| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:43:07 PM | Alright, I know this will probably sound like I'm b**ching, but I'm really confused about men right now.
The last guy I started talking with, seemed to be sweet. We met, hit it off. Got together a couple times, then all of a sudden, he starts bringing up the idea of sex. Now don't get me wrong, I enjoy sex...a lot, but we went out twice. Well, wouldn't you know it, he's no longer talking to me. Oh darn. LOL. But it's all good, glad I found out he was only after sex, before I did anything with him!!
But then, you look at the past few guys, and they're all the same. Sex this, and sex that. I actually had one tell me that he would be doing me a favor by sleeping with me, because I have meat on my bones. Are men in general just that****? | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:47:58 PM | Don't sweat it. Men that are looking for just sex show their hands earily. Thats a good thing.
One will come along that wants more dates, and your time. You will know when one looks at you all stary eyed, hanging on your every word. Don't see the other girls around. Then you know you really got him. Good luck. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:50:26 PM | | ALL men r after sex...Some r more honest about it then others tho.....I think tho the sex part wouldnt come up if the guys really interested in you...If i found a girl to my liking and we have some common interest then i will just go with the flow and see where it leads....Alot of guys i think use the sex part with women they are really not interestedingood luck>:) | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:50:31 PM | Not all guys are after sex, but most seem to be.
When you have sex is probably different for each couple. Sometimes the magic is this 'there' and neither can help themselves, and sometimes you with hold it to make sure its going to be lasting.
One thing to consider though, 'bringing up the idea' of sex probably isn't as bad as you are making it out to be. I mean, you say he's no longer talking to you but you really didnt' tell us your reaction to his musing.
And no offense, based on your profile you do kind of seem to have a chip on your shoulder. Maybe he didn't stop talking to you because you wouldn't sleep with him, but rather because you freaked out at the mere mention of it.
Just my observation and opinion. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:53:16 PM | NO.Nobody cann't help you to undertand men. Too many and all of them are different. Some of them don't know themselves.
NO. No all men aren't the same. Too many would see to have sex with you as gift of life. The
one who see you doing you a favor is because they feel weird fking something different than
a palm tree or a sheep. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:56:39 PM | maybe he thought you wanted sex. I dont want to be rude but your profile picture is very revealing. It most likly is sending the wrong message. After all most men are looking for sex. And if you look like your open about it with a revealing picture they will take the chance to bring it up.
btw you are very beautiful. :)
I would maybe try puting up more pictures of yourself showing different outfits that would be less revealing. might give a different idea of you who are. I dont know if that makes sence lol | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:57:10 PM | I think I am in the agreement that the subject of sex is brought up between two adults simply if there is an attraction between the two which is a great thing, come on let's not play all coy and pretend we are not sexual beings because we know that we are.
I personally believe that if a man is willing to wait for it and that could be any disclosed time frame that they are the keepers and if they walk away, then it's simply their loss and not your own.
Peace and happy fishing....................hr | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 12:59:59 PM | All men that date you a second time, want sex.
But some want ONLY sex and some want to get to know you as a person too and
even form a relationship. Trying to figure out which type they are is pretty easy. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 1:01:28 PM | | I dont think it matters if ur a man or a woman. Some are looking for onenights, other sexrelation, marriage etc etc. Its just to find someone that are looking for the same. And dont accept the bullshitters. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 1:02:49 PM | I agree with HR,
If a man didn't bring up sex after a couple of dates, I would wonder if he was GAY!
You can always say "I'm not ready for that kind of commitment right now"
JMHO
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 1:12:18 PM | Hey... I've been on dates with 72 different women... and I'm here to tell you that women are exactly the same way!
I *always* let the woman dictate the pace at which we move in the budding relationship... except I have a rule about not doing the wild thing on the first date, which I admit to violating a few times.
Judging from those experiences, on the average a woman waits until the third date before wanting it to turn sexual. Sometimes less, sometimes more. But never more than seven dates.... except with this one girl named Veronica... that I don't even want to get into right now. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 1:27:14 PM | {Alright, I know this will probably sound like I'm b**ching} No, you have a valid point.
Msg 10 is bang on and to expand on it men do need to relax about sex and exercise more self control. If men would say No more often that would probably help. Although I had a bad experience with this being called gay and other names when I said no. But I took it positively as it confirmed my decision to be the correct one.
