| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:17:49 PM | | in these topsy turvy times....do people jump the gun and get married for the sake of being with someone...rather than for the true traditional reasons? | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:20:33 PM | I think that a lot of people do jump the gun but there are also several that because of the statistics, won't get married or risk their relationship because of their negative opinion on marriage. I think it just depends on the people. I assume it's pretty difficult to find the right balance...
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:20:50 PM | yes.
That being said, you really have to be on your guard against that desperate person who lies and manipulates you just to tie the knot... | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:39:25 PM | Actually no.. infact we're seeing a leveling off of divorce rates and a little dip...
but also we're seeing a drop in mariages in the first place... | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 8:40:57 PM | TRUE!!! You have to be extremely careful. I've been there and there are guys out there that when they figure out that you'll support them(financially), without much complaining, want to marry you quickly so they can be taken care of indefinitely!! They will treat you like a princess untill your account becomes shared and you tell them to get a better job etc. then their true colors will start to shine!! NEVER let a guy rush you down the isle; if he truly loves you he can wait patiently!!!!! | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 10:10:25 PM | | I love you. Of course I will marry you....oh wait...thats not the actual question. Silly me. Ummm I'd like to know where this levelling off data comes from as I currently await the 2006 Canadian census report. Meanwhile, back at the laboratory... I believe the people who are getting married or I'd also like to throw in having kids...are chosing as such so they won't be alone. I know I'm in love with someone I probably will not ever have a chance with as I missed my opportunity but so be it. I'm not going to go out and just get married to someone to fill the void. Filling the void only works with hunger...mmm...king of the road burger | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 10:14:59 PM | "Will You Marry Me?" ...Its a flattering offer,but I dont really know you LOL
I would never get married simply out of convenience.Im pretty happy with my life right now and all of the wonderful people Im so blessed to know.I do a groovy job of taking care of myself and my daughter,and when my friends and family are busy,Im good company for me.I would eventually like to get married but,only for the right reasons ,which to me are..being best friends, being supportive of one anothers dreams goals and aspirations,being fully aware of who the other person is including all of their lil idiosyncrasies,loving one another unconditionally,and being commited to one another enough to be confident that its the right step.There are other things too..but you get the general idea.. | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 11:14:23 PM |
in these topsy turvy times
in comparision to what other time? shristi says it best msg#6...some do some don't. same asnswer if this question were asked 50 years ago and will be the same answer when somebody asks it 50 years from now.
~Football "how can i get a mail order penguin to marry?" Penguin~~~~~~~~~~ | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 11:18:10 PM | | "for the sake of being with someone" is a traditional reason. Maybe not an honest one but it's as old as love. Id say most marriages today of people under 30 are usually for love while those over 30 are about 60% for family, security & stability/40% for love. Most women dont want to be seen as spinsters and want children while men also want children and stability. Nobody wants to be the last of their friends to be single and still looking. Divorce rate is still high though. Does marrying for love guarantee an everlasting marriage? hmmmmm! Anyway that's my opinion. | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 11:26:47 PM | IT could be because the other person can support them, take care of them, pamper them. It's all about "what are my benefits?"
Or to be evil. Get marry to a rich guy and get a divorce.
I want to get marry someday because i truly care and love the other person with all my heart. But isnt that really hard to find now? (Well, think 5 years from now since i dont want to get marry just yet) | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/6/2006 11:28:22 PM | | OH yea! i believe the traditional reason that people want to get marry (gays and straights) is because they want to just simply start a family. Because who doesnt want a family? | |
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kmhstx
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Joined: 8/23/2005
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 2:48:47 AM | Yes of course I will marry you! Thanks for asking.
Anyway seriously I think there are more people opting not to marry today because of the topsy turvy times. But its the same as its always been for those who do marry, some are doing it for the right reasons, and others are doing it for the wrong reason. That will probably never change. | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 3:00:10 AM | They do both.
True traditional reasons, lack reason. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2006 3:49:14 AM | How did this thread get past the redundant button? | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 7:18:19 AM | do people...get married for the sake of being with someone
Well, DUHHH! Of course they do!
rather than for the true traditional reasons?
Which were an exchange of property: land, cattle, some money and oh yeah a woman in there somewhere, but heck, she's just property too. The "traditional reasons" were all about property and nothing about romantic love, and that goes right up into the 20th century; in parts of the world that sort of "traditional" reason is still going on! | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 9:05:19 AM | Vindicator - Are you asking? Cause you are cute.  | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 9:24:36 AM |
what are the "true traditional reasons"?
At least someone asked the obvious. And if you get married for "traditional" reasons, then do those reasons apply to the modern world?
I just want to get married so that I won't have to do the dishes. Heck, I'll vacuum, dust, mop, whatever. But I hate dishes. Will someone do my dishes for me? Marry me! | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 10:31:07 AM | Do people jump the gun and get married for the sake of being with someone...rather than for the true traditional reasons?
Funny, I thought the "true traditional reasons" to marry someone were for the "sake of being with someone"...apparently nobody sent me the memo... | |
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Joined: 6/2/2005
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 11:07:36 AM | | True traditional reasons... there was only one: to settle the property issues. The romantic marriage is quite new invention. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2006 11:19:55 AM | "Traditional reasons" ?? I thought marriage (of olden days) was for procreation. No need to be married today for that ~ or so it appears by the number of "my baby's daddy"s out there. I have no intention on marrying for traditional reasons or any other reasons, for that matter. I do have friends who have married for love ~ some are still married, some are not. I don't think the underlying "reasons" mean much anymore. Today, people marry for different reasons. My ex is 43, and his first marriage was "arranged." Yep, it still happens in some cultures. Had his mother not died, he would still be married to her. So, I guess it's more a personal situation than anything else.  | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 11:23:51 AM | people get married for all kinds of reasons and
most of them bad...
amoung the worst reason to get married is
to stop feeling lonley.
Married people are known to complain of
feeling even lonlier after getting married when they
marry for that reason.
Other bad reasons to marry include... to aquire more material things...
and many, many others. | |
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ousu
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Joined: 6/2/2005
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 11:43:42 AM | Verygreeneyez,
I thought marriage (of olden days) was for procreation.
Procreation does not need a marriage - producing offsprings in a marriage kept the property in the family. Plus daughters and sons were also sort of family property, in the best case increasing the wealth via suitable marriages. | |
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 11:51:22 AM | msg 24...
procreation may not need marriage
and society has proved that... but look
at whats happened to the kids !
so many are troubled and mental and maybe
due to this lack of need for the elements
of marriage ( commitment, etc)
btw.. where the heck is that ? Finland?
your pictures look like what heaven must look like...
and if you actually live there and see that every day...
I am seriously jealous... as its breathtakingly beautiful
and something I could not even imagine in real life...
wow, beautiuful.. I would be painting it all day !
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| Will You Marry Me?
Posted: 9/7/2006 11:52:06 AM | I'll do the dishes! Message 19! You can do the mopping and vaccuming.  | |
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