| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 6:55:38 PM | | I'm doing this for a friend (female) who works at a local convenience store who has a boyfriend who works at the same store. I'm friends with both of them, and she asked me what I thought about "Isidro" going to Cancun without her. (I'm not interested in her, btw.) They've been together, oh, about 6 months (I guess), maybe a little more. Anyhoo, he went to Cancun for a week, and when he came home, simply told her that he didn't do anything except drink with his buddies. Now, I've never been to Cancun (but will accept an invite!), but I find the story pretty fishy. If I did that to a girl, I would expect her to think it was fishy. But, I told "Anna" about this site and the forums, and told her I would get her the female point of view. (I'm sure she has friends, but she and "Isidro" seem to work 24 hours a day, so I guess she has no time.) So, I'm going to put this out there and get the view from the fairer sex. Then I'm going to print it out and give it to her, so she can show it to her beau. Ladies, what would you say to "Anna"? Thanks for ya'll's input... | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:18:09 PM | | Depends on whether or not she trusts him ~ you don't have to go away to cheat. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:20:03 PM | | Really I think it depends on how much he is into her, cause if he really loves her, he did'nt do anything, if there just ok then come on the guy was in the land of itty bitty bikiinis | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:23:31 PM | Is nice that you are looking out for your friend and all...but what goes on within the relationship with her boyfriend..is really none of your business. You can always offer advice and such..but whatever she decides to believe is her choice. As for the boyfriend going to Cancun...nothing wrong with going away with friends....having fun...whatever...but it all comes to trust. If you trust your boyfriend/girlfriend/..it shouldn't even be an issue of where you go. You can go to the local pub and cheat....if you wanted to....
If she has reason to distrust her boyfriend....than yes, I would second guess his answers...but if she is distrusting him just because he went to Cancun...with friends and just had a good time.....thats her insecurity and he shouldn't be penalized for it. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:31:59 PM | | It's impossible for a bunch of complete strangers to have a valid opinion on this because we don't know the people you're talking about. And I'm guessing she probably knows her boyfriend better than you do, so she's got the only opinion that counts. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:35:53 PM | They are dating, not married. They still have their own identities and seperate lives.
There is no reason why he shouldn't take a vacation without her (or her without him). If she trusts him, she shouldn't even have questioned him on what he did while he was there. It is up to him on what he wants to share in details willingly, but she really shouldn't be questioning him unless she has valid reasons to do so.
If she doesn't trust him (and has reason not to)... then she shouldn't be with him. He doesn't have to go to another country to cheat.
If she doesn't trust him because of what someone else did to her before him, then she isn't ready to be in a relationship with anyone until she works those issues out in her own mind.
It goes under the premise of "Innocent until proven guilty", not "Guilty until proven innocent". | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:42:14 PM | | Sounds like she doesn't trust him. Like someone said you don't have to go on vaction to cheat! | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 7:47:09 PM | | I can't speak to what he might do, but I know I could easily go on a vacation like that and be completely faithful. I'm sure lots of men here would agree - going on vacation doesn't mean going on vacation to cheat. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 8:48:25 PM | | Okey-doke, we're going good here. Silky, I totally understand what you're saying. I just agreed to put it out there so she can get input. The info is sketchy, I know, but I don't really know that much about their relationship, either. She asked me to do it, I said okay, and I did it. See, I didn't want to offer advice, so told her about the forums, and she doesn't have computer access, so I did her a favor, that's all. I'm sure she'll read and appreciate your (and everyone else's) comments. And now, back to our show. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 9:07:56 PM | | It's all a trust issue...if she trusts him no problem and that could be based on past actions while they're out together...it is possible for a guy to be faithful when he's on a trip with his buddies...if she doesn't...she might have reason for not trusting him. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/7/2006 10:35:27 PM | | Many people go on vacation without hooking up. It's quite possible that he really did just unwind and relax with his friends. Unless he has a history of cheating or gave her a reason to doubt his story, I don't see why she wouldn't believe him. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/8/2006 3:14:48 PM | | Okay, folks, that's good enough for me. I'm printing it out and handing it over, so thanks for your input, maybe it'll help her. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/8/2006 3:30:18 PM | If he loves her, he won't cheat.
If he's truly serious about her, and committed, there's no problem with him going on a trip by himself.
It's a matter of trust.
If she's lacking faith in him... then that's an aspect of their relationship they need to work out.
But people are individuals. They're allowed to have their own time to themselves to do whatever.
There's no reason he can't go alone on a vacation. Even with married couples this happens plenty.
My dad took a trip to England alone. And my mom's gone to Israel alone.
Both went to visit family and just relax.
If my Mai wants to take a trip alone somewhere... I'd have no problems with it.
I know that she loves me, and would never do anything to hurt me.
I trust her. Simple as that. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/8/2006 5:34:21 PM | Do we girls get to go away to France for a week? Without the boys? Yipppeee!!
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/8/2006 7:15:24 PM | | The one guy I absolutely and completely trusted and I have no problem with him doing whatever he wants...he always invited me to all the guy trips anyways...and he was the only one with a g/f of the group too at the time...lol...it was cool...kinda miss the guy trips...but they were good boys...then the ones i don't trust...that's another story...lol...go figure...it's a nice feeling when you're with someone you completely and absolutely trust. | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/8/2006 9:40:09 PM | Hey now, ya'll don't take a bag lunch to a box social. Nuff said!  | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/9/2006 2:41:38 PM | | i'm sorry but i went to cancun when i had a girlfriend and all i did was drink with buddies and have a good time. did the opportunity rise yes it did but i turned it down. tell her not to be so paranoid and to have alittle faith and trust if she ever wants any relationshiip to work | |
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| A fella went to Cancun
Posted: 8/11/2006 4:16:37 PM | | well, computer was down for a day or two, I thank you all for your input! I'm printing it out now and passing it on! | |
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