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Posted: 7/23/2006 8:18:17 PM | Is it me .. or is this whole thing a bunch of bullcrap?? I talk to people.. respond to emails.. and it seems like a merry go round.. Nothing happening here.. just wasting time it seems..
I think I give up.. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:19:57 PM | | Same things happens in the "real world", bars, clubs, library, etc. If you give up here...you are just..giving up. Your call tho. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:41:59 PM | HEy-- dont give up- just remove your second pic-- the body shot one makes you look like you're 12! Seriously-- get it off now, and put on a more demure pic-- something outdoorsy even... just a thought. Also, I havent had the greatest luck here myself-- one date, and LOTS of chats online and via phone... so keep your options open- stay on LOTS of dfferent sites so you have more than just one example to go by. You're an attractive woman from what I see on the first pic - wish I had a head of hair like yours! So, just try some new pics, take off that second pic and see what happens! Good luck! MJS | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:47:46 PM | Dont rely on just one dating site or the internet to meet someone....
There is a big world out there.
With online dating I found many I met to live in some cyber fantasy world...
often pretending or believing they were something they werent...
and in many cases it ticked me off they wasted my time to meet them being that was
the case.
I found that I needed lots of breaks... and when I started again... I would
meet guys like a job interview/ business arrangement.. to weed them out quickly.
Once you meet someone who wastes your time with email and phone for a few months
and then when you finally meet them and they look worse then Frank N. Stein...
often too
with a lopsided view of what is reality and what is fantasy....
you will stop wasting too much time with anyone until after you meet them face to face
and go from there.
People often post old pictures, tell inaccurate info.. etc etc.
Eventually you can meet someone
but you have to keep from getting bogged down with people who arent right for you.
I eventaully meet someone who is not only attractive/ sexy but gainfully employed,
not a druggie/ alcoholic and not sitting on a mountain of debt or personal issues.
He is a loving, considerate, thoughtful and emotionally mature man.
They are out there...
but they are rare.
Learn to meet them... and say "next"... when you feel its not JUST RIGHT
because there is someone out there just right for you.....
take care of yourself because nobody else is going to.....
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 8:48:16 PM | LOL. Thanks for the tip.. The second picture is really just to show my size.. lol.. I didnt know it made me look 12 lol.. Thanks..  | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 9:08:35 PM | | This site isn't going to be for everyone. Your an adult, if u feel it's a bull **** waste of time u should leave. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:10:09 PM | | Just enjoy your time here. Spend time in forums and after a while, you'll become acquainted with people from here and that might even lead to a meeting or two. It's definitely NOT instantanious, but I think it works ~ from what I've been told. Good luck. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 10:13:09 PM | There are many paid sites out there. First, let me say a BIG "thank you" to the owner(s) of this site. They have provided hands-down one of the best dating sites on the internet, and it somehow continues to be free.
With that said, I'm really not so sure any of this is worth it.
I'm a fairly common fixture on these message boards, and there is a LOT of people complaining. For the most part, it is about people simply not being "real". They didn't call back. They lied in their profile. They took the best picture they've ever had of themselves, but they typically look nothing like that in person. They this. They that.
It seems to me that the common progression on these sites is to email back and forth several times, then meet. At that point, it is pretty much like meeting someone in "real" life. But until then, it is a lot of time spent trying to "feel" someone out first.
But from my experiences, I have honestly found that 90 percent of the time, the person isn't who they claim to be. Or there is simply no chemistry. Or they left something out of their profile that makes them a no-go. Etc etc.
I'll be honest, and say that I'm rather disenchanted with online dating by now. I've spent a lot of time trying to find someone I'm compatible with, and went out with quite a few girls, but nothing has really come of it. I continue to log in, because I honestly don't have many other venues to meet people. There must be a better way to "filter" people, so we users don't waste so much time. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 11:08:30 PM | Some seem to come on here and meet and it works right away ... others, it's like a shot in the dark.
I have found that I meet the nicest folks in the forums and don't know if that's where I'll eventually meet the right man ... but then I'm not really "looking" right now ... don't do profile searches ... just playing. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 7/23/2006 11:19:52 PM | | looking for love is like trying to find lost keys... If you look hard for them your not going to find them but once you relax you'll find it when you least expect it. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 10:35:02 AM |
looking for love is like trying to find lost keys
At this point I, too, have given up looking for the keys because I have forgotten where the car is parked---but then I don't remember what the car looks like or the joy it might have give me. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 11:06:46 AM | | You just ahve to hang in there...I've been off and on for a year or so....there was quite a bit of action at first...talked to alot, met a few and dated one for awhile. Came back, got bored and left...came back, now I could get someone to sput on me if I was on fire!! Bad analogy but.....mayne it made ya laugh. Point is, I comeone every so often to see what's up but don't get discouraged!! | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 1:01:00 PM | "or is this whole thing a bunch of bullcrap??"
It is if you take it seriously. This is only adult entertainment.
“Same things happens in the "real world"
You can’t compare the ”real; world” with online dating......
“Takes time to get things going at first.”
Wrong! You receive lots of messages initially when new and it declines to nothing. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 4:04:31 PM | | It works ... just doesnt work for everyone ... is that maybe a reflection of "real life" who knows ... after all this is a networking tool ... and thats all ... and not the answer many are looking for ... | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 5:01:37 PM | | I dated on and off here and ya know what it's almost the same as dating out there in the real world. You'll come across picky people and all sorts. Even if you get weary of dating take some time off from it and focus on you ( in that time is better ) and when your ready to date get back into it. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 7:11:04 PM | Speaking for myself I have found it actually easier to get attention in real life than I do online! Its ironical but exploring online hurts my ego, going out boosts it but I still do both, going out takes more energy.
Having said that, I find nighclubs to be a terrible choice to meet someone new as ironical as that might sound. But that is mostly because I am not a club guy so I cant play that venue as well as some. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 7:13:47 PM |  It's easy too get jaded of the dating scene. Especially online. However, this is a pretty vague thread, I don't even know if your male or female. So if your profile is that vague as well, perhaps thats why it has not panned out for you. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 7:31:03 PM | | Yea, we all hit those rough spots and some are longer than others. Take a break if you need to but not too long, gotta get back to phishing | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 8:08:15 PM | | Personally I enjoy the forum. The profile crapola is just mostly for women to reaffirm that someone wants them. Few ever get responses. Dont give up but dont expect a lot from the profile posting unless you actually take it serious, if so dont expect so you dont become disappointed. | |
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| Gving up on this whole idea..
Posted: 10/11/2009 11:14:51 PM | I think dating on this site goes in seasons. Whenever people have less time they are on here. Basically, they can't go out and get someone due to time constraints so they stay in and find someone. Usually in September, May or between Thanksgiving and Christmas.
I've had too many dates from this site to know that it works. Just beware of the sanity of some people. | |
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