| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 7:14:14 AM | | Here is a simple question. Would you date a man who lost everything? What I mean by everything, he has to file for bankruptcy because of a divorce and he lost his job and couldn't find one that would pay his bills? He is going to have to start all over again financially and start over with a new career. Would you date a man who has been through hell financially, but is trying to get back on his feet again and enjoy life? | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:13:11 AM | | I dated a woman who was financially a mess. I'll tell like this, i ended up divorced and somehow in alot of credit trouble thanx to her and her Credit Cards, among other things. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:52:47 AM | | Yes. So long as he's working at re-establishing himself. Life happens, and I'm not about to let a bank account or assets determine who I date. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:53:15 AM | once again i would have to go along with mudbugs answer on this one...i have seen men have everything, lose everything, then turn into depressing alcoholics...but if he was showing signs of improving his life, in actually doing something to rectify his situation, i am all for that.
then again i am alittle bit shallow, if i have feelings for the guy, i will support him, but if i have just met the guy, he may not get that much of a chance. I have my own baggage, and i don't need someone elses. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:57:01 AM | | I agree with bored on this one...if I already had feeling for him and felt that he was doing all he could to rectify the situation of course...but if I didn't know him and found out that he had just filed for bankruptcy I might shy away....and if he were a complete slacker, who was content living at home with mama or in a run down trailer no I wouldn't.. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 10:34:16 AM | Money comes and goes....that's why in the weeding voews it says "for better or worse".
Now if a person is cronically bad with money it's a diffrent story. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 11:49:52 AM | | Where were all of these supportive women when I was going through my biggest difficulties?A few years ago I had lost just about everything and was working 24-7 to get it all back(which I did!).The few times I asked women out I got the vibes that they felt I was a loser.I've never been a self pitying whiner,but I'm never dishonest about my status in life.Once it was known that I had a low paying menial job,lived at home for the time being taking care of aging parents and fighting DCF to keep my kids,they weren't interested.I didn't advertise these facts,but I didn't hide them.That's OK.It was their loss. | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 11:52:04 AM | I hear some in here saying they would not mind someone who lost it all but was working hard at getting it back. No no one likes a slacker but I think the ugly snake of hypocrisy has reared it's head.
First wife 1980 Had a growing business and a house, with a pool and even had time to build a show car and a drag car. (She wanted the show car) April 1980 the recession hits unemplyment hovers around 35%. I lose everything and the wife starts fooling around with a supposed friend while I'm out working 3 jobs to get it all back.
Second wife. I'm a rising star in a high turnover sales business. It happens. Made boss look like idiot he is in front of brass. I lose that job but start work for compitition 2 days later at $15000 more and better benifits. She says she can't stay cause I'm not stable like her father. Zoom back to Texas.
Third wife. We're both upper management. I leave to start own business in same field. Going great hire employees. take away huge account from a compititor. Then I get broken into and insurance doesn't cover enough. Employees get hired away and I lose huge account all in 2 weeks. I'm fed up with career. I take a step back and get into something I've always loved. Carpentry and renovations. I'm happier than I've been in years. Wife comes home from vacation and says she's thought about it but has to give me the boot. our worlds are too different now.
Gee doesn't look like anyone stood by me.
BUT I WILL NOT GIVE UP! Yes I'm shouting. I may be down but I'll never give up EVER!
OK where are you? | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 12:02:35 PM | | Yes i would and be supportive emotionally as long as he was a good person........But just meeting him i wouldnr support him financially unless he was making an honest effort and working to get himself out of the situation he was in....Life happens....and things arent always on the up and up but you get through the hardships and move on......... | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 12:04:50 PM | Does every thread have to turn into an opportunity to whine?
Am I whining now?
d*mn, has it rubbed off me now?
I gotta get outa here- stat! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 12:50:08 PM | Thanks Dar I do believe everyday is a learning experience.
I'm sorry if it came across as whineing. that was not my intention because I don't hold them responsible for my problems or my happyness. I also would never ask another to support me finacially! Must be that stubborn protestant work ethic my father instilled in me. There is an old saying, You've got to love yourself before you can love others. I do and when I love others it's unconditional. I'm reminded of the Candian Goose. They mate for life. If one "Spouse" is sick and can't fly, the other doesn't just take off at the first opportunity.
BTW I only hold my first with anything close to contempt because the others had at least the honesty to tell me why they wanted out.
Today's a nice sunny day and tomorrow holds so much promise.
Lets dance bannana  | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 12:59:20 PM | ya, way to stick with it jamie. when you finally get a change in luck and bank your first billion they will all be sorry for being so fickle | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 1:07:17 PM | I would date my sweetie boredcountryboy under any circumstance it's not stuff that I want
stuff comes and stuff goes! Honestly it wouldn't matter if we lived in a cardboard box,
as long as we're happy and together that's all that counts! Anyone can have "stuff"
but not everyone is blessed enough to have "that special someone"
And I consider myself extreemly blessed
Spoiled Princess + Boredcountryboy | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:14:14 PM | | Thanks Onthebus. I got so tired of the BS and politics that goes on in the corporate world. The more i produced it seemed the more I threatened the PTB (Powers that be). Huh? Wasn't that why you hired me? Now I get to create with my hands and my mind. I have clients that WANT what I do. and If they don't like it I get to do it all over again and they pay for it! Unless I f**k up of course, but thats getting pretty rare now. I get to drive arond Toronto and London and point at houses and say "I did that". Man what a feeling! Now if I only had someone to share it with. LOL | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:24:02 PM | I have lost everything. My marriage ended last year with my wife leaving me in the middle of a bankruptcy and completely broke.
But you know what? Even though I have nothing, I'm happier and more at peace than I've been in years. I just have to work my way back up is all.
If a woman won't have anything to do with me because of that, then that is her thing to deal with - piss off, I don't need you.
A woman who cares and appreciates me shouldn't let my current financial situation be an obstacle. It will change! | |
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| Would you date a man who lost everything?
Posted: 3/9/2005 8:45:27 PM | | Thanks all. It has been a tough 7 months and I am finally starting to get my feet back on the ground. Just can't wait until my "ALMOST" ex signs the divorce papers so it will be finally over with. | |
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