| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 1:47:34 PM | | It has amazed me how many people on here have health problems or disabilities. Would you date somone with a disablilty? Uses a cane, wheelchair, has a limp, lisp, or other problem? | |
|
| |
| |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 1:53:51 PM | Not sure... Because when your feelings develope for them how do you know if they are true feelings or just pity, because the 2 can feel very much alike... But down the line you begin to realize that you don't love this person that it has been pity all along and then all of a sudden you are hurting everyone involved...
Lots of Variables to be considered here...
I have a limp, but haven't had problems getting dates because of it... Won't know until I have my back checked out more thoroughly if I have a deeper problem... | |
|
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:01:15 PM | Pity comes due to being with a whinny person who talks non stop about their disability. Its the inner person you fall in love with not the shell.
If she was upbeat, possitive, a great person, kind, caring, compassionate, honest, had integrity, made you laugh, was genuine, a limp shouldn't matter at all! | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:07:20 PM | | Well d*mn. That lets me out. OK you bunch of carrots. Back in the bag. I used to be called a space cadet. But these passed 10 or so years, I've been the captain of the ship. Maybe someday...I'll make admiral. I would love to be a rear admiral, but only for a short time. I so enjoy the frontal attacks. | |
|
| |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:09:24 PM | My third husband was a physically disabled man
think my first husband was emotionally disabled.
and second husband was mentally disabled.
Have dated several men missing limbs.
No problemo | |
|
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:11:20 PM | LOL
Well I'm speaking of physically disabled. Could be a minor heart problem, or a part heart attack. Or simply artheritis, or a limp. Every one of those things is considered disabled these days. | |
|
| |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:20:45 PM | My uncle is in a Wheel chair, has been as long as I can remember... He went through 12 years of Marriage because she pitied him and he never knew until the day she decided she couldn't do it anymore and flat out told him that she pitied him...
He in turned told her that he can take care of himself and if all the feelings she had for him were pity, then to get out and live her life... He wanted her to be happy...
12 years is a long time not to confuse the 2 feelings... | |
|
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:26:41 PM | | I banged a chic in a wheel chair once. She was hot, just had a wheel chair. In fact, it was darn kinky cause she had this trapeze set up above her bed and stuff. Wow, that was fun. | |
|
| |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:37:24 PM | wolf,
Well she had a kick ass house. We watched movies in bed and stuff, fun to hang out with. She had a very positive attitude. | |
|
Ainsel
|
Joined: 2/20/2005
Msg: 18 | |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 2:51:18 PM | I find it hard to wrap my brain around the fact that some people would turn down a date with someone simply and soley based on a physical disability. I know it happens and it happens a lot, I just have trouble understanding the concept. But then both of my last two partners had health issues that required minor accommodation.
I just take it for granted that by the time one hits my age, health issues are going to be a given.
There are so many more important things to be considered in finding good dates and life partners to worry about something like a physical impairment. | |
|
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 3:56:06 PM | To be disabled is a mere inconvenience to those of us with spirit. Maybe I can't do the fast dances ... or lack the grace for ballrooms ... but a long, slow hug on the dance floor is a heartwarming experience. Mountain climbing and long humps through the boonies are out of the question ... but a slow hand-in-hand stroll along the boardwalk is togetherness. In slower motion ... every moment lasts longer.
Behind the steering wheel on a long drive? I'm in my element ... and I get to stop and enjoy the sights along the way more than I could when time was of the essence. I still feel, see, smell, hear and taste the same things ... possibly with a lot more gratitude than someone who has never experienced loss. I can appreciate life. Like most "disabled" folks, I focus on those things on which I am still able. To do anything less would be a handicap. Would I date who can experience life's pleasures in the same was as me? You bet!
Steve | |
|
| |
| |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:36:47 PM | I would not rule out a man with any disability, lost limbs, blind, deaf, wheelchair, as long as his mind was active and intact. If he could love me honestly and with kindness, why not. With my own disability of course lifting him or heavy duty would depend on someone else to help, but I'm not shallow enough to say I wouldn't see if we had the basis for love or a great friendship... to do so would be poking a pin in my own eyes.
It disheartens me reading this. It makes me feel like I sometimes do in the mall when using my elbow crutches because my leg hurts to bad to walk without them, when people either gwak and avoid, or simply won't make eye contact. I'm am no less who I am here or to anyone else who knows and loves me, because someone is unable to be open minded enough to accept me as I am. That is their disability and to me more glaring than my own. | |
|
| |
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:51:30 PM | | Diabled people have hearts, feelings, thoughts, senses, emotions, the ability in most cases to enjoy more of life than those who have all their health. I would date a disabled person most likely more readily than one with complete health. Go figure. | |
|
| Would you date someone who is disabled.
Posted: 3/11/2005 4:52:49 PM | | A lot of time a disability can be complemented by the non disabled person. A deaf guy can date a blind gal. He can lead the walk in the park and she can enjoy the sound of the birds singing. So basically its a matter of whether a disablity can be worked into a relationship or not. | |
|
Home
login 
