| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:22:39 PM | What really gets me, is when guys state in their profiles:
1. Do not contact me if you have a kid(s).
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2. Do not want children.
Yet, I have had a guys message me, with the above statements in their profiles. Honestly if you dont want to have any kids, then why would you correspond with someone who has one?
Are they afraid of extra baggage or something? What's your take on it?
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:26:08 PM |  Well let me tell you....these goons just better never show up at one of my Slaw Rebchuck Bridge parties.,cuz they will be taken on a nature walk.....and well never walk the same again.....now that's my comment!!!. | |
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LXS
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Joined: 6/11/2006
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:26:41 PM | if you cant fit in in the overhead storage compartment, then who needs it.
or maybe its the fear of being used...or pure stupidity...whatever works for ya. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:29:27 PM | Unfortunatly i cant answer for all men but i love kids i have two nieces that are the world to me right now, i dont have any of my own that i know of lol. I think some think it is extra baggage but if i was to date somone with kid(s) im not dating the kid(s), not saying i wouldnt interact and go to the park or somthing. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:30:01 PM | | And your point might be???: Sorry for L X S. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2006 10:34:31 PM | | some might put Does Not Want Kids just for the fact that they might not want kids of their own anymore...doesn't mean they don't like kids or don't want to date someone who has kids. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:40:14 PM | Have you had someone say they actually hate kids?. Cause thats just a miserable prick.
But chosing a lifestyle without kids is as valid a choice as a life with them.
For someone who has no children, deciding to have them, in any form, is a big decsion...as it should be.
I think the ones that message you are nibbling on the idea and possibly trying to be open minded.
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 10:43:13 PM | | Shoot i got kids and some days i dont even want them | |
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LXS
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Joined: 6/11/2006
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/30/2006 11:02:23 PM | | i have a 13 year old son, and i'm just saying that most guys aint into chicks with kids...too much baggage for them to deal with...(cant fit) thats all i'm saying. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 12:18:00 AM | | sometime exception gotta be made dont they, im willing to see if the grass is greener | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 5:21:35 AM | Exactly, you never know what you might be missing out on! You might just be passing over an incredible person just because they have kids. The same holds true though, for women who don't want to date guys with kids. Maybe it's these people, both men and women, can't handle that they will never be #1 in their partners eyes.
Although, it does seem that blended families are now more the norm than the exception nowadays. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 5:24:16 AM | LOl Write I can so see what you are saying !! Its a persons own choice I guess and I would rather have a guy be honest with me about it ahead of time than to start a relationship with me wasting my time in doing so. Even some guys who say they like kids etc can have trouble dealing with a girlfriends kids. Kids are not baggage in a relationship but someone who has kids has to always make sure the kids matter more than any person they are in a relationship with. Have a good day everyone  | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 6:08:54 AM | It is really all how you want to live your life and who you want to associate yourself with. Personally anyone who says they hate kids I would like to stay away from {far far away}.
Although there are people out there who say they care about others it's all just a ploy and they are always going to be the same selfcentered person they've always been. There is only one way to find out how a person is and that's to get to know them and when children are involved you will always need to keep an extra eye out.
Once bitten twice shy...Twice bitten well then you're really overly cautious..
just my 2 cents | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 6:51:35 AM | it ususally means they personally dont want kids, there isnt an option to say, i dont want any, but if you have thats ok.
MM | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 7:56:05 AM | | I personally do not have kids,but if i did meet someone with kids,i would gladly weclome them in.If Guys or women for that matter who do not want to get involved with someone with kids i can totally respect that,Maybe they have had their share of raising them and really don't want to be doing it again,but the thing i'm getting at....is ,at least state that in the proper manner is all. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:13:19 AM | I've always been attracted to guys with kids. For me I'd much rather date a guy with them.
I can understand, if you have 6 kids or whatever...that you dont want anymore, but why continue to message someone who has a kid. Ever think, what if this dating thing, gets totally serious, oops guess I'll have another kid?! Kids are not disposable. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:16:36 AM | | Well that sucks for me! LOL | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 10:28:11 AM | I would suspect that anyone who has in their profile "I don't want kids, if you have kids, don't contact me" than contacts you (Someone who has clearly stated she has kids) then he isn't really paying attention to your profile.
Likely he just saw your picture thought "Hey she's cute" and shot off an email.
Which sorta leads to the question "How serious is this guy if he can't be bothered to read my profile".
Of course that's just my 2 cents.... | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:32:56 AM | | well i geuss im out too lol | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 10:46:33 AM | | Very good point, mrkwyd1. Seems alot of guys on here dont read profiles. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 10:52:59 AM | I think mrkwyd hit the nail on the head. I really don't think a lot of people pay attention to the profile. They are looking at the pic and that's pretty much it. I know from my experience that they IM or email me to tell me I'm cute, then ask a bunch of questions, that could have been answered had they taken the time to read.
As for kids / no kids. That's a personal decision. It's not a determination of whether you are selfish / self centered. There is a lot to consider when kids are involved. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 10:55:41 AM | Lord please get my 22 yr. old son to be independent and living under his own roof.....I am tired of being his Maid.....22 years of dirty diapers, scrapes, bruises, cooking meals and picking up after.....I need a break!
Does not want kids is just what it says. This doesn't say "Hates Kids". I don't want any more of my swim team members to try cloning me is all. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2006 10:59:47 AM | Well said Dano.
I have made my choice to not have any children at all.
I believe that when a person makes thier choice to be Childless, thier decision should be respected.
Why is it that some people immediately label or assume that Childless people are "Kid Haters"? At one time, I have been looked down on and called a "Non-Parent".
I replied that I made my choice & I'm proud to be a "Non-Parent"!
I would also like to mention;
In this "Information Age" of the many kinds of available protection from pregancy, it's astounding to know that there are SOME people out there who, upon realizing the immense responsibility & hard work of raising children, neglect & abuse their kids, then blame Society for thier choice to have children. As they say; You've made your Bed..."
For those who have made the choice to have children, I respect your decision.
Children are truly a Gift. | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:15:05 AM | I am a non-parent. I love kids. I babysit for my cousin's all the time and like to help my girlfriends with pregnancy and taking care of their homes while they are new moms... I just don't want the full-time commitment and responsibility of raising a child. I don't think I would be a very good parent so why would I choose to bring a child into that kind of home??
On that note, the same problem that was originally asked
Yet, I have had a guys message me, with the above statements in their profiles. Honestly if you dont want to have any kids, then why would you correspond with someone who has one? is true of the opposite as well. Why do guys message me when their profile says they DO want children and mine clearly says I don't?? | |
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| Hating Kids?
Posted: 7/31/2006 11:45:37 AM | The person stating "do not message me if you have kids" probably did not read your profile.
(I put "hang out" as what I'm looking for, yet I still get a lot of messages from the "long term", "Dating" and "Intimate encounter" set - wishful thinking perhaps. )
OR, perhaps they liked what they read and decided they'd make an exception. It happens.
I wouldn't lump the "Do not want children" option in the profiles with "child haters".
I personally don't want to bear any of my own children. But I don't hate children, and would certainly welcome a potential partner's children in whatever capacity their parent would allow.
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