| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 4:00:49 PM | I got rejected from a lady who believed capricorn should not be in a relationship with Aries.
How accurately would you believe in sun signs to determine the future of relationships.
Does this mean being an Aries man, I should prefer women of Sagittarius,Leo,Gemini and Aquarius.
I realize that I have a lot of similarities in the qualities an Aries man is supposed to have.
1. Do you think astrology really is a good indicator of relationships?
2. What were your experiences in dating women who had incompatibe sun signs?
http://www.astrology-online.com/love.htm has compatibility information.. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 4:26:29 PM | LOL, well look at it like this...some people believe in sun signs as a religion. Would you date someone who your religion says is bad for you? LOL ok maybe a bad analogy but you get the point...
I can tell you this...my ex his birthday is in April, I think he is an Aries...I am a virgo...we had issues...controlling on his part...and the signs say we shouldn't date...LOL I am forever cautious of that aries man now...Even the chinese signs said we shouldn't date...LOL But I don't use that as a reason not to date someone...Everyone is different and everyone deserves a chance!!! LOL But I do raise one eyebrow when I hear he is the same sign as my ex...LOL
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 4:28:13 PM | | you need to take into account rising sign and where your moon is. these indicators are as important as the sun sign. you really can't tell a whole lot without knowing those. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 4:31:12 PM | Annette,
Thats a well made point.Did you notice,we are somehow judging people based on sun sign.It kills the instinct of exploring the mystery behind them.Instead im like "oh she is a virgo and so she must be ...
Although a lot of positive qualities should be observed in that person based on the sign, we still judge the negative character before experiencing fully..Dont you feel this weakens our ability to romanticize or idealize our partner initially? | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 4:42:46 PM | ***you need to take into account rising sign and where your moon is. these indicators are as important as the sun sign. you really can't tell a whole lot without knowing those.***
as a capicorn myself i know that everytime i mooned in the sun i had a real ass burn. so i know this shit works. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 5:07:40 PM | It's just a guideline. Ex: if someone is complaining about their man's infidelity, I automatically ask is he Scorpio. never fails. Normally Aquarians and Cancers don't match, I attract them like a magnet , must be bad karma  | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 5:22:02 PM | I was actually proven by an independant of over 10,000 people that horoscopes are totally bogus. They are mostly followed by women,like about 80% women
Most men are too busy fixing their car or doing something of value to read about sun signs.
My advice:
If a woman does not want to date you because of your sign she is a flake, you lucked out that she broke up with you.
If you stayed together she might of conned you into 'the ancient cerimony of summoning the unicorn' or something like that | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 5:23:30 PM | Hello.
Whether or not the signs mean you should avoid potential dates is a bit of a misnomer.
They can certianly help you to get a general idea about a person and what they might be like.I've used them when trying to find out about the way a person might approach some thing(ie.training,fun,money).
Going by my experiences with friends and family the signs are usually a good source of information.
There only generalities and a guide.
Even with an in depth profile done there will be some room for play as peoples skills in life can help them to deal with different personalities and difficulties that might arise.
Soooo,those people who leave out others based on signs are missing possible mates or what ever their looking for.
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 5:40:33 PM | | How would you react if they said that Jesus forbade her from dating you? Or buddha said it'd be bad karma? Or the galatic hedge hog would open the gates of hell and an 8 headed snake would rise from the ashes if you two had coffee? | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 6:17:05 PM | The "study" mentioned about astrology was based on articles that commonly occur in the newspaper....not on charts based on a person's birthdate, longitude/lattitude and comparisons of personality attributes.
IN another study .....MOST professional athletes were found to be ARIES...without any other explanation. Aries is the first sign of the Zodiac 00 the sign of soldiers and conquerers.
I have studied astrology for more than ten years seriously, and just did a chart today for a guy I met here...who remarked it was interestingly accurate....and seemed a bit amazed.
