| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:04:14 PM | On many dating sites, income is broken down into several ranges - $25K and less, $25K to $34K, $35K to $49K, $40K to $74K, $75K to $100K, and so on. The majority of professional, educated women near where I live have a minimum income of $50K in their preferences, and for many it's $75K.
I've got both a bachelor's and master's degree in my chosen field. I've got no debt whatsoever, except a mortgage on a comfortably sized house on a large lot in a good neighborhood. I drive a late model vehicle; not new, not luxury, but nothing to laugh at.
My income - in the $35K to $49K category. Thing is, if my salary was just $500 more a year, I'd be in the next highest category.
I'm completely honest in my profile - weight, height, age, marital status, and so on. I'm also honest about income. However, when women see "$35K to $49K" in my profile, they're probably thinking "this guy makes $35K."
I wish women wouldn't consider a man's income, but they ALL have it in their preferences, even if they don't show their own income. I'd like to leave mine out, but I'm afraid nobody will respond (as opposed to the 5% to 7% response rate I now enjoy ... feh), because they'll think "he's trying to hide something." My income really is none of their business, but the rules are different in the world of online dating.
So, what do you think? Should I fudge my income by a few dollars, and just say I make $50K? Should I leave it out entirely? What do women really think when they don't see income listed in a personal ad profile? | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:08:13 PM | | Just say $50K. If you bring in income earned on investments you're probably at the mark anyways. Income shouldn't matter, but it does; we all want a comfortable life. don't stress though, 3 years ago I was at $44K, now I'm at $72K and growing. Don't worry my friend, the education willl get you places money can't. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:11:07 PM | | Just dont put anything. I hate talking about money. I would never reveal my income. You should only reveal it if you have none LOL. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:14:58 PM | | put nothing...that's noone business except the government god help us and your futurre spouse | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:31:55 PM | Rounding up to the next highest thousand is allowable.
I wouldn't even consider it lying. A Xmas bonus would put you over the top into the next category.
Now putting down that you make 60G would make you a liar. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:39:47 PM | Your income shouldn't be a factor in a perfect world. And it isn't anybody's business but yours.
But then again, why do we keep our income so secret? Amongst your co-workers I understand that its not something that should be shared at all. But among friends, family, or someone your dating, who cares? What will they do with that information? If they're so materialistic and shallow as to judge you by it then the heck with them.
As for the $500 difference, no biggie, round up. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:50:08 PM | Hey,
It's no big deal.but I must warn you....on Yahoo............I listed my income.............(I'm at the very top range).....and guess what lots of very pretty, young girls (half my age) wrote me..................it was kinda fun......but I don't need another daughter.........(well maybe)
William | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 2:57:37 PM | Your not alone. Some men when they find out how much money I make don't want anything to do with me. Either they make less than me and that scares them lol...or I make alot less than them and they figure I'm out for the money and someone to take care of me and my kids NOT. My kids have a father, and I take care of my own. Not all women are out for money but I will have to agree that there are alot of materialistic people in this world.
If your getting asked over the net how much money you make, well I'd say move along, a good sign the money is more important to them. Of course I wouldn't want someone who is unemployed, I already have two kids to take care of, don't need a third  . If they don't have a profession in their profile I would not hesitate to ask what they did for a living, could care less how much as long as they had a job to support themself.
Be honest and leave your profile at the rate you are...or take it out but let people know you do have a proffession. Your income shouldn't be an issue and if it is then your better off not wasting your time. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 3:16:23 PM | | Don't lie about it - just don't put anything down for that question. If it is really going to make a difference as far as meeting a woman goes - THEN YOU DON'T WANT TO MEET THE MATERIALISTIC BIATCH! Think about it. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 4:40:15 PM | | Do a test. Say you are self employed and earn over $250,000 a year in various ventures, and see what happens. (be careful though, you might like the results ) | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 4:50:57 PM | | If a woman interrogates me over my income, i become a little suspicious of alterior motive. I want to be loved for my mind, body, and spirit... not wallet. Obviously if I'm dating someone, she knows that I can afford my own house, car, and food. If that isnt enough detail, she can feel free to dig for receipts in my trash cans. The only time I would feel the need to tell someone exact numbers is if i was married, or in debt. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 4:52:20 PM | | If a woman interrogates me over my income, i become a little suspicious of alterior motive. I want to be loved for my mind, body, and spirit... not wallet. Obviously if I'm dating someone, she knows that I can afford my own house, car, and food. If that isnt enough detail, she can feel free to dig for receipts in my trash cans. The only time I would feel the need to tell someone exact numbers is if i was married, or in debt. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 5:53:39 PM | | I tell people my income all the time, because based on my job, they think I'm making much more than I really do. I'm comfortable with my life, that includes my income, and I'd rather get that out of the way in the beginning. If that's all they're interested in, then who cares if they leave, anyway? Besides, they can see what I drive...it can't be that big of a secret that I'm not rich. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 6:16:48 PM | | The funny thing is that I drive a beater simply because I feel and have always felt that an expensive car is a royal waste of money. Think about it - it's more likely to get stolen or stuff stolen from it, minor damage can cost a fortune to repair, insurance premiums go up if it has good acceleration potential, and you're always worrying about it. So whereas I actually make some pretty decent money for my age, people probably think I'm poor (which would seem to be reflected in my relative lack of success with girls around here). People have suggested I need to flaunt my wealth but that seems so wrong! The funny thing is that when you do go out and spend hordes of money to buy something like a car, then you have less money to spend on the girl or the necessities of life in general. You think that little fact would sink in. Oh well, there seem to be very few non-materialistic girls where I live. And you are right electric, if money is all they care about then keep looking. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 6:33:44 PM | I wouldn't say flaunt your wealth, exactly...
