| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 7:20:38 AM | Someone that I know just turned 40 and has been told by some men ( I heard this too) there is no way you are 40 you look like your in your late twenty's!.
She has wrinkles all around her eyes and mouth and she looks worn out. These men must just want sex because in all honesty I am 35 and she looks like she is in her late 20's how young do I look? lol...Why tell someone that clearly looks as old as they are or older that they look so much younger?...It makes me wonder if they need glasses! | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 7:40:18 AM | well these people are just lying through there back teeth to get them into bed so why fall for the oldest trick in the book on the other hand u look good  | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 8:12:51 AM | | First thing is did these comments come online from her photo? If so, does it clearly show all those lines you're talking about? Second, isn't a bit of a leap to say that because they gave her a bit of flattery that ALL THEY WANT is sex? Lots of people actually like, (or even demand,) a bit of flattery, and lots fish for compliments, and lots of people know that. Third, then...If a woman makes a flattering comment about my age/looks, should I assume she's insincere and only out for sex? (See, there I go, fishing again!) | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 9:20:35 AM | Well said Angel, I'm sure she comes complete with claws and her own milk bowl.
Wait till you turn forty, or better yet fifty, you'll be hoping men say the same thing about you. Most men are not very good at guessing a womans age and though most of them say it just to be flattering, but who is to say that when your friend smiles or her face lights up with pleasure, that she does not look younger than her age. Thankfully men are not as critical of women are you are and if your "friend" were to read this I'm sure the friendship would come to an abrupt halt. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 9:31:51 AM | | I've met plenty of women in their late 20s with some lines in their face. We all age differently and sometimes even with some lines in our face, our personality makes us seem much younger than we are. A few laugh lines in a woman's face makes her mature and beautiful, in my opinion. You don't have to have the skin of a baby to appear young if your mind is youthful. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 9:33:10 AM | Well let's start by saying this is NOT my friend and she is the one telling me that all these guys that are approach her are after sex. Plus when I turn 40 I would hope that men and others find it in their hearts to NOT lie to me about what I look like. I am and always have been ok with whatever someone says about my looks. I will never be everyones cup of tea and that is fine..no problem. But I personally would love for someone to be honest rather then lie and say I look 10+ years younger when I really know I don't. When you live a hard life and run yourself down age tends to creep up on you faster. I am NOT being critical just honest...why is it when you speak the truth people tend to think your your claws are out?...Too bad some of us need to be lied to, to make us feel good about ourselves. I was just trying to get some opinions..good or bad...because again..I CAN HANDLE THE TRUTH! | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 9:36:13 AM | | I fully agree with you the looks are not as important in that way lines vs. no lines who cares but if you clearly see that this person does NOT look that young why even mention it?...just go with the flow and enjoy her for her and tell her how beautiful she is without telling her how young she looks rather say how young spirted she is..what a great outlook she has...so on and so forth | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/28/2006 10:14:32 AM | | Sorry, Willyou, but I couldn't let that lie either. Isn't it usually taken as a very backhanded compliment to tell someone that you think they're 'young spirited.' Nothing guaranteed better to make (a woman) feel old-looking, since a comment like that is obviously one that's been THOUGHT about. Proper compliments come spontaneously, and when we don't know someone we tend to talk about the most obvious things...the weather's not as hot as they predicted, what a great restaurant, you look younger than that, oh that's a fantastic tattoo. Usual small talk?? | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 1:15:44 PM | | I just turned 40 last month and I get the *you can't be 40* all the time, I also think they need glasses!!! But on the other hand, if I don't look it, I'll age well I guess? Or maybe, they are fibbingggggggggggggggg too!!! | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 1:39:44 PM | Are you kidding? Your'e 35 so youve been around this mortal coil enough to have developed some sort of common sense. Or have you???
What do you men with this "These men must just want sex". Did it ever occur to you that there are still plenty of men around civil enough to pay a woman compliments on her appearance when they aren't after sex.??
Theres something totally perverted, about the female culture, when women are slapping on the make up by the trowel, and spending a fortune on painful conspetic surgery, but still moaning and griping if a man compliments them on their appearance. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 1:43:14 PM | I've met plenty of women in their late 20s with some lines in their face. We all age differently
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Now that you mention it Laff
I've got a dozen female freinds the same age , with grey hair, and a dozen male friends the same age with no hair.
