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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:18:59 AM | I'm looking for honesty here. Also, this is directed at both men and women.
some people claim to have extremely high sex drives. I would be one of those people. However, I also know that there's a limit to it. It's actually a pretty comical conversation amongst friends, but I can't help thinking that most people are full of crap when they say they'd love to be with someone who wanted sex all the time.
Granted, most of the guys I talk with are married and don't get it very often, but I've been on both sides of this issue and I think I have a pretty good grasp on it all.
So, what is it for you??? Think about it for a minute and then be honest. Cold you deal with a partner wanting sex all the time??? Would you get tired of it??? Would the appeal be lost in time??? | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:22:55 AM | | everyone likes sex,therefore everyone is nympho | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:24:54 AM | I have honestly thought about it and have deduced that I don't need to think about it any further.
Could you deal with a partner wanting sex all the time???
Yes. I'm hoping his "all the time" matches mine, but I'll live if it doesn't. Once daily will suffice.
Would you get tired of it???
Oh no, not a chance. Not happening.
Would the appeal be lost in time???
Hardly...the appeal exists because it is so good. It's not a means to an end, it exists because it is so incredibly enjoyable. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:25:49 AM | I don't know what its like to be with anyone who wanted sex all the time, I just know what its like being that way.
I have an extreamly high sex drive and would keep shagging all day long if I could. My record is 12 times in one day so far, and have rarely gone a day with a girlfriend without having sex.
It is not as fun as it sounds though, cause I realy can not get enougth, i'm never satisfied even when my partner is, so itcreates a lot of friction in the relationship, i've only had one relationship thats lasted longer than 3 months, most only make it to a month.
On top of that there is the practical side. It costs a fortune in condoms and I have to eat a hell of a lot more when i'm dating. It eats up the whole day and sometimes causes me to miss important events just because I can't keep it in my pants! | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:26:41 AM | A hectic homelife (children, long work hours, etc) will definitely effect the frequency, but If you really enjoy it with your partner then you can be creative and make time.
As a stress-free young lady I'd like it a lot (depending on the skills of my partner) but as I get older and married etc, I say 4-5 times a week would be generous and healthy. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:43:18 AM | Of course everyone likes sex, but I guess, until you are with a partner who wants it all the time....and I do mean ALL THE TIME....you won't know what it feels like to turn it down and then think to yourself "what did I just do???" LOL.
I think two to three times a day would be great under most circumstances, but even that is excessive sometimes....again, depending on circumstances.
Let me paint a picture for you.
You take a vacation, just the two of you. Maybe a cabin in the mountains. You sleep in late and have sex upon waking. You want to get out and enjoy the mountains, but one of you decides you want to go again. "OK. We have all weekend." So you do. Then you go for a walk. Upon discovering a big clearing under an old, over grown tree, one of you (the same one as before) wants to do it there. "Hmmmm.....interesting, but three times within two hours??? OK. What the hell." You carry on down the mountain towards a stream. Maybe you want to go fishing, but one of you decides (the same as before) decides they want to have sex in the water. "Oy....I'm getting sore, but this is supposed to be about us." Now you're getting hungry and you head back to the cabin. As you're preparing food, your partner (the same one as before) is fondling you while you're trying to cook.......
Whoa.....when is enough, enough???
Perhaps I'm not as aggressive as I thought I was, but I've only ever been with one woman this....ummmm.....bad. Yes, I said bad. I know a guy already posted about how he wants to have sex LITERALLY all day, but the truth is, not many of us can do that. In fact, I've discovered that most women cannot either.
My conclusion is this. We all have spells. Mine typically happen at night, but have happened during the day as well. I think we can thoroughly enjoy sex, but still get annoyed at the frequency of requests for it. Most of us will try to please our partners, but we all have a breaking point.
Where's yours??? That was what I was getting at with my questions. | |
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| Nymphomania.
Posted: 8/22/2006 11:44:40 AM | Nymphomania ... "a woman’s compulsive desire to have sex with many different men, theorized to occur in some women".
Nymphomania is not just a high sex drive ... it actually pretty much controls your life. Happily married women who have this problem generally end up ruining their marriages because it's not just about having sex all the time ... it's also about desiring sex with other men ... many men.
And unlike a heart condition, or diabetes, or low libido ... there's no pill that can help control it.
