| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 4:30:25 PM | So last night I was working out (just my legs since my clavicle is still healing). I see this attractive girl working out without headphones on. She notices me a few times, I notice her, etc, etc, etc.
So as she gets off one machine she walks right towards me. I take off my headphones and wave at her to come over. She does.
She has this tattoo (I'm not big on tatts but they look good on her) and it's pretty elaborate so I say to her "So what's your name?" She says "Tina." Smiling at her I say "Well Tina, what's next? The Mona Lisa on your stomach??"
She laughs, I laugh. Chat a little bit and then get back to our work out.
I bring this up because a lot of guys/gals still don't understand how to approach the opposite sex in the gym. Now, I didn't get her number but that doesn't mean I won't. There's no hurry. But setting a precident is important.
If you find someone at the gym you are interested in (and IF she looks back at you like she might be - I mean if you're obviously checking her out and she looks complete disinterested in you, move on!) then wait for the right time, have something witty/funny to say, make some decent eye contact, smile (nothing is more inviting than a smile) and introduce yourself.
Don't kill yourself trying to get her number. She'll be back to the gym. Just focus on building some rapport so the next time you see her you can smile, call her by name, make a little small talk and go from there.
When you ask for her number, well, that depends on what kind of vibe you are getting. It would help to really focus on WHO she is and not WHAT she is. Don't be a perv, mmmk? haha. Just be cool.
Anyway, just thought I'd share this story. I know that some have asked how to meet someone at the gym and this was a pretty good example.
Cheers. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:34:28 PM | | Well I usually go to the gym to work out.........and honestly as a personal trainer, nothing pisses me off more than guys or girls that just go the the gym to flirt and get dates....sure it happens, but dont just sit around and take up machines and benches just so ya can get a number.........and most people i know, at least where im from that if ya bother them douring a work out your gettting punched, guys or girls. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:42:39 PM | I don't go to the gym to meet people, but if someone sparks my interest I'm not going to shy away from saying hello.
Remember, I didn't really interfere with her relationship. Just set up a situation where the next time I see her there will be some familiarity with each other and maybe after working out we can grab a bite to eat.
The point is you can do it with tact without being bothersome.
And I disagree about meeting people at the gym. It's no different than meeting them at the grocery store, pumping gas, etc. If people would punch someone just because they said hi to them I gotta wonder what this world is coming to.  | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:44:17 PM | "Stick with me young jedi, you will learn."
Next time when you seducing her to your bed, can you make a video? I want to learn step by step how to do that. Thanks. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:45:47 PM | | Guess it depends on the type of gym ya go to, im at a pretty hardcore bodybuilding high performance sport training gym........so its not a Ballys or something like that where women wear make up to work out and guys do their hair | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:47:34 PM |
Guess it depends on the type of gym ya go to, im at a pretty hardcore bodybuilding high performance sport training gym........so its not a Ballys or something like that where women wear make up to work out and guys do their hair
24 hour so no, it's not a Gold's Gym or anything like that. I didn't notice any guys doing their hair but then again, I don't spend my time looking at the fellas. I usually go straight upstairs to the free weights, do my workout and leave.
This is the first woman I have approached at the gym in a couple years (since before I met my ex). | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 5:54:21 PM | | i have seen girls out places i reconize from the gym so i find that works........but have ya noticed the women that wear make up to work out, that drives me nuts, haha | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 6:09:20 PM |
i have seen girls out places i reconize from the gym so i find that works........but have ya noticed the women that wear make up to work out, that drives me nuts, haha
Bumped into one of the cute trainers at Home Depot the other day and started a conversation with her. Now when she sees me at the gym she always waves at me :)
Yeah, I never understood why women wear makeup to the gym. I think most women look better without makeup anyway. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 8:54:07 PM | You make it sound like you're in prison and you're tunnelling your way out one foot at time day by day lol It looks really sad to watch guys with their lines on these poor girls at the gym. Its so blantantly obvious when most guys hit on a girl that its comical. I doubt most of the girls appreciate it. I guess that's why "women's only" gyms are thriving lol. The last 2 gyms I've belonged to have had their a woman's only section apart from the co-ed section, which is really the men's section. Its guys like YOU that ruin it for the rest of us lol. We're happy to look without gawking.
If a girl wants to talk to me in the gym, I'm open to it, but I'm not going to approach them. They deserve their time to work on themselves. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/30/2006 10:35:52 PM | Hey guys! Remember Jarbarian and this girl made eye contact first. Rapport remember?
and then it was a light conversation at another workout time. He's right...you just never know where you may meet someone. I see that there is a dating site for fitness minded singles now.... I must say, when you go to the gym you see the person not a picture from years ago..LOL I go to a co-ed gym, and yes, everyone is focused on a good workout but nobody is going to complain about the eye candy! We all go to the gym cause it makes us feel great-look great, and it makes a whole lot of sense to want to find someone with a healthy lifestyle to match our own.... I admit, i never go anywhere without the lipstick, so i am one of the guilty girls who wears a weebit of makeup, cause i would not get caught dead on an off day looking like shyte...  Inga | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 3:07:44 AM | Geez..and I always thought the guys were just looking at themselves in the mirrors...
another clue is... when the girl is not even sweating...she is in the best work out uniform..short shorts and jogging bras.strutting around ..lifting 3lb dumb bells..slow walking on the tread mill looking around to see if anyone is looking at her...usually they have a girlfriend with her talking and looking around too....not a hair out of place..