But to me, my income is like my love of hockey or my fear of the Snuggle Bear. It's a fact about me that you can't see as easily as my weight or my eye color, but it's a fact all the same. I make $35,000. I'm OK with that, or I'd get a new job, so I want to find someone who's OK with that, too. It's a fact about myself...it doesn't make me good or bad. And let's face it, money is as much a part of a relationship as anything else...would YOU want someone who had thousands in credit card debt and couldn't manage their finances? I tend to doubt it. It's a part of my life as much as anything else...but people are just touchy when it comes to money.
Plus, some people are thinking long term...maybe they want lots of children, or to be able to send their kids to a good college...should we fault them for planning ahead? I don't want someone who's that interested in money, but someone else might. I don't want somebody who's into midget porn, either, but someone else might. I don't think they're wrong for it, it just doesn't make them a good match for me. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 6:41:16 PM | | That's a pretty good point. If you think about it, finances can be a good indicator of a person's lifestyle and choices. I honestly believe that any man or woman can accumulate as much wealth as he or she desires as long as they are willing to work hard and make good decisions. Personally i find it to be kind of a turn off if a person is overzealous or overly ambitious as far as material wealth is concerned. Afterall... what can excess money really buy for you? stuff....? | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 6:48:36 PM | Yes, but some people like stuff, and enjoy working hard for it. That's OK. I like to spend my money on going out, travel, experiences. But if someone wants stuff, that's their decision, I wouldn't fault them for it. My guess is, they're turned off by people not interested in money, anyway.
Money may not be the key to happiness, but if you have enough, you can get a key made.
So, if you won the lottery, are you telling me you wouldn't buy any stuff? Besides, I know my parents were big into money, and I never understood...until they retired young and had time to enjoy each other and travel. There's something to be said about having the money to enjoy life rather than work all of it... | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 6:48:50 PM | Yes, but some people like stuff, and enjoy working hard for it. That's OK. I like to spend my money on going out, travel, experiences. But if someone wants stuff, that's their decision, I wouldn't fault them for it. My guess is, they're turned off by people not interested in money, anyway.
Money may not be the key to happiness, but if you have enough, you can get a key made.
So, if you won the lottery, are you telling me you wouldn't buy any stuff? Besides, I know my parents were big into money, and I never understood...until they retired young and had time to enjoy each other and travel. There's something to be said about having the money to enjoy life rather than work all of it... | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 6:53:40 PM | It probably really shouldn't matter how much you make as
everyone seems to live above their income level anyway.
I made more money in the big city, but couldn't afford a home (as a single woman),
but now I live in the country, make less money and my home is almost paid off.
Go figure.
I dated the 09ers as we called them when I was a younger woman and I was middle class, fine to date, but nothing serious....
So, for a reality check - it's nice when you meet someone with enough money to carry his own weight, yet appreciates where it comes from.
I don't mind disclosing my income (which just jumped up a nice notch), to my main squeeze
- if I can tell he's not with me for that reason.
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 7:13:48 PM | | There was a lot of emphasis on money in my family and my upbringing. Every christmas i listen to my relatives squable over their trust funds etc. I cant stand it. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:10:37 PM | I used to put it in, but rarely got any responses. I think its because
guys don't want to date women who make more money than them...
or think maybe I won't be interested because I make more.... who knows.
But now its not there, it seems I get a lot more emails. And of course
they always ask about my job... and I catch myself downplaying it. Which is silly.
Anyway its all very superficial.... either way. I say leave it out.
Unless you plan to marry them, its none of their business. | |
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| Should I lie about my income?
Posted: 3/8/2005 9:12:06 PM |
i'm worth 10 789 000154$$ you beleive me right??RIGHT?? lol
If thats really your picture I will....  | |
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