However talking with a female co-worker just earlier about this same thing. I Love my non-politically correct office. She mentioned women can get sex "IF" they feel like it No Problem whereas men do not have this 'power' unless of course they paid for it. Which any guy with any integrity wouldn't do anyways. The point is we agreed men are just too eager thinking they will never get sex or they have to enquire to know or move on. Not realizing a little self constraint will pay off as the relationship develops. Doing a reality check this most likely isn't going to happen for most men but there are ones who stand out. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 1:56:06 PM | Bringing up the topic of sex isn't necessarily a bad thing. It can be playful and flirty, and help you get to know the person. I'm not referring to demanding sex, or being disrespectful.
Sometimes, if the mere insinuation of sex makes a person uncomfortable I might wonder why. Maybe the guys you've gone out with are interpreting your unwillingness to talk as an indication of your general comfort level with sex. That could instigate a good-bye in it'self. I'm not saying you're uncomfortable with sex, just that your lack of conversation or communication in that regard might be misconstrued as that.
Saying no to sex is a very different thing than having sex come up in the conversation. Just be clear with your boundaries and relax and enjoy some sexual content and playful inuendos. It could be fun and doesn't mean you'll end up in bed 15 minutes later.
Good luck.... | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 1:59:13 PM | Unless you are a eunich ... EVERYBODY wants sex at some point in their life! Some just get straight to the point a bit faster! If you don't like that approach, keep looking for someone who doesn't come on so strong about it!
Myself.. I want to know up front what you want.. if its just sex, so be it.  | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 7/26/2006 4:29:47 PM | | Sounds like you met the same guy I fell for. He told me after spending ALOT of time together that he only wants me for maintenance while he pursues other women here on fish. Are all men like this. My advise is stay away from the men in your town and stay away from men in Bedford Texas. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 5:37:42 PM | | Do all men want sex? what about tha God fearing ones? they ain't having sex? As for tha guy who thought he was doing you a "favor" yeah maybe like giving you a disease, uh no thanks and good thing you showed him tha door.Yeah, i was thinking tha same thing you might be giving off tha wrong impresssion w/ your pic. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 5:50:35 PM | | Most if not all men like sex and looking for it. Your picture is fine, not really revealing like some others that I saw, just the fact that some men think they can take advantage of you that all. Don't give in! Just keep looking, the right guy will show up. Good luck! | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 5:53:29 PM | | I think men are fed up with women who want men for something other then sex. We need sex, and women know it, so they seem to want everything but that. We don't have all the toys and power tools that women do. We have two hands and maybe a pocket P u s s y, if we are lucky. It is time for women to grow up and recognize that sex is life, and you are trying to deprive us of life. | |
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:06:25 PM |
Msg 10 is bang on and to expand on it men do need to relax about sex and exercise more self control.
Okay is it me, or does anyone else see the incredible contradiction in that statement. You want men to "Relax" and "excercise self control" at the same time? I would suggest you look up the definitions to both of them before using them in the same sentence again. Sorry sister not sure what planet you live on, but those two terms are in direct opposition to one and other. You boldly make a statement like that and wonder why some men (and before you jump on my bum, I said SOME not all) consider women to be head cases?
Perhaps what is necessary, is that everyone relax, and stop making assumptions about what everyone wants or doesn't want, and ask the bloody question instead. If you are on a first date and don't want to play the "will he/she won't he/she game", why not just get the bloody subject on the table and be done with it. If you are so bloody sure that a man wants something you don't why in the world are you going out with him in the first place? Common sense says you should already know where you are in this regard before you put the key in the ignition to head out.
Maybe instead of rushing into the first date, and worrying about all this claptrap and nonsense, before, during or after your date, you should instead take the bloody time to communicate and find out if you are both on the same page to begin with. I mean come on people, this is love and romance not bloody rocket science. You don't need a bloody doctorate to figure this out. Why is the simplest solution to every one of these kinds of problems the first one you disregard??
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| Can someone help me to understand men?
Posted: 10/2/2006 6:31:33 PM | | Well, thats why we date people for a while... to see if we're compatible. It's pretty hard to tell if someone is perfect for us just after one date. but after we get to know them we can start to tell if we're on the same wave-length. Obviously you and this guy were not since you did not want the same thing...it happens, just move on...But it's not smart to generalize all men based on your experiences with a few. It would be like me asking "Why do all women only care about how much money a guy makes?" | |
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