| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/13/2005 10:53:47 AM | It seem's like this page is based all about the looks... If someone can actually get past the looks and not go for the hot to good for you people... Then there would be less non-successful forums... you would be surprised how a average person can make you feel...
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/13/2005 12:58:29 PM |  I agree to a certain point. I do believe that looks have some what say in a relationship! I sure couldnt be wit someone that i wasnt attracted to! | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/13/2005 1:31:36 PM | Hey Jen I just wanted to say you don't look that average. In fact you look very hot. I am not sure if you where speeking of yourself. But if you where. Or someone tells you you look average dont acept it. Because you are very cute. Jay  | |
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Posted: 3/13/2005 5:48:28 PM | | Thanks but im talking in general but that was nice of you to say :) | |
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/16/2005 6:04:17 AM | Hi...
I have to agree with you to a certain point as well...looks seem to be most important here...but, it's not any different than being in a bar or a singles dance, or whatever. A growing majority of people are superficial and base their attractions FIRST on what a person looks like.
I'm of 2 minds that way. While I'm not prize myself---and while I don't only message back people who are waiting for their photo layout in GQ...looks DO play a small part in the way I 'see' people. Thankfully, I am aware that I'm not a beauty queen, and I quickly look past someone's appearance (because to do anything else would suggest that I was a hypocrite and very shallow) but...with that said...sometimes, in some instances, you can't look past a person's appearance and judge them JUST on sight.
Thats the dilemma alot of people have, I think (and that is only my opinion) and I don't think that it is shallow behaviour...in some cases, I think that it's just societal conditioning that allows us to judge before we get to know someone.
I dunno---it's a fine line we all cross (and yes, I believe that we all do it to a certain extent.)
Cheers!
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Posted: 3/16/2005 2:59:20 PM | | I have found that a person who may appear to be "great" looking at first glance may become ugly the more you get to know them and vice versa. There has to be a great heart and personality that goes with that person. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2005 3:16:27 PM | | i have to agree with sweet and juicy on this one. IF you are not physically attracted to a person then there is very little hope in sucessfully having a relationship with them, everyone needs to find their partner they connect with Mentally, emotionally and physically..without 1 or more of them cateogries its just gona turn out to be a fling or a relationship draging along that really shouldnt have begain in first place. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2005 4:15:41 PM | We have been naturally selected to be attracted to people based on looks. Which, generally speaking, is a pretty good indication of how healthy someone is. Of course you can be healthy and ugly; but in general, if you're unhealthy, chances are it will show and you won't look as good.
Get the hell out there, do some exercise, tone up, get a tan and lose some weight. Then, you'll do like everybody else on the surface of the earth and select people based on their looks. | |
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Posted: 3/16/2005 8:03:34 PM | Ok I get what your saying but im healthy ... So i dont want to be 100 lbs soakin wet sorry i dont find that healthy or attractive ...
I know a little bit is based on looks but these days 95 % is based on looks .. Im happy with the way i look ,,,people dont like it its there loss not mine... but people that base it on looks only is very shallow cause you can be hot like a barbie and be dumber then a door nail..
So it's ok to base some on looks but 100% on looks dont think so...
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Posted: 3/16/2005 8:33:50 PM | I've gone out with MANY ladies that were average ...
The truth is that good partners are hard to find no matter how you look ...
If you were born with model quality looks, you'd just attract more jerks ...
The grass isn't always greener on the other side. | |
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Joined: 3/7/2005
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Posted: 3/17/2005 3:37:32 AM | WOW ...I never find it any different...Someone who complains about looks always says nasty things about the good looking ones..Dumb as a door knob or shallow or some other colorfull put down.
Any one who has an issue with apperences being important in a relationship needs to hang out at the center for the blind to find there mate..I have yet to MEET any one or even talk to any one that has not agreed that attraction by Apperence was there first reason to start a relationship..So if it is an issue for you it is a sad one, because reality is what it is not what we want it to be...
