| | GUYS- What leaves you wanting more after a date?Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | Okay, this really has become a bit of a problem for me as of late. I have no problem initially attracting men and getting them to ask me out on a date; however, I can't seem to get past the second or third date hurdle. I adore the whole man pursuing woman thing...you know. flowers, calling often just to see how she is, etc., etc., but I just can't seem to get to that stage in the game.
I will admit that if it is a guy I am truly interested in, I do get a bit nervous on dates and don't know exactly how to act, and I do think that that might have something to do with it. Especially since the guys that I don't like never leave me alone...lol.
Anyway, what leave you wanting more after a date with a girl? Is she funny, charming, confident, hard to get, or what? What is it about a woman that makes her special to you and want to spend more time with her? | |
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| GUYS- What leaves you wanting more after a date?
Posted: 8/27/2006 6:39:32 PM | In my case? Chemistry and a clear indication that she's interested.
Considering that we guys are a little thickheaded when it comes to women I suggest taking a clue stick to beat it into us.  | |
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| GUYS- What leaves you wanting more after a date?
Posted: 8/27/2006 6:49:28 PM | | What leaves me wanting more? Mostly her personality! I'm with her,so the attraction is there. If she can keep me mentally stimulated,that's a plus! Of course,there has to be chemistry too! I would like to know,if she's interested! The chase is fun for a little while. But,not too much of it! I'd like to know, if she's interested in more than a first date or even two! If she's willing to be right up front,it takes out so much of the guess work. If she came right out and said something like," I had a good time,would you like to call me sometime,and do this again"? I'd be all over that. Most of the time,we have to make a judgement call. Does she like me? What did she think about our time together? Would she like to go out again? Should I call her? The guessing game is only fun for so long! We don't always have the nerve,to be right up front either! I guess,if I know she's into to me, and I'm into her...I'll be back! | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 6:56:28 PM | Hey, thanks for the replies.
Actually, on some of these dates, there was most definitely chemistry, and there was no mistaking it, great conversation, etc., etc.,
I just don't get guys! I would so like to take things to the next level, but it's just not happening for me right now.  I've yet to see a rose since my last breakup, and phone calls just to say hello are so few and far between.
I don't know if I'm putting out too many "I like you" vibes to the good ones and I should just play hard to get or what.
Grrr....dating is so stinking frustrating! | |
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| GUYS- What leaves you wanting more after a date?
Posted: 8/27/2006 7:44:13 PM | Well, considering that I probably asked them out, I am interested in them. Unless she does something crazy on the first or second date, I am probably still interested in them. Given that, the biggest thing is how I perceive their interest in ME is.
For example, if she answers her cell phone when it is not an emergency or checks her messages, then I probably won't ask her out again. If she does not ask about me and instead only talks about herself, then I will not ask her out again. Hmmm, if we have talked prior to the date (over the phone, lets say) and she does not remember what we talked about, then I won't ask her out again.
So, if other guys are like me, let them know you are interested in them and want to get to know them! Maybe even doing future pacing like if he brings up something like golf lets say then you could say "I think it would be awesome if we went golfing sometime" | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 7:49:22 PM | For me its the "anticipation for the future", only if im into the girl. The hard to get thing is not what I am into at all. If im really into her then yes the flowers and phone calls are the route that I go. Maybe its like you said that you have no problem attracting men to ask you out on a date, maybe its a confeidence thing, not that thats a bad thing but if I see a woman has no problem getting dudes attention then thats a lil intimidating. Who knows, thats just my opinion and yall know what they say bout opinions, lol.
Anywho, good luck and keep your head up. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 7:58:31 PM | This is tooooo easy for a pirate! The answer to the Q is B O O T Y ! ! !
You could always go for the "I tink I like you" line.
Bottom line, for a person trying to "nab" a man, A guy wants everything befors he makes up his mind. After the first couple dates? the only thing even atracting us is the ______!
