| Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/17/2004 6:59:27 AM | I used to believe true love did exist. I was married to the same man for 32 years. He was my first and only love. I caught him cheating for the third time in our marriage and decided, life was too short to live like this. So. I divorced him and the dating scene sucks! Most men I have met are only into one night stands, and needless to say. That's not me!! I refuse to be used by anyone, and I consider myself a lady.
All I want is someone who is loving, compassionate, and caring. And most of all honest. does these qualities exist anymore? I wonder, do you? | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/17/2004 1:18:42 PM | Maybe
Maybe not.
For some it does.
For some it doesn't.
Most men are into one night stands... Some of us were turned into this.
There must be gentlemen for ladies like you out there.
I don't wonder anything anymore.
Just whatever it is or is not or only seems... whatever...................... | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/18/2004 11:36:41 AM | | There are so many people on this planet that the odds are there for everyone to have a perfect match. Problem is... we're so seperated from those matches! Thanks to the internet and other means of communication, those distances are getting chopped down to size! | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/19/2004 3:13:35 AM | "does these qualities exist anymore?"
Well, you just asked, now wait and see what happens. | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/19/2004 6:03:24 AM | | i do think those qualities still exist. of course there are a few guys out there who are first class jerks but you can't let them stop you from looking for your true love. | |
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Asoka
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Joined: 7/15/2004
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/19/2004 11:03:08 AM | I have never cared for one night stands,I think they are pointless.
So a person sleeps with someone one and is gone the next day and in the end nothing has come out it other then having let someone use your body just for sex.I'd rather have sex with someone I truely love and know she will still be there the next day and the day after that,and the day after that etc.
Honestly would you rather go around looking for sex knowing you might not manage to one day or have someone you know you are guarantee to have sex with all the time and best of all know it is with someone you love?
Personally I'd rather have it with someone I love.
Anyways not all guys are into one night stands but you're right most are. | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/19/2004 1:41:05 PM | | Yes they do as I to am looking for the same. Had a wife that wanted more out of life like money and to call every thing hers not ours. I have come close a few times but no cigar. Gave up and then some one from a far dropped in caught my eye fact here on this sight even. Well we shale see if and what comes about but for the first time in my life I have a very good feeling. As this last weekend meeting and talking felt like a vacation of dreams. No stress no any thing but comfort and feeling safe with some one emotionally. Yes too soon but it was as if I had known them for years that easy and comfy. So good luck hold out never settle as if you do it only leads to more hurt and be true to you and who ever | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/20/2004 11:43:56 AM | | I agree with most that has been said on here. I refuse to be used also. I want love, not a one night stand. I judge from the heart, not what a person looks like. I will love the man with a good heart first, the one who treats me like a lady and a friend. | |
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| ME TOO
Posted: 7/24/2004 10:54:26 AM | | Hi how are you ? you are very sweet i hope so we meet soon bye bye from Turkey | |
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/24/2004 1:32:07 PM | | The funny thing is you always hear about guys being unfaithful and how were so heartless but there,s just as many women out there who are the same way. I,ve always prefered love to just sex myself but it seems most of the women i,ve dated and had relationships with were afraid to be loved and i,m beginning to wonder if it exists to??? | |
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
Msg: 16 | |
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vega77
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Joined: 7/24/2004
Msg: 17 | |
| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/24/2004 4:51:04 PM | | True love does exist. Unfortunately I think it only exists in the heart of only a few people. I myself have been ane always will be a hopless romantic. Do I think I will find it, probly not. But it is something that is true in my heart and therefore I cannot give up on it. | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/26/2004 8:47:24 PM | I'm starting to believe there could possibly be a sort of humanistic biological shift, or, maybe evolutionary physical/emotional drive redifining "true love". It is because of this occurance many people have a seemingly innate need that cannot be met. I have found that most of your "cheaters" consist of those NOT looking to hurt another, but more-so are catalysts for the very redefinition.
Some participants (most) in this case, do not define true love by candlelit dinners and growing old together. In many cases in fact, the inability to process the input of emotional data must be so extreme to register, that often the grouping must intail damaging or socially negative interactions. This negative interaction creates, in a sense, a limited but euphoric reaction in the Alpha's psyche. This reason behind this interpretation in Alpha's mind is regretfully unbeknownst to him/her. This euphoria will quickly fade leaving the subject emotionaly empty and in need to prove his/her worth to another again.
It is Omega's reaction ; pain, disgust, depandancy, hate, loneliness and so on, that validate for Alpha that someone truly cared. Most of your "cheaters" are the most damaged or pioneering (depending on your view) emotional victims on this forefront of interactive evolution. This is the redefinition of "True Love". Pain fosters pain and this vicious cycle begins spreading like a plague converting and destroying those in it path.
That being said, I do believe "True love" exists, but walking on the beaches has been laid waste to drinking the night away and leaving in the morning. Unfortunately, I cannot see things that way. I still to this day, after terrible heartbreak, find I cannot adhere to this growing trend....Give me a partner, a lover, a friend.......
Signing out from Akron
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Joined: 7/10/2004
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/27/2004 3:42:39 AM | If I were to define true love as finding someone to share my whole life with, I haven't found him either.
What I had found were a few men I believed I would spend my whole life with.
I will keep my optimisim ";-) | |
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Joined: 7/10/2004
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/28/2004 6:27:41 AM | | Dragonn........Yes I love my dog and my cats too! I ask them how did I get so lucky to have them for my pets ":-) | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/29/2004 10:32:44 PM | Of course true love EXISTS....the question is, rather......is it attainable? Sadly, not for everyone, I feel that way too many of us settle for what is easy, rather than to hold out, for what we could have. Being alone is hard, no one really likes it, and it's that feeling which drives us to jump at shadows, as it were, to believe that what is available, is what we really want. I know we have all fallen into this trap, most of us, probably more than once.
The fact that we are all still here......looking for that special something, stands as a testament to the fact that we all think that it exists, I think we all need to believe that it does....but maybe it's just me...... | |
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 7/31/2004 11:29:59 PM | me <======= devils advocate...
Stop me if i am wrong, but isnt true love a bit of a romantics asylum?
In our society of individualism, and quick/easy change, availability, sex selling everything, comfort etc... it is just to easy to get more or break up and move on...
Isnt the divorce rate like 60%? cheating rates are like 70% for men and very close for women?
"a man is only as faithful as his options", chris rock
Ive had sooo many relationships where she messed around... ouch.
It is a brutal world... it really hurts sooo much when that barrier is breached.
The person you count on to be your best bud, totally discounts you for a bit of personall enjoyment and give themselves to another.
But for the record... I belive in love, but for it to be tru you both have to want it and be willing to work, compromise, give up some of your individuality to become a duo, communicate, willing to learn all of this, and be ready to give in to it, and deny your desires... it aint easy... perhaps why it is so unpopular, except in theory.
did i just prove myself wrong.... doh!
k ill stop now | |
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Zee
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Joined: 4/11/2004
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| Re: Does True love Exist?
Posted: 8/1/2004 3:03:28 PM | welcome to the group Elvin and cool art on your profile
your words are true enough
people as I said believe what they want, and if this is what they want, then it should be attainable, but if people give in any iota, that dream, fantasy, or even illuison to some who think that true love is, things will fall apart....
one has to work their arse off to get what they want, and if true love is the answer, so be it - endure the struggle and pleasures of it - but hopefully your partner is in it for the haul ...
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