Relax some dont be so uptight and try to communicate with people you find as attractive as your self..If you are a 2 dont hit on the 10 exspecially on line where you we are dependent even more so on apperence, as personality is a distant dream while you are typing lol.. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 4:56:34 AM | ...you can be hot like a barbie and be dumber then a door nail...really well said..u are so right about that fact...but what can we do...men like barbie girls more than smart ones...its their bad luck to find out it after date or something like that...so if u are happy then its ok...u are to only one who chose how to be and act...good luck;)
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/17/2005 1:47:08 PM | | Some of us like smart women, Rainy_Girl. I want a person who I can hold a conversation with, without that conversation always being the latest entertainment news. | |
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txmed
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/17/2005 6:23:37 PM |
We have been naturally selected to be attracted to people based on looks. Which, generally speaking, is a pretty good indication of how healthy someone is. Of course you can be healthy and ugly; but in general, if you're unhealthy, chances are it will show and you won't look as good.
Get the hell out there, do some exercise, tone up, get a tan and lose some weight. Then, you'll do like everybody else on the surface of the earth and select people based on their looks.
Um yeah..well......
I hate to be the one to break this to you, but there are some d*mned ugly healthy people out there. It has NOTHING to do with getting out, getting a tan, toning up, etc. You kinda proved that with your materialistic commentary.
I have never chosen someone for their looks. Lemme find you a picture of the last few guys I dated. You'll see I'm right.
As for the original poster (sorry sis, i forget your handle)...baby...you KNOW someone will see you, hear your voice, look into your eyes and be hooked.
I know it to be true, so don't fall for this bullsh*tline that you have to be 5'6, blonde, blue-eyed and a size 2. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 7:20:16 PM | | so why is it that the #1 quality a woman looks for in a man is a sense of humour,yet all these women all go for the "GQ/Brad Pitts" of the world who end up treating them like shit??? | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 7:54:48 PM | | I agree....looks are soooo overrated....they will one day fade anyway!!! | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 7:59:01 PM | | good question.....why do we....maybe we are hoping we can change them? which never happens..they just end up sucking the life and energy out of you...go for humour..it is way better!!! | |
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Joined: 3/15/2005
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| it's all about the looks
Posted: 3/17/2005 7:59:53 PM | | Hey I just say take me as I am or leave me as I was... Huh I mean deal with it!! Some people go for looks some dont ..I think when u meet someone You just have a connection and thats what attracts you to them. I think yah personality conversation is the best and it can make a person hot but lets face some people are good looking hot! I dont know I mean this topic can have so many different views but really define beauty is it in the eye of the beholder yah i think soo..and i believe everyone is beautiful in one way or another keep smilin ..bye | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 8:03:12 PM | it is all about the look's but here is the kicker beauty is in the eye of the beholder for every different look out there thier is someone who is attracted to it. i for one am an average real human being and i am attracted to average real women. there is a reason i put into my profile that i don't like plastic people. i have met many people who think of themselve's as "hot" but after meeting them and seeing the inside they were the ugliest people i have ever met.
now i am not generalizing and saying every one who is considered good looking is ugly inside that's the beautiful thing about this world it is made up of a wide variety of people tall short fat skinny white brown average exceptional....wouldn't life be boring if we were all the same like on tv.....so i say thumb's up to the skinny person with a little pot belly or the overwieght one who has the most beautiful hair and the short little bald guy next store who will allway's open a door for a lady kudo's to you all for being different :o)
and i hope the world will allway's be like that | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 8:13:21 PM | | I was appalled and disgusted when I read your response to "it's all about the looks". It appears to me that while you were busy cycling, jogging, marathoning, doing palates or whatever......you may have missed the bigger picture. So being the ever so helpful lady that I am, I decided to give you a little lesson. First of all, in which direction you tip the scale has no influence on your beauty (in my opinion of course). A large percentage of people are unhealthy for a number of reasons, none of which include "not getting off their ass". Ok, realistically speaking, looks do play an important part in the beginning, however when you look at the bigger picture, you realize that it's really not all that important in the end! Oh by the way.....I'm a 5 ft 2 inch 105 lb ex- Hooters girl (Belleview WA!) and model, a pageant runner up and Seagal finalist. I have dated many guys that sound quite similar to yourself, and must say that over the last couple of years I've come to the conclusion that I would rather marry my best friend than a pretty face. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 8:22:52 PM | | By the way my response was directed to tall n dark. I guess I should have clarified that. Oooops.....I'm new at this. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 8:40:15 PM | Ok It's cool to get all different responses.. thats why i like Forums cause each has a different response,,, and each to ther own opinion... so thank you all for responding to this ... it lets me take this all into account
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