Trust me it aint your personality. After he gets the treasure then, and only then, he makes a decision.
Not trying to be rude just up-front.
Rule number one for guys: We go out with our friends to have fun. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 8:08:41 PM | Its allways about how you make him feel toward you....if you act like you don't even want to hold his hand or a quick peck on his cheek...Id never call u back if you acted distant/afraid of touch ....because thats why your there...with him,...Otherwise u can pass back messages till your fingers fall off.HaHa good luck | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 8:18:23 PM | ^Hear hear. We want a porn star! You should'nt play around with us making up rules to when your going to put out.
You have to sell yourself to us the first or second date. The more horny and kinky you are the more chances you will get for extra dates. Just dont be nervous and give us your best. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 8:48:06 PM | IMHO... I think MovingOnward got it pretty much right. If you want a man to call you, let him know you are interested in him. If he makes the first move and asks you out on a date, then after a day or so, you can call him and ask him out! Personally, I don't want to keep doing the same thing over and over either. Have him over for dinner and cook a nice meal -- you can eat while you watch a movie, or play a game. Suggest going someplace different. And... always remember the song... "Hold on loosely..."
Oh yeah, w.r.t. flowers and such. According to, "The Modern Man's Guide to Life," if you give her a rose a week before you get married, you must give her one a week afterwards. I prefer to start a little slowly and build up, as opposed to making huge gestures that I cannot possibly afford to continue... we don't want you complaining later on that he, "Used to be so romantic..." Hmmm... maybe that's why I'm on this site... LMAO!
Anyway Instead of two bucks in my wallet, now I only have $1.98...
Best of luck.
Right on MovingOnward
Ignore the Pirate (even though he probably means well) and certainly ignore Thawootah (who I hope was just kidding) | |
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Posted: 8/27/2006 9:53:50 PM | To answer your question, the thing that makes me lose interest every time, is that she refuses to show interest. Reciprocation is SO important. (Either that, or I wasn't interested at first sight.)
Oh, and after I leave 2 messages and no return phone call, I consider her a lost cause.
Hard to get is lame and will leave me finding someone easier to get. (Hard to get DOES work, but it is best left to the professionals who KNOW how it works and shouldn't be attempted by those who don't know how to use it.) | |
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| GUYS- What leaves you wanting more after a date?
Posted: 8/27/2006 11:34:14 PM | I will admit that if it is a guy I am truly interested in, I do get a bit nervous on dates and don't know exactly how to act, and I do think that that might have something to do with it. Especially since the guys that I don't like never leave me alone...lol.
I can't stress this enough... be yourself. A guy will be able to tell if you aren't. If you can't be comfortable... perhaps you should not be with this person. Ask yourself why you are nervous.?
If guys you aren't into, don't leave you be, make sure that you say that "you are not comfortable seeing them". Say it out loud. Some guys can be dense until you spell things out.
what leave you wanting more after a date with a girl?
All guys are looking for something. That something however, is different from guy to guy. If it were me, I would like to leave the date knowing the following:
1. you're interested.
2. you actually wanna see me again
3. you're not a push-over (as in easy)
4. there is more to you than meets the eye (as in there is more I would like to explore with regard to personality etc).
Hope this helps.
Good luck.
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Posted: 8/27/2006 11:37:03 PM | | I like a woman who has a lot to talk about, but is also patient enough to listen to what I have to say. Too often, women have asked me a question, and they did not allow me to answer it. Having a respectful conversation and showing that you are actively listening and care what person is talking about is important. At the same time, a nice kiss at the end of the date is always nice. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 7:31:04 AM | The main thing that leaves us wanting more is physical attraction. This is why some women can be b***** and still get men.
