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 Buttercupcassandra
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 1
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he and i dont live together, you might want to read my other comments to understand, but he phones me everyday and if i answer he says, what are you doing, ...ends up in you are gonna see me right?, didint you get money ahhh you ****in ****, same thing he wants dope . And if i dont answer he phones and phones all day non stop rings and hangs up, then threatens to coome and sit outside my house , and bug me, he makes me feel like shit if i dont go buy him stuff, but when i do its never enough, on top of it he always tells me how hot all these girls think he is??....why ? does anyone know, can some one please go stalk him?... (kidding) well maybe lol. he tells me im so ugly and ill never find anyone, im really not stupid but ive been in this abusive situation for 6 years and i really have no self esteem, i wish i thought i was good enought to just say go **** yourself and have it work, then necer look back, im tryin but maybe guys can tell me some advice to make him jelous?
 Adam Taylor
Joined: 5/11/2006
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i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:13:52 PM
So, block his phone number.
And if he's stalking you like that, call the cops.
It's not hard to figure out.
 Buttercupcassandra
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 3
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:18:41 PM
done both, the cops, ha, my goodness he's been charged cuffed, and he even talked them into a story that i stabbed HIM at work , and they believed him, (he tod them i ripped his gretzkey poster) guess he was a fan, ended up in me gettin an ultimatum of him charging me with some stupid mischeif.... i need to be 100 pounds heavier and a guy then maybe i teach him a lesson
 Elzeothis
Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 4
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:24:14 PM
Cassie - Hun, I got three words for you.

STOP
DROP
ROLL


Stop going anywhere near this neurotic, manipulative, pathological liar sociopath you used to call a boyfriend.

Drop him like a hot potato - drop him and RUN as far and as fast as you can in the opposite direction. Find a women's shelter, and park it there anonymously until you can get professional intervention.

Roll away from him and on with your life and STOP looking back!

Get the fark out and away before you end up pummeled in a dark alley ... or worse.

-.-


Wishing you good fishing!
~Mai <3
*^_^*
 Billie Starr
Joined: 6/17/2006
Msg: 5
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:24:44 PM
Whenever possible (soon) move and change your phone number. Why are you letting a drug addict put you down? He doesn't have a pole to piss on, let alone to tell you what's what. If other girls think he's hot, let him be their problem. You don't need to put up with that.
Good Luck!
 Count_of_Monte_Crisco
Joined: 1/18/2006
Msg: 6
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:25:29 PM
or you goto a justice of the peace and get a "peace bond". take legal counsel, ask for a restraining order.
 KrazyKanuck
Joined: 6/11/2006
Msg: 7
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:26:17 PM
OKay here i go....

Block his number.. from all your phones.. cell ect.. if he DOES get a hold of you.. tell him not to call you anymore... Recond this down on paper anytime this happens.. when she shows up unwanted aswell.. if she shows up.. Call the cops... EVERYTIME.. not just once.. EVERYTIME..

This is building a history. With this if he STILL keeps coming around.. you apply for a restraining order.. Yes its just a piece of paper... he breaks it.. he goes to jail.. He breaks it again.. he goes for jail longer.. Repeat process....


Yes this will piss him off.. But guess what.. you have to step up and speal your mind and do WHATEVER You can to get him away before the situation gets worse and out of control to where someone might get PHYSICALY hurt...

Use your head. Follow this.. Document everything...

hope it helps
 !somewhere
Joined: 1/16/2006
Msg: 8
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 9:42:32 PM
Why do you want advice on how to make him jealous????????????????????




Get him out of your life.

You need to realise that he's abusing you.

Avoid him at all costs. A man such as him will continue breaking down your self esteem and continue to control you.


