| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 1:09:04 PM | | Honestly, I've seen so many threads about older women and how to attract them or whatever and I want to know the truth. Is it worth the effort and time to spend with a younger man if a woman wants a relationship or is it all just fun and games to the younger man? | |
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ixi0n
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Joined: 6/30/2004
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 2:00:19 PM | I don't really have an age requirement...Unless there's a set age when a woman matures completely. I just want someone whose mature, honest, sincere. Whether their younger, or older then me. Oddly I seem to attract alot of older women just being me.
Speaking of which the one I'm talking to now is older then I. She's everything I've been looking for, now only time can tell the rest. Now I better run before she see's this!
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 2:19:26 PM | It depends HOW much older.
I doubt I would have a SERIOUS relationship with someone who's more than 10 years older than me. Fortunately, many of them aren't SERIOUS about it either.  And many can be really fun people, but nothing with commitments.
Edit: I see why. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 2:47:53 PM | Depends.
Think of it this way, and I'm pretty sure this will work for the gals too...
We have this zone, call it +/- 'X' many years we are good with. No problem. If you are going to go outside the "zone" there has to be something in it for the person at risk. And by at risk, I mean the younger one. (They are the one risking the one thing that the older one had, and niether can ever get back...TIME. Harsh, but immutable)
So, Let's cut to the chase and talk about you.
You have a couple of problems.
#1. You're as sexy as hell. You like it that way, so deal with it. You are a target.
#2. You offer a man everything he wants. Lots of creeps want a taste.
- Not unlike at the supermarket some moron wants to eat ALL the freebies.
#3. You have some exclusions that take time to figure out. That can lead to dissapointment.
#4. Players exist at all ages and, like the flu, the oldest and youngest are the most vulnerable.
But real men? Not a notch. They will talk to you, or not, depending on how shy they are, but they will never ever screw around with sex and emotions. Mostly 'cause a person committed to a relationship never has such a fool thought enter thier head, but perhaps that's just me.
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 3:01:41 PM | hia beautifulwoman
Its good to see you back posting...its been a while
As Ive said in the past,,,you are def. bound to attract many men that are much younger than you are..look in a mirror for the answer as to why. There are those that are loooking to notch their bedposts but it shouldnt take much to sort through them to find a man of substance who wants you for you.
I think DentedKnight said it well | |
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wulfio
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Joined: 11/23/2005
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 3:30:56 PM | | Well, like minded individuals usually fall under the same age range - because they are at the same stage of their life in most cases. There are of course exceptions, but it really depends what his and her priorities in life are, whether or not they are on the same page, its all subjective. I dont think it's possible to generalize on any topic. I myself, would date someone older, up to their late 20's early 30's if it was just too right to pass up. And be open to the potential for something serious. But not if she was looking to have kids and marriage right off the hop, im still a few years away from that, and would not be able to provide that for her. That pretty much sums up all the points i made at the beginning. In my experience thus far i will say the older women that come my way are not looking for anything more than a boy toy though. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 3:38:43 PM | | To me, its at first an ego thing.. You know a 21 yr hooking up with a 35yr beauty queen is bragging rights in any alphamale circle.. But what I've notice is after 21, your personality is your personality and sometimes you can tell right from the start what guy is there for the hit and run and who is there for the long hull regardless of the age. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 4:58:17 PM | If I get along with them, have a good time with them, and have an attraction to them, and we have common interests and goals. I don't care if they are young or old.
I do date older women
Unless it is established B/4 dating starts that a relationship is not in the cards, then I approach with the initial premise that dates lead to relationships.
BTW beautifulwoman4u I can see why you are asking this question, I sure guys of all ages are lined up around the block promising the moon ........WOW | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 7:27:00 PM | I'd say I could get serious with someone who is at most, 30. But there are always exceptions. Even if I were to date a woman who's 37 or something, I wouldn't simply use her for sex. I would be in a committed, serious relationship still, but it would be one that wouldn't be forever probably, and therefore could never become as serious and committed as marriage. Unless, of course, this MUCH older woman wasn't interested in commitment at all, and just wanted fun, of the perverted and not-so-perverted nature...That's reasonable...But a much older woman shouldn't expect us to ride off into the sunset, get married, and have kids...Unless she's really amazing...
