| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:28:03 PM | | Seems many men use the same words "I'm bored" (especially those under 30) - but I have to question - are they bored for lack of something to do or are the lonely for lack of someone to do something with? What are your thoughts? | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:29:29 PM | | Lonely for lack of someone or that special person to do something with. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:39:20 PM | I think they are bored because they have been playing video games all day. 
No, but seriously....I think it's lack of something to do. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:56:04 PM | | Not lonely because I enjoy my own company. Bored because there is stuff to do just no one to do it with. I'm over 30 and most of my friends are married. Being with married couples is lonely. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 8:56:15 PM | Bored as I have just posted to my thread on Just wanting emailing friends.
Rhonda | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 9:19:31 PM | | I dont even remember the last time I was bored.Im always up to something If my friends are busy,and my daughter is at her friends,Ill write poetry,split the atom hehe,read a fantastic book,bake cookies,go for a walk/bike ride,run errands or watch a spiffy movie.I really do believe if a person is bored its their own fault.Get up and do something instead of sitting around ruminating about it:) | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:45:23 PM | There's a huge difference between alone and lonely, ECE. :)
I spend a lot of time alone, but I'm very seldom lonely. I figure, if I don't want to spend time with me--who else would want to?! :)
I'm also very seldom bored...but then again, I'm a fun person--I can generally find something fun to do. Even by myself! | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/20/2006 10:47:16 PM | | I'm rarely bored... but I'm often lonely... | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 2:10:27 AM | | being one of the many on this site that do message random people, it is all out of pure boredom. i have nothing to do later on the night. so i message people trying to spark up conversations. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 2:21:55 AM | I have too full a plate to be bored. But I sure would like a woman in my life that could accept me for who I am.
I guess that makes me "lonely" for someone special. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 2:42:47 AM | Intellegent people are never bored.
Any woman who can talk sports and politics like a man should never be lonely. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 2:59:07 AM | | ^ If you ever meet that elusive creature, send her my way. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 3:11:34 AM | one in the same realy . only get bored when there is so much that you can do but nobody to do it with . which makes you lonely. can't go to the beach alone .you would look like a perv.can't go to a park alone and sit and reminice of the great days of going there with my son . i'd look like a perverted freak. can't go to a movie or out to dinner alone . you would just look lonely and pathetic. can't go for a walk on the many trails alone . or you would once again look like a perv. so many things to do not to be bored. but so lonely that you can't do them  | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 3:34:56 AM | I'm not bored or lonely!!
There's loads of things to do in this world and I have great friends to do them with.
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 3:49:15 AM | Bored is when you are not comfortable with yourself and are looking for someone to make you happy versus to complete your happiness. When you grow as a person and have a good relationship with yourself, feel comfortable with yourself and actually like yourself, you will find that you will never be bored, even when you are completely alone.
I don't have a problem going to a movie alone, dinner alone, drive alone or much of anything else alone. I do not feel lonely, nor do I feel alone and I certainly do not look pathetic. You can be with someone and feel lonely, alone and appear pathetic.
Being with someone who's compatible to you can complete your happiness and/or make your life richer but they certainly won't make you happy if you're not already there.
Even when you are alone, there is so much to do in life to enrich it that it is beyond me how some people can be bored and miserable. I do see many very young people (in their 20s) who are unhappy and bored with their lives - yet there are so many things they can do to enrich their life. I remember being in India years ago and watching young children play in the street with sticks and whatever they could find and they all had beautiful smiles on their faces and laughter in their hearts despite being barefoot and not wearing designer clothing. I think our society, hollywood and advertising play an important role in making people miserable by defining what they should have in order to be happy. It is true, many of our young people are both bored and alone - they choose to be that way - perhaps because they've been conditioned to not know any other way. I almost see an apathy and I find that very sad.
In my line of work, I interact with many older people who are (for the most part) retired and living alone. I'm happy to say that most of them do not appear lonely - for they still continue to enrich their lives in many different ways. They are of another generation and they value every moment they have left. I have a customer who just turned 90, she's in an electric chair and lives alone. She does most things herself and whenever I see her she's got a terrific smile on her face and an amazing attitude - and I enjoy visiting with her. Some might find her story interesting.... she came to this country from Greece at age 3. She got married at 14 and had her first child at 18. Since she had never gone to school up until that age, she had not learned to read or write (English) - so she went back to school at age 20-21 and graduated high school as the mother of 3 children. If you would meet her, you would not know that she had been illiterate in her earlier years for she is very articulate! She went on to have two more children. She's buried a son and a husband. Lately, she spends her time writing.
