I go to sleep and awake....the way he words things on the forums shows me he has a golden heart, deep intellect and his pictures just make me melt....what should I do to get him for me???? | |
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| No response from him!!!!!!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:02:22 PM | | If there's no response from him, it most likely means he isn't interested. You may be coming across as way to desperate too...and no-one wants that. | |
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| No response from him!!!!!!
Posted: 7/22/2006 12:03:55 PM | Hhmmm.
I suggest you might want to leave him the Hell alone. Sounds like he has made his point. You need to respect that, and move on. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 12:04:00 PM | You sound more than infatuated... you sound obsessed.
I don't know about you.. but why are you interested in him
and he doesnt respond or anything?
( shows no interest in you )
You might try to email him and say hello
and if he doesnt get back with you and
does not respond to you...
just get over it and him because
he may be involved with someone or
something.
Its not healthy your obsessing about this guy and
he doesnt even acknowledge you. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 12:04:00 PM | Hon, he's obviously not interested. You're entering Stalker Territory.
Give up!! | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 12:05:57 PM | | Sorry, but I have to agree with everyone else. He just isnt interested, and his lack of response should be an indicator to that. Move on......... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 12:14:09 PM | | I guess you are right, but if you'd ever see what I see in him when I look at his profile, maybe you would see why its so hard to just wanna give up like that...his words are so heart-warming, and his eyes are so seductive ....the way he writes his poetry and posts on the forums makes it hard not to wanna keep trying, the way he talks on the forums trying to help others with advice....his words just get to me | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 12:27:47 PM | The other posters have it spot-on. Reading your post, my own male instincts scream out "Ack, unstable crazy lady! Run!" But I'll attempt to answer your question of what you could do, at least improve to attract others like him. Work on your profile! It wasn't hard to trace back and see who exactly you're a fan of, and to start, the two of you are looking for very different things. Listing yourself as seeking an intimate encounter is a probable turn-off for most men who are poets at heart, and for that matter, most men who want anything more than sex. Add more text to your profile to show that you are interesting or clever, and that you have a diverse range of interests. For me, a profile with very little text shows that she either has few attributes to show off, or isn't willing to put the work into attracting someone. Aren't you?
Consider adding a picture to a profile. It shouldn't need to be said how much this helps online singles. And finally, before you send ANY mail, take a five minute walk, think about what you wrote, and come back and ask yourself "Would *I* enjoy recieving this mail? And do I come off as a literate, interesting, non-desperate individual?
Good luck. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 1:01:54 PM | youre sounding like a stalker and he probably read this and is thinking the same thing. Move on girl | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 1:02:01 PM | | youre sounding like a stalker and he probably read this and is thinking the same thing. Move on girl | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 1:21:14 PM | And are you wondering why he isn't responding...Jesus Girl......I run to if I was him...You are obsessing/chasing him on a dating site..and you haven't even dated.....if you're like that here...imagine what he thinks you are like in real person.....
He's smart not to respond to you..... | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 1:46:05 PM | | OP....I just checked out your profile...says you are looking for an Intimate Encounter.....so WHY is this such an issue with this guy? | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 2:01:30 PM | He isn't interested if he hasn't responded. You might be irritating him. Just move on...show interest in someone else...or let someone show interest in you. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 2:06:10 PM | | Your "soul"mate appears to be looking for talk/email, while you are looking for an intimate encounter. And reading some of your responses to him, you are not being very subtle. I'd suggest doing as others have said, and back off. You're scaring me, and I'm not the one you are stalking. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 2:12:17 PM | Oh dear gosh I wish someone would try and post right after me and mention my name all over the forums. It has been my life-long dream! How I long for you! Why can't I have you for me? Why must you like him? Give me a chance!
Okay, but really, don't. You're scaring me and that's hard to do.
It isn't healthy; get over him. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 2:24:09 PM | Are you in love with him OR who you think he is?
Now that would be the question to be asking your-self. Chances are most likely the latter part of the answer.