Take a real tip from an honest man ladies.
Dont' try to make yourselves look younger. Try to make yourselves look prettier and sexier. If there's one breed of attractive female that I can't stand it's the ice queen. Regardless of age. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 2:31:32 PM | She has wrinkles all around her eyes and mouth and she looks worn out
boy i hope no one says that about me when i turn 40 in a few months!..
Why tell someone that clearly looks as old as they are or older that they look so much younger?It makes me wonder if they need glasses!...
r ya sure ur 35??.. cause that was a totally immature comment coming from a 35 y.o!..
there r alot of older ppl that look younger.. i`ve been told that i look like i`m 25 quite a few times & have had ppl say 2 me "u CAN`T be 39!".. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 3:20:04 PM | ~OT~ People see other people through their own eyes. She may look old/worn out to you, but she may not look that way to others. Beauty is definitely in the eye of the beholder. You may think she looks older ~ but by this post of yours, I would guess you are 17 and still upset she had the better looking date for the prom. Such harshness from a supposed "friend." Hmmmmm.  | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 5:16:42 PM | Guys are simply looking at different things on her than you are. They might not even notice those little lines that you are talking about. How does her skin look otherwise? How's her body? How are her legs? Instead of dissing her, you ought to be trying to figure out what she is doing right, so you get the same reaction when you are her age.
knopper3 | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 7:51:02 PM | | I always say you only look as old as you feel, so enjoy your youthfull self and you'll be young forever. I hope.lol. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 7:58:50 PM | phuck 40, I'm fighting it EVERY chance I get!
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/29/2006 9:18:58 PM | maybe they dont see her wrinkles.. only
her smile because her spirit is one that
they like her.
msg 1
you sound a little jealous. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/30/2006 1:02:09 PM | | HELLO.......again she is NOT my friend I just know her! I was just intrested in opinions...damn..lol...all this so called trying to bash people...some people are just intrested in finding out why!..is that really that hard to understand? | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:33:46 PM | | RFLMAO. I am 43 and with short hair still get carded. If I were to shave my moustache off I would get carded everywhere. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/30/2006 7:21:17 PM | Telling a woman she's young-spirited would probably be taken that she doesn't "look" young, just "acts" young. It's like telling a pretty overweight woman that she "has a pretty face."
Right?
Just tell her she's "Hot."
:) Cali | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/30/2006 7:46:45 PM | Hi,
Why such a big deal over what age someone looks?
I can deal with looking my age to people, looking older, or looking younger, who cares! It is how I feel about myself that counts!
I have found out that being honest about this topic can make some people really mad!
My friend thinks he looks so damned young, and I told him he is fooling himself! His dyed hair is too young for his face and wrinkles I told him. He has been in denial about it for many years.
Now, he is mad at me, because I was honest.
Insecure people feel that way about their looks!
PS Sambucadawg you are a hottie! | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/31/2006 2:17:09 PM | | I agree somewhat with sparticuss. When a guy pay's me a compliment I don't always think they are after sex. Maybe they are being totally honest and maybe that's just there way of opening up for a introduction. I am a woman and I think alot of women are too judgemental. You never know what a man or woman is thinking, why try to guess. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/31/2006 5:42:49 PM | Wow! Wish there were more women like Liz in Colorado.
Compliment a woman there and they automatically think you want to be inside of them.
Oops, I forget I have been told I am to nice. POF women want to date jerkoffs? Maybe thats why. | |
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| Just turning 40
Posted: 8/31/2006 8:21:33 PM | When you make a comment saying she looks old and worn out and that men only compliment her because they want sex, it makes you sounds small and spiteful. Therefore we can only assume you are bashing. If you do not want people to be critical of you, then you should not be so critical of someone who is not your friend, just someone you know in passing and judged by your own standards.
Men seldom notice wrinkles and its very possibly when they look at her and see a sparkeling friendly personality, in their eyes she really does look younger than her age. By your pictures you do not look 35, but when a person looks at your eyes there is a good bit of cynicism in there that makes you look much older than your years. What strangers see and what a friend sees often vary. I am very glad men are not as critical as you are. | |
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