EDIT: And I probably wouldn't date an older woman with kids almost as old as me, or older...That would be awkward! I wouldn't want to put her kids through that, or myself, or her...It may cause trouble within the family. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/17/2006 8:07:34 PM | beautifulwoman4u .... nteresting thoughts with your question.... From my experience so far on this website...The younger males are searching for a dating relationship with the older female... Because they are tired of the younger female wanting them to spend money on them... asking them to buy things for them and to always pay for what ever they are going to do on the date. Sigh,,, It is polite for the male to pay ...but the female can show that she is not money hungry as well and be honest about it. Females asking for money or material things is Rude and a big turn off to the males. If the female at least offers to pay the tip if they go out for dinner that is better than not doing anything...
Younger males also want / think of, an older female as a teacher in many ways. Sorry guys,,,I've been there , raised my own and have a few flags and T-shirts to prove it...
Sorry if this is offending anyone..but I'm 51 and proud to be able to of lived this long... and I'm not dead either...
\You can call men all sorts of names, as well as females...but we each have our own likes and dislikes.. I personally wish that all of us would be honest upfront... and not wait till later to talk open with each other. I know its hard.....and sometimes safer foe the female to test the waters before going further in telling all.....
OKOKOKOK..I will shut up now..Have a great evening..and I hope you find an answer to your posts | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/18/2006 12:44:53 AM | Well, I've gone on tons of dates searching for this special guy this year and even when I've offered I've never had to pay a dime. My dates would have been offended at least that's the way that they acted, young or mature.
I don't know if younger women are out for money but I do know many young women who work at or work out at my gym. They are friends of mine. I've been very impressed with them as they seem to have some very high standards as far as the behavior of thier dates/boyfriends and their expectations of relationships. They are just very young and will be producing children in their lifetimes and truely inexperienced at life. Other than that I see no difference in them and older women in general. What I see is that individuals have moralistic differences. Perhaps one 21 year old woman will be after a man for their money and 9 will be after him for a real loving relationship..not precise percentages, who would know, but I beleive it's about the same for mature women too.
However, my post is simply asking the guys here to tell me the truth because I've heard so many negative things about older women younger men relationships. I see younger men who either have had their children and are divorced or whatever, or those who honestly do not want children as adult males. I have my limitations as far as how young a man would be that I would consider dating too. I think my best match is about 10 years younger. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/18/2006 9:15:16 AM | Hey there.
I like the premise of follks being honest. AND have wondered this same question from time to time. I think it is simply a matter of players and the fact that there are some. It is just difficult to pick it out. My experience is that it is not necessarily the young ones who want a notch. LOT of the older generation do as well.
It is hard out here to get a TRUE relationship...JUST someone to be friends with at first and then develope later...it really is.
Good luck in your endeavors. I shall be watching this post...thanks for the opportunity to speak a bit on comething I have been concerned with as well....
Thanks....Gpelicans | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/19/2006 9:08:55 PM | | beautifulwoman4u, I am glad you asked this question and am grateful that you guys have been so candid. I can see why men are after you, but I am amazed at the younger men contacting me. And by younger, I mean I am older enough to be their mother. Personally I find it offensive that they think I am dumb enough to believe they are looking for a relationship. As for a boy toy - no way, no how, not this woman. However, there are 2 young men that I enjoy reading their posts and have respect for - and you know who you are. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 8/19/2006 9:47:40 PM | | For me, older woman aren't a notch on my belt, nor are women my own age. I don't have a set age per se, but would like someone within 10 years . What I have occasionally noticed is that older women use the age gap thing, as an excuse, to not go out, and that gets frustrating. I'm not looking for anything Oedipedal(sp). It's just that I sometimes see a woman older than me, that I think looks really hot and it would be great to go out with her. Of course there are always those who will play around and wreck it for others, so I don't think it's necessarily an age issue. | |
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| Guys! Older women are for real relationships or a notch on your belt?
Posted: 12/26/2006 4:34:51 PM | Lets be real here, we young men just see older women as a easy lay, because in general they are so flattered by the attention from fit young men, they are more then likely to end up in bed with you.
A guy in his 20's will happily shag a hot MILF, but walk down the street holding her hand? not unless he was desperate or she done him a very special favour. | |
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