I think people with high sex drives would be better off to find partners with similarly high sex drives. Unfortunately ... what appeals to us about a person and influences whether or not we fall in love with that person is not generally based on the sex drive. So we often find ourselves with partners that we dearly love but don't necessarily "match" with in the bedroom.
When that happens, I think ... out of love ... we have to sit down and communicate (yes I did use that big "C" word) and determine what amount of sex would be appropriate for each and try to reach an agreement. That would be an agreement where both parties can feel loved and not used, where both parties can feel fulfilled and not neglected.
It takes work ... commitment to the relationship to find the happy medium that will leave both partners feeling satisfied as well as loved. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 11:59:44 AM | | i dated an obsessive compulsive nympho once.. all day itwas sex..sex..sex...check the stove..sex..sex..sex... | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 12:12:44 PM | | A nymphomaniac is someone who wants to have sex once more than you do. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 12:16:24 PM |
A nymphomaniac is someone who wants to have sex once more than you do.
I disagree. I'd say twice or thrice more than I do.
Like I said, most of us will try to please our partner. I know I've done it on many occasions when I didn't want to, specifically. It's after that that I'll get annoyed. LOL. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 12:27:03 PM | I'm pretty indifferent to sex really. I get more satisfaction and dopamine from kissing and cuddling that I do sexual activity.
Shhhhh.. but don't tell anyone.. I don't want to be mistaken for a 'nice guy' | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 12:36:56 PM | I think that the actual question being asked (dealing a partner who wants sex ALL THE TIME) is interesting.
Unlike 99.4% of the people on PoF, I don't claim to have an atypically high sex drive... that a woman would continuously (as opposed to continually) want sex could be an issue.
I think it comes down to how she reacts when I say that I'm not interested. Is she let down? Is she resentful?
If the answer to those questions is "no" then I would probably be fine with it... of course, there's no guarantee that she would be fine with it, but I suppose that's not the question at hand :) | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 12:43:03 PM | I think my sex drive depends on whom I'm with.
One particular ex, we just couldn't get enough of one another for two years! And everytime we mixed it up, tried different things, etc... we were the perfect sexual soul mates! It helped that I was incredibly physically attracted to him and vice versa... Oh my goodness... thinking about him now just gets me turned on!
But you wrote up another entry mentioning... "oy... now I'm getting sore..." That's where creativity comes in and you use other parts of the body to please the person... or tease them until you're not sore anymore... or tell'em you're sore and perhaps they'll relish the wait they have to endure... draw it out so when you're ready they'll enjoy it even more...
I also agree with your comment that the appeal could be lost after a while. Too much of the same and that's when your desire starts to wane, cause you know it'll be the same.
So back to my original thought... the drive depends on whom I'm with. If I'm incredibly attracted to the person and they wanted it all the time, I'm sure I could handle it. 
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Posted: 8/22/2006 12:47:56 PM | I think the term "all the time" is over-used. I think what most people really mean is that they want sex MORE than they are currently getting. For myself, since I'm not getting ANY, right now I would be apt to say I want it all the time, but what I think I really mean is that I think about getting it ALL THE TIME which makes me think that I want it all the time.
DAMN..........now I've gone from thinking about having sex all the time to analyzing my thinking about sex!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I NEED TO GET LAID~!!!!!!!!!!!!  | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 12:54:01 PM | Short answer..... yes... I could deal with it....
Long answer..... it's all about balance.... as long as they appreciated my other qualities and wanted to spend time together OUTSIDE of sex...... no problem..... I would probably call 10 times a day about the absolute limit though..... | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 1:06:40 PM | | I don't know what it feels like to be a woman, but I know as a guy, when we get sore, it's not likely to go away too quickly. On top of that, if you acquire any type of chafing, you'll be waiting for sex for a lot longer than you'd like. LOL. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 1:11:46 PM | chafing.. funny word.
good sex  lots and lots
crappy partner  never ever
see
i don't think anyone is opposed to having good frequent sex. except for the chafing part..ouch | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 1:18:26 PM | Well ... OP ... I see other than you and one other person and maybe me ... nobody else seems to have a grasp on nymphomania at all... It is a disease of an obsessive compulsive nature ... a real problem ... so dealing with it is much the same as dealing with any other mental disorder. you need professional help and a lot of patience.
It is not about how much sex drive someone has ... it is about wanting sex with pretty much everyone you meet and then actually going about approaching them and partaking if they agree. Nymphomania is a real problem. Not some porno movie made up idea.