Get away from him. You know that you're not ugly. Once you're away from him, you will be able to build your self confidence and self esteem.
 Bull_Bain
Joined: 2/13/2005
Msg: 9
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 11:18:16 PM
Got any brothers or good male friends? Get them to kick his sorry ass! OR...lace his drugs with something...He can't stalk you if he's dead...
 jeff323
Joined: 6/12/2005
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i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 11:32:14 PM
KrazyKanuck is 100% right on this one. that is what the law asks of you in most cases. Document everything as you go, time of call, time ohe showed up, or drove by. if he has a friend call fro him, write that too, block them as well. If you have a order against him, do not even answer the door, just call the police. it is better for your own safty. just my advice.
 Brandilicious
Joined: 7/7/2006
Msg: 11
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/2/2006 11:39:21 PM
Babe you are a beautiful girl, and you do not need some drug addict bringing you down, if he knows where to find you then you need to dissapear from him, I know that cops don't always work, move change your number just 0get out of there because you don't deserve it. You need to stand up for yourself, tell him he's not hot, he's immature, and needs to get some serious help.

good luck babe
 Depeche Mode
Joined: 7/18/2006
Msg: 12
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/3/2006 12:42:03 AM
"Guns... Now why doesn't somebody pull out a .45, and baaang. Settle it!?" - Bruce Lee in Enter the Dragon.

Obviously I'm kidding.

I agree with the others that you should probably move and change your phone number as soon as possible. One other thing... I do not know what this means...


he tells me im so ugly and ill never find anyone, im really not stupid but ive been in this abusive situation for 6 years and i really have no self esteem, i wish i thought i was good enought to just say go **** yourself and have it work, then necer look back, im tryin but maybe guys can tell me some advice to make him jelous?


If you have been in this situation for over 6 years, what kind of advice are you asking for to make him jealous? Jealous of what? What does jealousy have to do with you wanting to leave an abusive relationship?

*confused*
 rural girl
Joined: 9/19/2005
Msg: 13
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/3/2006 1:48:19 AM
*wow*

Ok, KrazyKunuck has given you really good sound advice. It will take balls but in the longterm if you want change- it will work.

Making this guy jealous or stirring of any kind will intensify the drama. Do you want that?
 Mayor
Joined: 1/2/2006
Msg: 14
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/3/2006 5:29:09 AM
yes as sad as it may be, KrazyKanuck seems to have what i would think is the only way to handle this. Best of luck to you.

just a note, he's very correct in everytime.
 aScott4u
Joined: 5/8/2006
Msg: 15
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/3/2006 6:56:20 AM
Okay...several things going on here.

1 - he's using you for his own gain, he DOES NOT care for you. Move on.
2- Threating to sit outside your house...this IS stalking.
3- Buy him stuff???? Stop this, it's feeding him and not helping YOU.
4 - If he's so "hot" tell him he should damn well find another woman and leave you alone!
5 - You are WAY far from ugly! He's using that to control you, keep you from finding a REAL man, don't listen to him. You're very good looking.
6- in this situtation for 6 years!? Honey, you NEED to move on or he will be your bane for the rest of your life!
7- Don't look to him for self esteem, he's using that against you. You're a fine woman, with a lot to offer a nice guy. There ARE nice guys out there, but with this loser hanging around they may not appoach you. Dump this jerk!
8- advise to make him jealous????? Honey, you DON'T want to make this guy jealous, you want to get rid of him!

Decide today, right now....do I want my freedom and happiness?
or
Do I want to be enslaved to this dead end guy?

We can only give you support and advise. YOU have to make the decision for yourself.

Decide for YOU, not for him.

But, as always, that's just my opinion.

Good luck Buttercupcassandra

Scott
 Remote5150
Joined: 7/15/2006
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i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/3/2006 11:18:55 AM
Boy this is one i think i should walk away from but since i have already stepped into it i will continue. I was right along with all of you on this and thought it was real sound advice, but i was not qualified to respond so i sent this link to two friends that work in the field. One from the battered womens shelter here and one that works in criminal invesigations on the local PD. I really wanted to help this lady with the right advice. Sheesh I guess i need to pay more attention to whats between the lines before i post anymore.

