| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)...message length
Posted: 8/1/2006 11:31:33 PM | So now that your in here, youre going to be like wtf. This about size, but not what you think. 
So when a guy sends you a message, is it better if they write a lot, or just a bit? If they write too much, do they come off as desperate, or what do they come off as? When a profile says to "just ask" what are you really saying, like ask a few questions or aks whatever is on your mind?
I wanted to know, cause sometimes you cant think of what to write so you leave it short and simple, but other times you start typing and *shaazam*, you got a long message. | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/1/2006 11:35:59 PM | | I prefer a long message. Of course, I thrive on interaction with people, so I always enjoy conversation. The more they send, the more I can reply to, and usually it's something with a bit more substance to it than, "I like ur pic. Write me back if ur intristed." | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/1/2006 11:52:06 PM | | Give us some volume ... something to reply to. It's hard to compose a reply when all a person says is ... What's up? | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/1/2006 11:57:12 PM | Sure thing tree, and youll understand what i mean, ps that is one were i couldnt think of what to write.
Now what is considered long (still on message topic)? A few paragraphs, or when the scroll down bar is needed?
Also when you girls write, *just ask*, what really do you want us to write about? Should we ask those same old questions, what for fun, look like (if no pic), and stuff like that. Or would it be better if we came from outside the ball park and asked something completely different.
Like which is better, ketchup or mustard?
Personally ketchup. But you know what i mean about the question based question. (that looks so weird, but what the heck). | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/2/2006 12:19:07 AM | Ketchup? No way man, it's got to be mustard all the way.
There are so many varieties of mustard to suit every taste and every kind of food - yellow mustard, horseradish mustard, white wine mustard, garlic mustard, beaver mustard, cylon mustard, colonel mustard... ketchup just can't compare. You might say it doesn't "cut the mustard!"
Oh, and just write a paragraph or two. Something to show you read her profile and there's something you like about HER. Write too much and you'll look like a nut. | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/2/2006 1:48:21 AM | see that is exactly what I think, but what do you talk about in those two paragraphs, i mean you only get two subjects
Do you tell them about you, compliment their profile(respond to it in a way), or do you ask questions. | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/2/2006 3:36:48 AM | when the profiles say just ask, always ask the girls interesting and wierd questions, that will make you more memorable. Also when you include questions, stear away from the boring, what do you do for fun, where do you work, etc.. Intresting questions is the way to go, good luck, your a huge guy too, I bet a lot of girls see you as some teddy bear lol.. | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/2/2006 7:41:33 AM |
It's hard to compose a reply when all a person says is ... What's up?
Yes, when I receive one like this, my first impulse is to reply, "Uuhhh, the sky?" | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/2/2006 8:30:55 AM | I hate 1 liners but a 3 page e-mail on initial contact is a bit much, too.
My personal faves are the ones that give me something to work with when I reply. Comment on what drew you into my profile then ask a question.....something like that. If you have interest from reading my profile there should be plenty to comment on.
Simple one liners like "HI, I saw your profile and wanted to know if you'd like to chat" makes me feel as if they only looked at my pic and skipped the reading all together. I have recently removed my pic in an effort to get more interesting e-mails!
I'll report back !! | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:52:27 AM | JNTV - I reckon medium length is best and make some witty (but tasteful) comment on what they've said in their profile, i.e. show you actually read it and thought about it.
For girls who say "just ask" my advice is hit the NEXT button. For me this is ample evidence of 'princess' syndrome. Same goes for under first date where they put "you're the man, you decide". These are mostly (though not always) conventionally pretty girls who don't need to lift a finger to get a date. You don't want to date them - period. They're very unlikely to make you happy. Depends what you're looking for of course, but if it's long-term, this is a bad sign. Ditto usernames with 'princess' and 'goddess' in them
cheers, C | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/2/2006 10:23:32 AM | | thats a tough question since you dont know enough about the person to pour your heart out, just to have them delete it. i would say a short ice breaker -avoid those cleches or "you are hot" one liners. just a quick hello and a brief discription. if they respond -hopefully you will have learned a tidbit of their personality and have something to work with. | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/16/2006 5:16:25 AM | | Short!!!! i cannot be bothered reading heaps! but dont just say "hello"! tell a joke or say like 1 or 2 things and leave it to them to check out your profile!!! | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/16/2006 9:18:37 AM |
Like which is better, ketchup or mustard?
This gets points for humour  And probably a reply of some sort (ok, they all get replies from me, unless they are offensive. But I'd enjoy writing this reply.)
More than 2 lines, less than 2 pages. I always check profiles when I get mail, to see who i'm talking to. But I want to reply to what's in their email, not try to figure out something to say from what's in their profile. | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)...message length
Posted: 8/16/2006 9:30:53 AM | Doesn't matter, as long as the message communicates well. But if longer message means that the writer is telling me more about himself, then I'd definitely prefer the SHORTER one. Because I don't give a damn.
(Kiddin'. I meant the LONGER one. :P) | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 8/16/2006 9:44:23 AM | MoJo LA; you're quite right not just about the mustard, of which I have several varities. When emailing a person via this site tell them what it was about their profile that was interesting, what was it that caught your eye. If you just say hi you won't likely get a response, at least that's been my experience. | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 9/29/2006 11:40:47 AM | I agree with most people on here. (I realize this topic hasn't been active in a while...but I admit, the subject title caught my eye  )
Anyway, I think that most women would prefer to hear in the message that you have actually read their profile--therefore a comment or two about something in her profile might be a good way to start--afterall something other than her picture has to speak to you, or else it just wouldn't be beneficial to talk to her at all...
After that, maybe a comment/small paragraph or so about yourself, to peak her interest in you... After all, a girl will probably check your profile out anyway, but she would probably much rather comment on what you've said to her personally in a message, instead of what you've written for everyone to see in your profile... So, whatever you tell about yourself should maybe be a little unique or something.
Then you can probably ask her questions... humour is always good, and I agree, it will make you very memorable! ....By the way, I agree, I like Ketchup better  | |
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| Which is Better, Short or Long (LOL)
Posted: 9/29/2006 1:04:43 PM | It depends on the amount of interaction. First contact or beyond!
So let's say after the initial contact.
Huge amounts of text are a bit scary! Like the person has a lot bottled up!
But having to drag out every little bit of information is annoying.
And maybe, I begin to realize what that is all about. Some guys don't
realize it, and I didn't either, but some women on here are indeed
corresponding with a number of guys at the same time.
It gets complicated, so I guess they keep it pretty simple!
Under the circumstances, it is difficult to get to know them, and I
wonder if some could really care less? | |
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