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Posted: 9/9/2006 4:53:17 PM | | ok here is my delema im confused because i had a fiancee and she made it seem like she was sleeping around on me so we fought and i left. now 9 months later we start to reconsile and she tells me that she never slept around on me and that it was all a lie and i tell her the truth that i was dating and that i slept with a girlfriend of mine 3 times and now she is hesitant start rekindling a possiblility of getting back together bc i slept with some one else(please note that i have only slept with me ex fiancee and the ex girlfried) so now she says that the special bond we had is broken and she dont know well i said that she shouldnt had lied to make me believe that she was sleeping with someone else and that what she did is exactly what i did please help me figure this out | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 4:57:10 PM | | get a shrink to help you....if you are willing to cheat out of spite and she is willing to make you believe that she is cheating you both need professional help. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 5:05:37 PM | | Bloodless, you make me wish I was a lesbian for f*cks sake........gotta agree though, you both need some therapy, course why waste the money?...... Just go f*ck whoever ya want, anytime ya want, for whatever reason you want with reckless abandon & pretend your in love with each other, thats how they do it on t.v....JMO. Oh yeah, & dont forget to shoot her & then yourself in the head afterwards, thats a key point. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 5:07:53 PM | | yeah doesnt sound like a loving relationship to begin with, must be some under lying issue if she would lie like that, i dont know if you slept with your exgf while with your exfiancee or not, you might have went back to your exgf AFTER you guys broke up which is fine because you guys broke up, | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 5:16:26 PM | | Your better off staying broken up... | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 5:32:51 PM | End it and let it stay that way...you'll never be able to build a future with all of that mess going on.
Stay single for awhile and seek out some counseling as well. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 6:09:37 PM | | The womans on crack...you have better chances swimming with sharks then dealing with her head games 'till death do you part! | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 6:13:58 PM | | yup. it's over bud. and i don't think that's a bad thing. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 6:37:22 PM | If you ever get this "sorted" out and decide to try again seriously....this will always hang over both of your heads everytime something negative happens....
Its time for both of yous to move on | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 6:53:32 PM | this reminds me of that Rachel and Ross episode of Friends..
BUT, we were on a break!
Personally I think you can try to make it work, and if both of you want it bad enough it just might, but it would definitely take alot of communication and rebuilding of trust.. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 6:59:08 PM | | LOL I'm trying to figure out who the head cases are on this thread (not just iron indian). First, you didn't cheat on anyone - you left, i.e. relationship was over, so ignore that response. Second, if she lied in the first place (which I doubt she did, but she's regretting telling you the truth now), then that makes her a what . . . . ?? A LIAR! Not to mention the head game behind it all -- THEN to try to make you feel guilty. Hon, move on. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 7:03:34 PM | | Wow...thats some harsh forum feedback, I like it. The way I read it, you guys were broken up when you slept around, no? If that's the case then she's cracked. Breaking up with the intention or expectation of gettting back together later is stupid. When broken up, in my opinion, you have no obligation to the ex. | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 7:29:11 PM | ~OP~ You are 23 years old. Barely through puberty. (Come on guys, I'm kidding ~ no need to get all clinical on me!! HA!!) Simple reality, you seem too young to me (based upon your post) to be considering anything long term or permanent. Go enjoy your youth and let her do that same. If you two are playing games such as these, you aren't ready for long term or committment. In order to live and learn, you have to live.  | |
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Posted: 9/9/2006 9:01:50 PM | | Why would you want someone who is fond of such emotional headgames? | |
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Posted: 9/10/2006 4:51:18 AM | | AMEN, greeneyez! | |
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Posted: 9/10/2006 6:31:56 AM | | Run Run as fast as you can and get as far away from the crazy chick as possible | |
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Posted: 9/24/2006 7:59:56 PM | You mentioned it has been (9) months sinced you both has seen each other?
Would that be enough time to let go of someone from your past?
She told you she did cheat at that time when you both argued.
I believed she did since she fessed up.
She claimed she did and then come back
tell you eitherwise?Does it sound like fishy to you?Think wisely
and listen to your gut what does it tells you?
She is playing mind games i agree with everyone here.
You need to let her go and just move on with you life. | |
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Posted: 9/24/2006 9:17:37 PM | i would say get your GED and then think what do you like to do..........? then go to the local college and get a degree... | |
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Posted: 9/24/2006 10:17:01 PM | | Go buy her a vibe and walk away. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 9:23:56 AM | Mister:
If you were cheating on her, how is it that you think you deserve better than you give
You indeed are confused.
Slam your hand in a car door and then decide what to do after you heal! | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 9:53:46 AM | Do you really believe that she wasn't cheating? She might just be telling you that now, so she will have something to hold over your head, to use as an easy "out" if she decides to leave you again. Now she has a built in excuse.
The two of you were broken up, and it was HER doing that you were broken up, whether or not she actually cheated. She can't hold what you did when you were broken up against you, unless you LET her.
Tell her the "special bond" was broken when she cheated on you. Because when she let you believe she did, she may just as well have done it. The trust and the bond were broken just the same.
You did what you did outside the bonds of a relationship, and you did it believing what she let you believe about her. If she hadn't done what SHE did, none of this would be happening now.
Put it back at her feet where it belongs, don't let her put it all off on you. And I agree with those who said not to get back into a relationship with her, she sounds deranged. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 12:10:14 PM | | Both of you lied during the relationship. Perhaps you should NOT rekindle something that didn't work the first time. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 12:26:16 PM | | Learn to punctuate... | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 2:35:17 PM | | Way, way to mch drama. You guys are obviously not ready for anything long term. | |
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Posted: 8/9/2007 3:20:46 PM | the point is, she doesn't see you the same way anymore...may it be of "valid" reason or not. ask about how to woe her back...not whether she's on crack for not wanting you the same way.
...well...that's if you still want her back.
sometimes, it's best to leave things behind, than cut yourself from trying to pick up the broken pieces. | |
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