Now from the local BWS
This is common in most battered and abused domestic living arrangements and this lady is trapped in the delusion that somehow she can make this guy fall back in love with her. The last word in her post negated her entire post. As to blocking phone numbers this can be done but is very expensive and is not practical for most on a fixed income. Most cell phone companies will temporarily block a number for up to six months for a 15 dollar fee. Local wired networks will do it also for around 4 dollars. But if this man is calling from pay phones, friends, and ect it will cost thousands of dollars to block all the phones in her area.

As to a restraining order or peace bond. They are a great piece of paper to have if you get a cold and need to blow your nose. How they work is like this. 1st - he is escorted away from the area and warned not to do it again, 2nd - overnight in jail, small fine and 30 days probation, 3rd - overnight in jail, bigger fine and 90 to 180 days probation and so on and so on. Remenber the jails are maxed out and a judge is not going to sentence any jail time for breaking a restraining order, especially to a drug addict, its a waste of time.

If you read between the lines and read the other comments that she directs you to, she is writing love poems to this man and hinting about suicide, and there is a very good chance that if this is a six year ordeal you can almost bet that children are involved. If children are involved you need to advise her to find a local shelter that deals in this and seek professional help. If no children are involved tell her to throw her phones in the trash, pack her bags and get the hell out of town for a year or more. My professional opinion to this is, he has moved on but knows she still loves him and where he can get drugs when he needs them. Elzeothis is the only one who got this right. My real question to this is who is stalking whom.

Now from CID

Sorry **** but the best i can tell you is to advise her to leave town. Restraining orders and that crap will not work in this situation, he is a drug addict. Really in reading this it is domestic and i do not deal with that anymore. But from what i read there are always two sides to every story and she hints in the lower post that law enforcement is not totally believing her. Where there is smoke you can bet there is fire. Most domestic drug cases like this both have or did have dealings with drugs in the relationship. A clean, sober person does not get envoled with a drug addict. The only sound advice i can honestly tell you to give to her is to EDIT her post this "he makes me feel like shit if i dont go buy him stuff, but when i do its never enough," means she is dealing and trafficing in drugs even if buying them for someone else, and if something happened to where the local authorities came to her house involving this domestic matter and they confinscated her computer she could be in some deep shit. Hope she gets her life straightened out.
 Shaps
Joined: 4/23/2005
Msg: 17
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Posted: 8/3/2006 12:06:57 PM
Best thing to do since he knows you so well, is to relocate. Move to an area, where you know he never goes.
New number and having info blocked is a good way of going to get away from him. If you stay where you are and doing what your doing, then I don't see much change.
 scorpio_28
Joined: 7/12/2006
Msg: 18
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Posted: 8/3/2006 5:35:54 PM
Maybe you should buy a sim pack and change you number all together on your mobile and if he has got your home number change it to a silent number. I know im not a guy but really there is no need to make this guy jelous.
 Top It
Joined: 5/26/2006
Msg: 19
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/3/2006 9:41:57 PM
...and anytime he shows up where you are uninvited (anywhere) call the police and document it. This very well couold work in your favor when you need it the most.
 not_1_really
Joined: 6/25/2006
Msg: 20
i need help........ drug addict boyfriend wont leave me alone
Posted: 8/3/2006 11:17:29 PM
DIRTY DEEDS DONE DIRT CHEAP!!!...call me any time
 professora
Joined: 7/28/2008
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Boyfriend wont move...drugs but all legal..moody
Posted: 1/14/2014 8:35:27 PM
I thought age would protect me.

My boyfriend is older as I am and moved in to my home.

After a while he became verbally abuse, belittled me, and made life uncomfortable but he was also sweet and charming. I was constantly tense. He would become angry easily and even resented my attending mandatory work related classes.

In November he announced he was leaving but has yet to move. He takes all legal drugs but a lot of them..... for pain, anxiety, depression, and many more.

For my safety, I had to leave my own home.

Meanwhile, the law demands that I have him evicted & I have arranged to do this tomorrow.

Worse he is tarnishing my reputation with fabricated stories. As a teacher this is significant.

Any thoughts appreciated
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