| The pain of watching a hopeless guy, that wont stop talking to a girl ignoring him...
Posted: 9/3/2006 3:12:14 PM | I dont know what to say about this guy.
I am sitting waiting for the bus, and across from me, theres a strange looking girl, listening to some music from a CD player, shes sitting down, looking out the window of the bus stop. its raining hard out, so we all had to be in there.
beside her, is this obviously uncomfortable guy, awkward looking guy, big head, skinny arms, a couple zits, looked like he cuts his hair with a vacuum cleaner... clean dressed, but dressed like a 5th grader going in for school portraits. you remember those days? where your mom would dress you up, in your least worn clothes, that you wish you could have burned, but couldnt cause they were some lame gift, like from your grandma on christmas, so you kinda had to keep them... and your mom sends you to school looking like a demented version of donald trump from kmart...
well, thats what he reminded me of.
obviously, the guy wasnt too good with the girls... but he was making the most fatal error I ever seen a guy do, and it was almost painfully sad to watch... like I wanted to go outside, and start pointing things out to him like "look she just turned up her music" "you notice how she just says "uh huh" after everything you say, and stares away from you? thats not a good sign".
like every bad signal she could have given, she was...
looking outside, away from him, giving him short answers to all his attempts at starting a conversation. getting fidgety with her hands waiting for the bus to show, turning up her music to ignore him further...
like, she had the total billboard neon sign above her head saying "NOT INTERESTED", followed up by a whole choir of people singing "another one bites the dust".
I just sat there, and I was seriously embarassed for the guy, cause I am sure once in like 5th grade I was probably like that too... but this was so bad to watch, cause he wasn't picking up on any of this... and just kept talking.
after about ten minutes of this... the bus was late, and I guess she just broke down, and was gonna try to be nice, cause she finally answerd him on something.
he said something about, himself wanting to get a CD player, with MP3 playback...
she replied about he should just get a Ipod, and such.
actually I am getting ahead of myself, let me bring up one part of something he said, cause it related directly to this next part.
a few minutes before this, he said something about turning 32 in a few weeks... to which she just replied "Uh Huh".
well now, this Ipod comment.
shes talking just alittle bit... and he cuts her off.... almost the worst thing he could have done right then right? if shes gonna break down, and talk... let her.
for whatever reason, she was giving him 1/10th of a chance at getting her to talk... and he cuts her off, not just lightly... but totally, the middle of the sentance.
if he just let her finish her sentance, he might have had a slight chance... he might have got a conversation going with her... but not only did he do this... he took his chance, doused it in gasoline, and threw a match on it, coverd it with grenades and dynamite, and blew it up into a million pieces with what he cut her off with...
something like "yeah, maybe when I turn 32, I'll get my mom to get me a Ipod"
now, granted, thats very open to interpretation.
it could mean, he's close with her.
it could mean, she likes giving gifts...
or it could mean, he's 32, living with his mom, living off his mom...
yeah, I might be wrong, but thats what it sounded like to me.
this girl, must have thought the same thing, cause if she was ignoring him a few minutes ago, she was giving him the total artic chill cold shoulder now.
it was so bad, I just pulled my hat down in front of my eyes, and stared at my shoes, cause I just couldnt watch it anymore.
I think some part of me knows, I was that guy once, and I know it was bad... we all were once like this guy.
but still, it's painful to watch, cause it's embarassing and you know at some point you did that too, so you can kinda relate.
when the bus came, she made it a point to get on last... and sat at the other end of the bus.
him, he sat across from me, staring out the window, looking over at her.
he still thought he had a chance, like she was playing hard to get.
atleast, from how he looked at her, I think he thought that.
I aint no mind reader, but it aint hard to tell, when a guy still thinks he's got a shot...
cause the shot down look, is much different.
uh my god, I hope I never see that guy again.
he's probably bugging her somewhere right now, cause they probably work together or something....  | |
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| The pain of watching a hopeless guy, that wont stop talking to a girl ignoring him...
Posted: 9/3/2006 5:29:56 PM | wow, thats some snobby replies here...
first off... it's a story.
theres no "point", either you like hearing it, or you don't.
its there to laugh at. maybe relate to. maybe just to go "damn I am glad thats not me".
for the other person.
I am very observant.
I notice people and whats around me. telling a story about what I see... is no different then when you and your friends hang out and gossip, which you do. why? cause every single person on this planet, talks about someone else, at some time. cause we are all observant... not just me.
so dont try to make it seem like I have no life and I am spying, if this was happening 3 feet away from you, you'd try hard to not laugh too.
why your so serious about it, is beyond me...
this is a off topic post... meaning not really about dating... which is why its here.
theres no grand lesson here... its not a self help topic, its not a advice column, its not a bad poem... it's just something I saw...
to the one person that actually has a sense of humour and didnt try to find the meaning of life in my post... thanks.  | |
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| The pain of watching a hopeless guy, that wont stop talking to a girl ignoring him...
Posted: 9/3/2006 6:32:36 PM | I know that feeling! It's so awkward because you just want to cry out, "NO! NO! For the love of God, stop already!"
Somebody told this poor guy to be persistent without giving him a hint that women don't like to be approached as goals to be won. That you should talk to her as you might a friend, as if she's a person with ideas and opinions. And if she's not interested, respect her right to be not interested and leave her alone!
But dang, he's 32 and he hasn't gotten it yet. That's just painful. | |
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| The pain of watching a hopeless guy, that wont stop talking to a girl ignoring him...
Posted: 9/4/2006 7:34:59 PM | Griffin,
I really read through the entire thing, which I usually do not do when they are long.
I do think that the guy sounded like he needed help in the flirting department, he
sounds like a loser.
To say his mom might get him an ipod was so funny! What is he 10?
I felt sorry for the girl. As for the guy, he must not have much experience with
women! | |
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| The pain of watching a hopeless guy, that wont stop talking to a girl ignoring him...
Posted: 9/5/2006 12:48:30 AM | That was really funny. Unfortunately it is also pathetic.
And it happens regularly right here on POF. Maybe along with the welcome to POF letter some common sense guidance is in order, perhaps:
1. After two negative replies to your messages, stop, do not send another.
2. Do not interpret negative replies as a need for you to now bring up your toys, club memberships, etc.
3. No, thanks....I don't want to have lunch, dinner with you....doesn't mean you can reply with....."OK that's for this week, I'll try again next week".
4. If someone deletes your mail without reading it, it may mean your profile needs work.
5. Don't offend, insult someone who has politely rejected you....it'll just prove they were right in not choosing you! | |
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| The pain of watching a hopeless guy, that wont stop talking to a girl ignoring him...
Posted: 9/5/2006 6:26:23 AM | Aparently some people cant just read a story about something; Maybe it hits a little too close to home for them. 
It's funny you bring this up, I was NEVER that bad. But I was talking with my friend who has known me for 7+ years and she was telling me that she remembers how much of a geek and how shy I used to be. Then she went on to say the only thing that's changed is now instead of shy, I'm loud and obnoxious 
I dont know why people cant just be more straight forward. I'd rather have a woman tell me flat out, I'm not interested - Than to take a chance of missing hints... | |
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