I am an ARIES -- with a Capricorn Moon. What you have been told by this woman is wrong. It is not based on accurate knowledgte and she either lacks formal education in this or she may simply not like you well enough to date you. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/24/2006 9:46:26 PM | People are judgemental by nature unfortunately...what is really the difference between saying a blonde does this or that as opposed to a virgo is this or that way! I don't go asking someone there sign...but I will forever be cautious! LOL
Honestly if someone basis the decision to date someone simply on a sign....do you really want to date them after that? Seriously, I dont mean to be cruel but I do feel it is very narrow minded. Like I said, using a sign to somewhat play into it...doesn't hurt but don't just use that...seriously...if we were all the same than anyone with a birthday in Sept would be called Annette...thank goodness that isn't the case...don't know if this world can handle me, let alone another one!!! LOL
I do think it weakens the ability to truely enjoy something...but look at everything else...all the books and movies that place ideas in our heads. Or what about our personal preferences or generalizations...such and such type of person it like this? We all do it, just some of us more than others...I do have restrictions on what type of a man I will date but by no means is it based on their sun sign!!!
Just let her go, you really wanna date someone who thinks like that?
Hugs Annette | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/26/2006 7:58:55 PM | People tend to believe whatever they want to believe.
Right-wing-wacko talk radio hosts like Rush Limbaugh will scream and yell that scientists are stupid and there is no evidence of human-related global warming, and then proceed to dig up some anecdotal evidence to back this view.
On the other hand, a series of particularly hot summer days will cause people declare that this is proof of global warming (ignoring the fact that devastating climate change may only be a degree or two) and will also proceed to find some anecdotal evidence to counter Rush's anecdotal evidence.
Neither side is using any rational scientific consideration of known data.
So it is with astrology. (Don't we know this already?) How ridiculous to pre-judge people by what day they were born on.
What if they came into the world with a pre-scheduled C-section birth? Do the doctor schedules turn them into different kinds of people?
What if they were extracted from their mother's womb early because of a car accident or some other trauma? What if they were born late?
How many non-anecdotal scientific studies conclude that Astrology is an accurate way of pre-judging people?
If you reject someone because someone says they have the wrong birthday for you, does that mean that someone who has the perfect birthday will be your perfect mate? That could be a very hazardous assumption considering how many dangerous guys in prisons were born on each day of the year.
If anyone out there determines that I’m the perfect match for them because I popped out of my mother on some particular day, I can confidently tell you that the likelihood of me being their match just dropped several points.
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/26/2006 10:44:40 PM | | Well, no idea without meeting her. Some of my good friends are born under signs supposedly incompatible with me...I have met men here supposedly a sign compatible wth me and did not hear from them after one date. Life is like that...Sometimes things work out, sometimes they do not. I was dateless several years, I just was not meeting single men and I really am not into dating married men-single, divorced or widowed is okay though, unless he's a cheater...Things are finally getting better, mainly because I am learning to take advice...But it may just be a polite way of letting you down easy....Most women I know are fairly kindhearted that way.... | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/26/2006 11:44:22 PM | I find astrology interesting and coincidental, but that is it. I certainly don't live by it, and I wouldn't base a relationship on it. Maybe it is a coincidence that my ex-husband matched his sign personality, and that it did clash with my sign, and maybe it wasn't. Who really knows for sure?
One thing that I have noticed is that people with the same signs have similar personality traits, but that really doesn't prove anything. I guess it's all in what you believe. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/27/2006 12:32:52 AM | Junipermoon is right, technically. You don't have to buy into astrology, but if you're going to, don't even bother with the whole sun sign/newspaper bullhockey.
The reason why sun signs have become so big is that most people do know when their birthday is, and when you know that, it's easy to figure out what your sun sign is--but when people seriously *used* it in their everyday lives, the time of day was just as important if not more so.
If you want to get a free horoscope with tons of detail, try http://www.astro.com . You can just type in the info, as much as you know--and if you're interested in someone and know their info, you can check a lot of details, not just the sun sign.
I don't remember who said this, I ought to, but it's good: "The stars influence, they do not compel."