I have seen many forums to do with love crushed souls like yours, asking, "how do I get over this person" and so forth.
I know for a fact, how strong one could yearn to be with someone to the point where life is meaningless for them with-out. My daughters mother was my first love, at the time no other caught my eyes, they were simply invisible to me. When she broke-up with me, I wanted to no longer exist.
But now so many years after, so many more relationships after, it's nothing more than fanciful stories to tell my grand-children.
Chances are you are seeing what you want to see. A lot of people men and women alike get traped within this trap.
His poetry speaks of 'love' and all those beautiful things asssociated with it, but the reality may be that he has superficial qualities too, like for example; yearning for 'looks' more then love in its deeper more esoteric forms.
You are still very young, 22 I believe. When you get older given that you are brave enough to see what life has for you, you will be abl to see everyone for their fallibilities, not their perfections. Then you can experience love for what it really is, the good and the bad.
I know how you feel, been there, done that. Met women who couldn't seem more perfect combatibility wise yet for what ever reason they did not see so.
You have to learn to live life kowing that you will NOT allways get the answers you deserve and there will always be questions left un-answered.
I'm deeply sorry, but you are not what he is looking for.
Best of luck to you.  | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 2:25:45 PM | | I can only imagine what you'd do with his phone number. There'd be long messages of your undying lust and vivid fantasies and some ramble about you both being 'perfect soul mates' clogging up his voicemail until he'd have to change his phone number and flee the country for asylum. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 2:32:19 PM | > says you are looking for an Intimate Encounter.....
> so WHY is this such an issue with this guy?
I think I can answer that. Anyone who is specifically looking for an IE is more likely to have had IE's with lots of people from online already, and to be infected with some STD. At least, that's an easy way to see it. Besides, many men are looking for more than sex, and want to be desired for more than sex.
I actually specifically refrain from messaging people who are looking for intimate encounters simply because they look like an interesting person because, as I understand it, PoF has a policy of flagging you as having messaged someone for an intimate encounter if you do so. And I'd rather not have that on my record. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 2:36:56 PM | Now now, lets not all make this lady out to be some twisted personality.
Most of us have been there to one degree or another, at one time in our life or another.
Aside from what most people think, normal people, men and women can and do lose control and sensibility. It's a myth, that stalkers are always these depraved, desperate souls grabing anything that gives them the smallest attention.
How many times, have I heard women instantly fall for some guy they just met? How many times have I seen guys go too far out of the ordinary for a women? Too many times.
She will learn in time, so just to keep perspective.
Peace-out. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 4:52:18 PM | | Well my my my...guess the e-mail I got from another member was true...."Sweet-n-Spicy", why are you so obsessed with me??...its so obvious you were talking about me another member sent me an e-mail about it...yes you do follow me around the forums and compliment all my poems...I appreciate your compliments....but why are you so into me???...I am just the average guy who isnt wealthy...I dont have much to offer in the materialistic realms...so why are you all about me ...when there are so many others to choose?????...Its very obvious to some who posted on this thread, cause they mentioned part of my user name and whats on my profile....dang .....you told on yourself....naughty girl! | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 5:55:40 PM | | you sound a little crazy maybe you should just LAY OFF. I think that you're on the verge of stalkerish. That's crazy, and if he hasn't responeded to any effort that you have made he's obviously NOT interested in you. leave him alone. move on i'm sure there's someone out there just as crazy as you are. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 6:38:51 PM | | Wow a few of you were a little harsh! So what if she is following him around online and lusting after him? She can't get to him in reality unless he gives her some personal information. I myself think it just comes down to we sometimes want what we can't have and if this guy made himself available to her she would suddenly lose interest. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2006 7:14:42 PM |
So what if she is following him around online and lusting after him? She can't get to him in reality unless he gives her some personal information.
You don't really need much personal information at all to find out other personal information about people on the internet. If she really wanted to and had the knowledge she could probably figure out his home address without him giving it up. Internet stalking and regular stalking are both very creepy. | |
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