She is not there to work out....just another tip ... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 3:45:35 AM | Quicksilver
So you suggest we go home first and wash our faces before hitting the gym? Some of us come from work and we are not made up to go to the gym. We made up our faces in the morning before going to work.
I think you're generalizing a little.
I do agree that there are women who do their make up right before going and I really don't understand the point in walking in un-made and spend 30 minutes in the dressing room putting on the face before hitting the floor. But then again, you have to take into consideration that some women are ALWAYS made up. They will put make up on wherever they go. Even if it's just to go to the store or the beach. Some women are uncomfortable with their real face and need to put another one on. They do it all the time. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 4:13:48 AM |
Its guys like YOU that ruin it for the rest of us lol. We're happy to look without gawking.
It's a little hard to tell how serious you were with that post...but if you're as bitter as you sound...I would turn it around and say that it's a victim's attitude like YOURS that ruins things for YOURSELF....
...there's a huge difference between "hitting on a woman" and flirting with a girl who is receptive to you.... "hitting on" to me, implies absolutely no interest on her part...
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 6:21:37 AM | "Sorry, I can lead the horse to water but that's about as far as it goes"
I'd believe you if you were at the source of water. But it seems to me you have no map, have no compass, have no plans to move forward, and are content prancing around to show off your wares.
You said hello to a girl, and she said hello back. You don’t have her phone number. You don’t have a date with her. You don’t have her dress on the floor of your bedroom. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 9:43:03 AM |
I'd believe you if you were at the source of water. But it seems to me you have no map, have no compass, have no plans to move forward, and are content prancing around to show off your wares.
You said hello to a girl, and she said hello back. You don’t have her phone number. You don’t have a date with her. You don’t have her dress on the floor of your bedroom.
Wilde, I am a Christian. I don't run around trying to get phone numbers to "score." I focus on building rapport with someone and try to get to know WHO they are first, not WHAT they are.
Good things come over time, not rushing out trying to "score".... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 11:16:34 AM | | Please leave me alone at the gym; that is not why I am there, and I don't usually smell or look my best after an hour or so of aerobic exercise... | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 1:49:26 PM | I think we should give the OP a break here..he's simply giving a few pointers on how not to try and 'bed down, gawk at, or annoy' a woman at the gym, but to take an opportunity wherever it lies in meeting people. No biggy really!
I just joined a gym (L A fitness) because I want to tone, be more fit, etc...(hey, I'm pushing 40 here, it really is a goal of mine)..Now, do I go to the gym all made up and dolled up? Nooo, I don't have the time for that, but do I go directly from work in my scrubs? Nope, I stop at home, do a couple things (I'm a mom) and then I go....so I do change into workout clothes at home...will I put make up on? No..will I comb my hair? Yeah, but that's just cause I'm not a slob, no matter where I go.
I've seen lots and lots of eye candy at my gym. Some really hot guys. I'm not there to 'meet' them, I'm there to work out, but if I met one who I 'noticed' a little more than once, or who kept catching my eye, would I mind if he came up to me? No, not at all. It all depends on his timing, his approach, and his personality. Of course I go to the gym with my 25 yr old nephew so I don't think I'll be approached by any of those hot guys soon...but really, I wouldn't mind it if a guy approached me. It's more natural, by far, than this way of dating!!!
Just my .02
Keep doing what you're doing OP..(I'm a Christian too, so I understand where you're coming from) | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 6:48:21 PM | My 16 year old daughter lives with me full time and goes to the gym with me on a regular basis. The other night I saw a really nice lady, in my age group (40's) and she smiled at me. I was going to talk to her when she noticed my daughter talking to me and got a distant look and walked off. Dang, darn, and heck! Tim
What's a good way to let people know she's my daughter and I'm not a guy into young girls?
The lady I was talking about never has even looked at me since then. | |
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| How to meet someone at the gym :)
Posted: 8/31/2006 8:47:06 PM | Yeah anyways like i said in another post on EXACTLY the same topic...leave me the hell alone when i'm at the gym...i had a guy banned for being a creepy jackass. Not to say you were creepy.
Quicksilver has it exactly right in what he says.
I go to the gym to workout. I look around everywhere when i'm working out. It helps to pass the time quicker. Some guy who waves me over would prolly get a dirty look from me, unless he has some sort of injury going on.
And yeah it IS annoying to see gym whores trying to **** everyone they see at the gym because it makes it harder for the men to take ANY female in there seriously.
From now on I go to the gym with my bf because I feel more comfortable, or I'll go to the all girls gym where people act normal. | |
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