Yeah, there are plenty of people who are bored and lonely because it is the choice they make for themselves. They have the choice to break out of this today but they choose to be bored and lonely. Everything in life is a choice and we live in a country with few limitations and unlimited choices - so get away from the damned playstation and MTV and stop feeling bored and lonely and complaining!
So much for my two sense:-)
Tango57
Over and out | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 5:45:04 AM | It amazes me how many people feel like
dating and a relationship will make them feel less lonley.
I mean WTF ?
If your lonley... go help someone...
and if your bored, find something to do...
stop looking to others to fill your needs and fill them yourself. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 6:33:25 AM | | im never bored.. thanks Zoloft! | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 6:44:06 AM | Bored, not me.. Boring, not me either..
Lonely, nada.. Alone, most of the time.. (By choice)
Neither, bother me, because there are zillions of things to do in this world..
watching TV is not one of them..
The house is your cage and the world is your stage..
and I enjoy doing things alone..
and yes, I DO drink alone.. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:23:07 AM | | One chooses to be bored. There is too much in life to enjoy and take part in to ever be bored. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:25:05 AM |
It amazes me how many people feel like
dating and a relationship will make them feel less lonley.
I mean WTF ?
If your lonley... go help someone...
and if your bored, find something to do...
stop looking to others to fill your needs and fill them yourself.
And it amazes me that the only people who say that are the ones who are IN a relationstionship.
I mean WTF! Indeed. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:31:57 AM | Intelligent people can be bored.
More often frustrated though.
I think how we were raised is a large component in being content alone. I'm living alone for the first time now (no roommate) and I can't say I like it. There were always people around when I was growing up. In college there was always someone around. When I first moved to California I had roommates - always someone around. Now - I enjoy some good "me time" alone; however, when the choice no longer belongs to you it stops being a good thing (for me).
Our society is still not set up for the one, but rather the we. If your friends aren't available and you don't have a hobby it is easy to get bored. Oh - and not having cable tv doesn't help either.. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:32:30 AM | I think that being bored and being lonely are inextricably linked. Both deal with not being content with what you have.
Bored and/or lonely = the poor me syndrome | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:35:20 AM | I think people are saying they are lonley for someone special, not lonley altogether.
People who are happy and have friends and / or family to be with can still be lonley for having someone special in their lives.
edit: ^^^^I think your missing what people are saying. | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:43:51 AM | | Thats such a boring and lonely subject......but seriously it prob has more to do with just being unhappy.....if your happy....anything will seem fun.......even writing this! | |
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| bored or lonely
Posted: 8/21/2006 8:49:11 AM |
If your lonley... go help someone...
and if your bored, find something to do...
stop looking to others to fill your needs and fill them yourself.
Now, I agree with this statement somewhat but I do have a quibble.
I was quite happy during my 4 year period of being single. I have a large and diverse group of friends. I have a lot of different interests. I have a daughter and an interesting job. I still had periodic bouts of loneliness.
It is human nature to want to have a fulfilling, rewarding relationship. There's nothing wrong with being lonely from time to time. Often, it was at it's worst when I spent time with friends that were coupled up. I was so happy that they had each other but it WAS hard sometimes seeing that they had what I wanted.
It was during those times that I would remind myself WHY I was single by choice. Sometimes it was because I had things I needed to work through before I could make good choices. Often it was reminding myself that being with someone and being lonely was the worst feeling in the world. I would remind myself that until I met the person who could give me all the things I needed it wasn't worth it. I reminded myself that being with someone just for the sake of having someone wasn't going to make me any less lonely. So I held out.
I'm glad I did. I now have someone in my life that truly "gets me" and loves me completely for exactly who I am. That's priceless and it's also the first time in my life that I've truly had it. I also recognize that I got very, VERY lucky. I just happened to be in the right corner of the internet at the right time. :+) I can sincerely say that I understand the struggles of my single friends and that it can be difficult at times to go without. It certainly doesn't mean that they are lacking or that they are wrong for feeling that way. | |
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