I would find it difficult to deal with even if I was in love with that person though sex is not the crowing part of a relationship and if I was in love .. I would deal with it by getting professional help.
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Posted: 8/22/2006 1:29:22 PM | Good sex (not love making...but sex) ....is like alcohol....after the first time....I really want it again....and again...a few minutes later sadly....but again....and then when I 've enough....the next day ...its just not as an enticing thought.....a little recovery is in order....maybe not desired...but required.
And at times....other activities and responsibilites force a 'pacing' of ones self and the oh so loved marathon sesson is just not allowed. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 1:34:57 PM | i like to think that i love sex all the time,,but when i was in high school and had my "first" love,,we had sex all the time,,my buddies were all jelous of me and so on,bc i was getting it all the time,but after like 3 months of nothing but sex,,,it got really boring,,,like i mean having sex 6-7 times a day,,now that may not seem like alot to some ppl,,,but when ur 17,,,thats alot of sex,,but anyways, i had to stop and think if she was just using me for sex,,turned out that she wasnt,,but after a talk and a pregnacny scare we cut back.
now ,at 21,,my new gf ,, seems all she wants is sex,,and we have it,,and its great,,but she says that we dont have enough i just dont want another pregnancy scare,,yes theres protection,,,but still,,so thats my opinion,,,yes i think u can get bored with sex,,theres many other things u can do with gf/bf then just sex | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 2:05:46 PM | | I most certainly do want sex all the time and I have not been able to find a man that can actually keep up with me - I get the, 'I'm tired' excuse - WTF - men are such braggers but can't follow through - when they get the woman they have been begging for, they can't cope. They all say, they are good lovers and that in reality is actually very few and far between. I meet someone and discuss what I want and like about sex and it's, 'oh yeah baby me too' - but nope they can't measure up!! They can't keep up in the regular/traditional sex with me and hence can't even get to the more exotic fun stuff - maybe once in awhile but not enough! God some people just don't know what they are actually missing. I had one good lover and who ever ends up with him in the end is going to have a perma smile the rest of her fvckin' life and I am so jealous!!! | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 2:27:58 PM | | Mine might not be high compared to a lot of people's standards but it was overwhelming to my ex. I'd be happy with once a week, more perferrably, BUT only if it was good. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 2:33:36 PM | First, let me say that I didn't mean for this to turn into a technical discussion on the ailements of the sexual disorder. I know I chose the wrong word, but it's synonomous to the problem, so it fit. LOL. I'm talking about the social problem between partners where sex is concerned.
I can only speak from my own experience and from the conversations I've had. Like I said, they're always comical. I often tell my buddies that they're full of shit when they say they would love a woman that wanted sex all the time. Maybe they mean that they'd love it as long as they can say no with no consequences, but we all know that never happens. LOL.
The physical discomfort is one thing, but the fact that the rejected party can be offended and/or hurt is another problem. I could never be with someone I wasn't physically attracted to, so if I say no, it's not because I'm not attracted. In fact, if I say no, you can rest assured that you've probably asked for it too often that day. Either that or there is something that I have to do. Very seldom am I not in the mood or not feeling well. The problem remains, though, that a woman can feel bad if she's rejected. Probably more than a guy does. Let's face it. We're neanderthals. We know this. So when our woman turns us down, we chalk it up to that and pretty much just carry on. Unless it's happening a lot.
As for keeping up, I'm the first to admit that I am likely unable to keep up with any woman. They all have it way better than we do when it comes to endurance. I do my best and I think I do pretty good, but I'm not about to try to run a marathon with any woman. I'm too competitive and it would likely kill me. LOL. | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 2:39:38 PM | I love sex, would love to have it all the time. Doesnt mean i go out and just find anyone to have sex. But if i ever find the right man that loves to have sex as much as i do, he is a keeper.  | |
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Posted: 8/22/2006 2:41:16 PM | It depends on your partner...........
I was with someone that we couldn't keep our hands off of eachother..... ofcourse, I think I was a lil more aggressive..... and initiated a lot! It used to worry him..... he admited a couple of years after we broke up that he REALLY misses that! LOL
To have passion and chemistry is a wonderful thing!!!! Sometimes it can be a bit much... but hey NOTHING is wrong with Marathon weekends!!!!! 
when in a relationship.......... um.... I would want it more then once a week.... I mean come on... it's fun to wake up to..... and maybe some dessert... and then.... a great way to fall asleep... and hey if you one of yea wakes up int he middle of the night.. right on1!!! | |
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