| How to tell if a woman is available to date???
Posted: 8/13/2006 7:16:58 AM | OK I did a search and came up with nothing so figured I would post this and see if I can get some answers...
I have read many of the "Where to meet women" threads and got all the assorted suggestions... Grocery Stores, book stores, etc.
Here is my question... I have gone out and seen a lot of women but is there a way to tell which ones are available and might be interested in dating? I mean, I have had lots of women smile at me, I have had them even talk to me about the T-Shirts I wear (they love the sayings on them)... What I am trying to figure out is if they are free or just being friendly. I look for the usual things, a guy with them, a wedding ring on their finger, etc. But am not sure if I should approach them or not...
Should I just say to heck with it and just go up and ask every woman I come across for their phone number or What? Seems like all the women I have had relationships with were very obvious they were single and looking... of course many of them were sharks looking for victims or else I knew them and their history so I pretty much knew they were single and available.
Out on the streets it is different. I see women walking around but am hesitant to approach them since I have no idea if they are available... Any suggestions???
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| How to tell if a woman is available to date???
Posted: 8/13/2006 8:00:24 AM | During the course of a conversation, ask her what her SO thinks of whatever you are speaking about...
Although us women pretty much know it is a question designed to find out if we are single or not, it is also non-invasive... | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 9:20:42 AM | LOL I guess I am afraid I will get maced or something... hate rejection too... Hmm that asking about what the SO thinks is a good idea... I guess, its kind of like hunting ducks... You shoot and if you put enough lead in the air you are bound to hit something... LOL
So guess asking a bunch of women out, sooner or later one may say yes.
HEY I HAVE A QUESTION FOR THE LADIES...
What about someone handing you a business card with his name and number and email on it? Would you go for something like that? I have been thinking of having some printed and that way I can just hand the card out...
This trying to get a date thing is pretty sucky for me... I was never good at it even in the best of times...
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| How to tell if a woman is available to date???
Posted: 8/13/2006 9:54:19 AM | A simple " So are you free for a walk or a coffee" ???
They then can make up an excuse...say sorry i have an SO.....or sure lets go....or busy now, but call me here is my number.
Its a polite way to ask them where they stand. | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 10:43:03 AM |
What about someone handing you a business card with his name and number and email on it? Would you go for something like that? I have been thinking of having some printed and that way I can just hand the card out...
If the business card was for a valid business, I would think that is a great way to give a phone number etc... but if it is just for personal use, I would find it quite odd... and maybe even a little concerning... | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 12:37:27 PM | I think the business card is a good idea. I wouldn't find it threatening--the guy isn't asking for my phone number. In a case like that the business card should be prefaced with "I enjoyed talking to you. I would like us to talk to some more; here's my card....blah, blah, blah.
If I'm not interested, I don't call. If I am, believe me, I'm picking up the phone! | |
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| How to tell if a woman is available to date???
Posted: 8/13/2006 12:52:35 PM | I was wondering the same thing myself. The reason I don't ask women at book stores, etc. is this: It seems rude. They're there to shop, not get hit on. Unless you (the guy) are extremely exceptional, most will be annoyed I think.
On another note: I'm slowly learing to just throw common courtsey out the window and go for it. So what if she's shopping for tampons or light bulbs; I'm asking!!  | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 1:02:29 PM | I don't know of anyone who has met strangers in grocery stores or book stores and fell in love. I think that is Hollywood fantasy. More traditional places to meet are organizations - social, political or churches.
I think the business card idea is acceptable. I have a home in a resort area where a lot of retirees live and they all give out business cards with their name and number on them to people they enjoy talking with at social gatherings.
Most of these people are not working, so their cards are not really business cards - they are personal cards. Even the women give these cards to other women they enjoy talking with and have found something in common with.
It seems like an acceptable and convenient thing to do. | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 2:43:25 PM | | I have had guys come up to me at the grocery store and start up a conversation.. For instance the other day a guy asked me if I had ever tried a cereal, and if I liked it. After I politely answered that I had not tried it, he said, "it's hard for a single guy to go grocery shopping." Then he asked if I was married and mentioned that he didnt see a ring. I told him I was separated from my husband and he said, "well do you mind if I give you my number, maybe we can have a drink together some night?" I took his number but havent called him yet. I did think it was kind of sweet though! | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 3:11:12 PM | | I think a business card would be a great idea. Years ago, when I sold real estate, we would get a newly acquired listing placed on the back of our current business cards. We would use that otherwise wasted little piece of cardboard to further promote the new listing. I would give the card to anyone I spoke with that was looking, or had a friend that was looking, to buy real estate. The same thing could work here too. You have a card with your picture, e-mail, POF link to your profile and your basic stats. You give that card to anyone who has a single friend. You know what? Maybe it is a bit 'different' but sometimes different gets you noticed. Cards are cheap...give it a shot! | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 3:20:22 PM | If I was out talking to a woman and she handed me a "personal business card" premade that she gives out to guys that she's interested in?