Not knowing how to act around guys you are truly interested in is likely not the reason they don't call again. The likely reason is they are good looking and thus your nervousness and interest in them and they are not really into you physically. People don't seem to consider the importance of physical attraction. It is the starting point. If you fail that test then men generally don't look deeper. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 8:48:55 AM | hmmm you ever notice the mean nasty evil women all dress to impess and show enough to make you think you might get more... some men are like dogs... you can kick em hit them... and they will come back if you hold out a treat...
I want more from a date if there is the idea... "She had fun" "she likes me" "i dont have to chew my arm off to get away from this one!" | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 8:57:50 AM | | Men are making all sorts of comments on what keeps them interested but it is misleading. What they are saying is true but they neglect to mention the fact that their point only holds value if they find the female attractive. Otherwise the points they mention are worthless. I guess they think it is a given that they already find the women attractive. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 9:10:49 AM | Thanks again for all of the replies.
Athletic_funny4: I am assuming that these men are attracted, as we have been out on multiple dates, and they have made positive comments regarding my appearance. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 10:06:00 AM | If I like you you don't have to leave me wanting more. You just have to let me know it's OK to express that desire. Then I can move on to the next bit, be that flowers or a walk on the beach, or whatever.
Leaving a man wanting more smacks of manipulation. It seems like you are asking "How do I get every guy to want me?" Then of course, you can pick your choice without fear of rejection. Perhaps a subconcious reason for phrasing the question the way you did, but I see no evidence of any such desire in your posts, so I assume you just want to know how to know if he likes you.
And that I answered up front.
BTW...I like the stand close and give me that "Kiss me you idiot." look after a couple of dates if we are clicking well. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 1:25:32 PM |
I adore the whole man pursuing woman thing...
That's all well and good, but if you want to make it to date four, try asking your man out after the 3rd date. We appreciate a little effort, too. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 1:41:52 PM | | It's hard to answer this because each guy is different. From my experiences I have found that I tend to lose interest in women who are overly self-centered. I am very attracted to confident women, but I get turned off when it's all "me, me, me". I don't need the conversation to constantly be about either of us. Lets talk sports, fashion, politics, news, etc. I don't want to hear an abundance of "I'm this ... I did this ... I think this ... I love me" talk. Step away from the mirror and face the person who is looking to look at you. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 1:42:20 PM | Politics is your second interest? Does this facilitate dating combat?
Saying you don't like arrogance, etc., is a bit odd. Stating a given makes some wonder if these are negatives that might reside within yourself. Whether that is logical or not it is indeed human. | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 1:48:58 PM | Good point double_cabin! I do enjoy a friendly political debate, but not usually on a first, second, or third date; so I should probably remove that from my profile.
Also, trust me, although I am confident, I am one of the least arrogant people you will ever meet. I have never thought about the possibility that listing that as a turn-off might make others think that subconciously. Very insightful call. Thank you so much! | |
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Posted: 8/28/2006 5:50:22 PM | Lets see.
Just what kind of "wanting more" do you mean? If its literal, then all you have to do is leave more to be desired. We (as humans, not guys) want what we do not have. Dont let him know right away that he is the one and only... Let him at least belive you want to keep your options open. Make us persue, were hunters after all right?
Just dont be supriesd that as hunters (think primal hunters, lions, tigers ect...) we choose to go after the 'easy' prey. Tigers, Lions, Wolf's ect dont go after the young healthy animals. They prey on the sick, elderly, weak. Why? Because its easier.
Hmm. Actually thats a DAMN good argument FOR one nighters... lol.
Where were we again..
Oh yes.
Just be stimulating. Hint at other things to do, withought coming right out and saying it. I dated a girl that scuba dived. I never have, and while she never offerd... boy was I ever hoping that she would...
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| GUYS- What leaves you wanting more after a date?
Posted: 8/28/2006 6:12:46 PM | If we hit it off... I mean I can damn neer hold a conversation with anyone but if I actually enjoy the conversation and we are laughing and having a good time and I find you Attractive then I will another date for sure.
If I call/text/e-mail you a few hours after the date then you can be damn sure I want to see you again. | |
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