True story: an astrologer told my parents before they were married that they would never have a successful relationship, that it would be over in six months. Dad strongly suspects that the guy wanted to get into Mom's pants. 35+ years later and they're still laughin' about that one . . .
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/27/2006 1:21:11 AM | Aw, man, everyone knows Capricorn should not be in a relationship with Aries...
I mean..pffft!
unless their moon is in Virgo also, but even then it's kind of dicey. I'd avoid just in case. Definately not worth the chance. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/27/2006 1:49:03 AM | What I have found amazing to a certain degree that the other signs that are supposedly compatible with Aries, is Leo and Sag, which are the two other Fire Signs of the universe.
Geez, two Fire Signs, dating each other, I bet that they would make a lot of heat. lol
Yes, using astrological sings is a reference, yet, to a certain degree, it seems to work, but then again, depending on their backgrounds and such, they can be GOOD for each other, or their worst enemy.
I would like to see it, as they can be good for each other.
Supposidely, if it IS, correct, that Leo and Sag are good matches for Aries, then, the best one for Aries out of Leo and Sag, is Sag.
Why?
To a certain degree, Aries, and Sag, have similar qualities, yet different from each other, in their own unique way.
So, I guess it ALL depends upon the individuals.
That is my 2 cents worth.
Sincerely
GLBTH | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/27/2006 3:16:56 AM | More and more I think there is "something" in it.
I taught about 80 students this last year. The tedious paperwork at the end involved copying out their dates of birth and I noticed patterns, although not strictly by signs. The ones born in spring, like me, were the ones that I'd found easier to communicate with whilst the ones born in winter seemed more mature, independent. The most difficult ones who had temper tantrums and sulked endlessly turned out to be virgos, which doesn't somehow fit the expectation.
I noticed that the ones who'd talked to me a lot and who picked up really fast what I was thinking -- where you catch a person's eye and they laugh because they are finding the same thing funny -- were the ones with birthdays within a couple of days of my own. But looking closer, the tauruses didn't only include sensitive, thoughtful people I'd be happy to chat to for hours but also the two most brutish, who you'd really not want to meet on a dark night. I have read somewhere that there are two types to each sign -- a higher type with the better qualities and a low type with all the worst characteristics.
Maybe there's "something" in it. But it seems pretty dodgy really as a method of predicting whether you'll get on with someone. I mean, just within the tauruses there were sweet boys that help their mum's and adore their gf's and there were foul-mouthed brutes who thought violence was the answer to everything... They did all seem stubborn though, I'll give it that much. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 7/27/2006 6:52:27 AM | Here is a decent test for astrology:
1. Choose a group of 20+ people.
2. Have each write their name and birth date on a sheet of paper
3. Go to another room and pick one of the birthday's at random
4. Have an astrologer (or a computer program) generate a horoscope for that birthday.
5. Print this one horoscope 20 times (or one for each participant).
6. Take the sheets of paper with the names and birthdays and affix them individually to the horoscopes. (i.e. everyone receives the same horoscope)
7. Return to the room an hand each person their own horoscope.
8. Ask them to rate how accurate the horoscope is on a scale from one to ten.
You will notice that half or more of the people in the room will rate the horoscope high. This is because horoscopes are not nearly as specific as people think they are. Just about any of the items in a horoscope will apply to most people. This is why they work.
Astrology should be used for entertainment purposes only. There is no scientific basis for its effectiveness.
In other words, count yourself lucky that you're not getting entangled in that mess. | |
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| Judging a relationship based on sun signs?
Posted: 9/29/2007 4:51:04 AM | capricorn is best with Virgo.. My ex is a Caricorn and I Virgo, he was a a worker that loved to work 24 -7 , with no time for family really !! Only a Virgo would put up with that as being the team player and detail person they are.. HOWEVER , only for so long .. and knowing Virgo way to long .. lol.. Cancer men are the family men.. Aries are never made for marriage !! or relationships of any lenth , grass is always greener some place lol. restless RAMS..  Best to look long an hard at what people do not say ,in the end all the little traits show ..OF that fire sign Aries  | |
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