I'd hand it back and tell her no thank you.
Way too impersonal for my tastes.
There are at least a hundred reasons why I wouldn't be into that.
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 5:26:21 PM | | I have seen BEAUTIFUL Victorian "calling cards"...Actually there is a website I think where you can add your own info and print them on business card templates...I'm with OpieDopey, if you're out socially, it's a great way to tastefully let someone know you're available for future communication if they show interest. JMO | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 6:33:11 PM |
flsoldier on 8/13/2006 3  22 PM If I was out talking to a woman and she handed me a "personal business card" premade that she gives out to guys that she's interested in? I'd hand it back and tell her no thank you. Way too impersonal for my tastes. There are at least a hundred reasons why I wouldn't be into that. Colin
Well see the reason I was thinking of cards is because usually trying to find a pen, find something to write on, and then make the name and number legible all without taking up all sorts of time, is what I had in mind. I mean my hand writing sometimes leaves a lot to be desired... So rather than try and hold a little piece of paper and scribble my name and number on it, it is easier to just hand a card, and keep talking...
Trust me, I have done it the "by hand" way and it was kind of difficult... I had to read to her what i wrote,and make sure she understood it.
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 9:22:28 PM | Ok, seriously dude, I really don't think approaching ladies who don't know you, and handing them your name and number is a good idea.
(honestly, if I thought it would work, I'd have tried it)
.....but if you insist: why not include references from prison guards, probation/parole officers, and/or addictions consellors, along with your phone# and email addy? | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 9:50:48 PM | Women like a confident man, and a business card is anti-confident. I would bet you, you will never get a single call.
You MUST overcome your fear of rejection. It's all a numbers "Game" after that. Simplest and most direct question is "Are You Single". No beating around the bush! | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 10:15:28 PM | well buddy, I haven't read any of the other posts or even all of yours but here's a clue
Maritual Status: Single
Does that help? lol.......
Any women is available to date. As much as they will reject the comment or bs you it's true. lol honestly, women lie all the time.... single's tell guy's they don't like they have boyfriends, hell I've even seen a girl tell a guy she's be right back and drove off with her friends haha. Aslong as you know what your doing, which you don't, it's possible.
The only thing that can stop you is if they aren't in the mood for dating, lez, their boyfriend/girlfriend/hermaphiditefriend is their, or you really suck at picking up.
-sigh- I may come back to this topic later and discuss more thorougly how you can approach the right was aslong as your not a creep or out to rape a woman. Quote though.... "may" | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 10:19:07 PM | Well man..... don't fear the approach. If you go in with the mindset your going to fail, then your going to fail..... you'll also want to watch your body language, body odor, and the way your dressed up.
Also, walking up and saying "hi I like you, do you want to go out'... haha, won't work. Stay sharp, throw out a little "funny/charming" diss if she's acting stuck up. And don't get pissed off if she is..... girls have their reasons to act this way.
Anyways, for now.... I find I've waisted to much time in this thread.
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 10:20:22 PM | In the age of cell phones, don't you both just whip out your cells and save each others numbers? You can even take a picture of the person with your camera phone and store it with their number so you remember what they look like the next day 
Pieces of paper and business cards get lost.
I do like the idea of 'calling cards,' but I think to have one that's not a really business card would paint you as odd, as having too much time on your hands, or as trying too hard. It would be nice if everyone did it though. | |
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| How about handing a card with my name, and number and email on it??
Posted: 8/13/2006 10:22:52 PM | Learn to ask at the right time.....
Why? You won't get it...... If you ask "directly". If your having a great conversation, and she seems like she's having a great time smiling etc.... end the conversation saying you have to go then ask. Should increase your chances by a lot.... haha, I guess you can disregard my first few posts. I hadn't read yours entirely..... but there are some nice tips in them | |
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