| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/14/2006 6:55:48 PM | | My experience with this site is, lots of guys don't even have phones. The ones that do, either have undependable cell phones, or would rather instant message and email. I just want to give someone my phone number, talk to them on the phone, and if we like eachother, meet. Why is that so difficult? I have a internet job and don't want to be on the computer emailing back and forth. I believe you can get to know someone better by phone.Why is this so difficult for men to do? I would do a phone dating service instead, but its too expensive. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/14/2006 7:17:10 PM | Hold the phone, kids. Why should I be put on the defensive for simply having a preference? I didn't know I'd be speaking on anyone else's behalf, much less "men" in general, but I just plain don't care to talk on the phone. I see my cell as an electronic leash, straight up. The home phone is like an alarm or siren, just to alert me that someone wishes to interrupt whatever I'm doing just to make conversation.
I don't know if it's my buddy, a solicitor or a bill collector, and I don't feel like racing downstairs to check the caller ID everytime. I never take calls from numbers I don't recognize on my cell.
I find it unprofessional to take social calls at work, and I work long hours. It's dangerous to talk on the phone while driving. When I'm at home, I have just a few hours to take care of critical, functional-type things. Taking a long phone call is a treat, not a constant necessity. Did I mention how much I hate people who talk on the phone while driving?
Not to be sexist, but women really do seem to be phone junkies. I happen to resent that. If I want to be with someone, it's in person. So many women I've dated or been friends with end up calling like 5 or 10 times a day, and I think it's royally immature. So, I put my foot down right from the start; I don't give out my number until I trust someone with it. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/14/2006 7:47:03 PM |
Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Aren't you generalizing a wee bit???
Message me your phone number, I'll be more than happy to talk to you.
P.S. I've been told I've got a very sexy phone voice.
Too bad the rest of me doesn't match it...... | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/14/2006 8:10:30 PM | The phone.... If there is one thing in this world I hate more than anything it is that. I have a house line as my family needs to know I"m alive....
I will never buy a cell, not today, not tomorrow...I have a company cell, but it's normally turned off or left in the car.
If I have something to say to you, discuss with you or otherwise, I'd rather be talking to you and not at some piece of plastic. Ya, I"m sure yer voice is sexy and all, but I really really really can't be bothered.
Ask my family.....leave a message and as long as no one is dying, I'll get back to you via email, or call within a couple of months....
It's really that simple......A LOT OF US HATE THEM>>>> we aren't as chatty as you women.
Oh....and a further note....if and ever talking to your guy, he says he's done....really, he means seriously, he's done talking on the phone for that point in time....
Grrrrrrrrrrr, one of the worst inventions since Women's Lib.... | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/14/2006 8:29:09 PM | When it comes to the phone for some reason I am sometimes afraid to call because I am afraid I won't have enough to talk about. But I am a pretty good listener so I don't mind being called. When talking to my guy friends or relatives, the phone is for passing information only, not much chit chat goes on there. Although once I get to know a lady and we talk on the phone it usually goes not bad. Like I said I'm a pretty good listener.  | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/14/2006 8:57:15 PM | | I don't have any "hang up" with phone conversation...pun fully intended. If I'm messaging, chatting with a lady and I'm thinking I'd like to meet her then I give her my cell #. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/14/2006 10:17:32 PM | Neither of us can tell if there is any real "chemistry" over the phone, anyway. That takes eye contact, appearance, body language, etc.
Also, if I am a creep or stalker, or something else unpleasant, I am probably clever enough not to mention it just because I happen to be on the phone.
I talked with one very nice lady for 3 weeks, almost daily, before we met. We were having a great time. Then, when we finally did meet, she decided there was no "chemisrtry", it didn't "feel right" etc. No second date. I spent 3 weeks working up to that one 3-hour date.
Let's face it ladies, you want to know me? You're gonna have to meet me, anyway, so why waste all that time dithering about it?
Life is short. Let's move it along. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 12:43:52 AM | They could ask you the same thing, but favoring IM and e-mails instead. Why the need for a phone?
IMs and e-mails are less awkward and more thought can be put into what is being said without so much dead air. E-mails are more convenient due to the fact that you can read and respond at will, and the 2 involved don't have to worry about interrupting a meeting, or some important matter.
Then there is the fact that some guys don't want their wife to answer the phone. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 2:15:13 AM | We like actions, not words.
Phones are so cold.
Give me a warm body.
Infact, if you could make a synthetic human that was complete in every way, but was actually a phone in disguise and you just talked through it, I'd be happy. You can keep your old phone. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 2:17:28 AM | There are alot of free phone dating sites.
Some men do prefer to chat on phone, they feel as you do.
Men feel it is much more personable on the phone.
That has been my experiences. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 4:45:41 AM | I've talked to a few men from the site on the phone since I joined it.
I don't think men have a problem using the phone.
Though if the guy is local it makes more sense to talk on the phone a couple of times and then meet him. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:04:18 AM | I guess i,m the exception because i,ve been know to talk on the phone for hours with someone if we have alot in common and it,s a 2 way conversation
But when someone does all the talking and doesn,t even listen to what i,m saying or at the other extreme , they barely talk back and it turns into more of a Q & A session , then i will cut it short a.s.a.p. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:14:37 AM | personally not big on the phone thingy...I do enough "cold calls" in a day to choke a horse.
Personally I think the phone is something to do after you've been out a few times and have determined i there is a little bit o the chemistry factor...I love to talk ...but the phone just seems even more impersonal than email when you dont really know someone.
Plus even with good friends I tend to want to get to the point on the phone and not babble..but in person love to babble..and drool...lol. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 7:23:25 AM | My phone attention span is 20 minutes. I've been conditioned to use the phone as means to get a meeting, personally and professionally. After that I start to lose focus or get bored.
And if you are having a conversation with your friend or your kid at the same time, the attention span is about 5 minutes. Sorry. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 9:36:36 AM | Telus just sent me a phone bill for over $120,000 for my cell phone last month alone....I am not sure i should talk on the phone anymore....lol
Yes, I am serious they sent me a bill for over 120K....and yes i contacted them and they realize its a mistake and are going to correct it...but i sure laughed at my bill i got...I may frame it and hang it in my office....lol   | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 11:43:03 AM | I like chatting on the phone.
I just prefer talking in person. Being able to look into a person's eyes. See their body language. It makes it easier to understand how they're feeling about whatever it is you're talking about. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 12:03:42 PM | | When you have a man at a phone, you have him at his weakest point. Pure communication is not usually their strong suit, if you take men as a group. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 12:41:17 PM | So true it bears repeating-
Neither of us can tell if there is any real "chemistry" over the phone, anyway. That takes eye contact, appearance, body language, etc.
Also, if I am a creep or stalker, or something else unpleasant, I am probably clever enough not to mention it just because I happen to be on the phone.
I talked with one very nice lady for 3 weeks, almost daily, before we met. We were having a great time. Then, when we finally did meet, she decided there was no "chemisrtry", it didn't "feel right" etc. No second date. I spent 3 weeks working up to that one 3-hour date.
Let's face it ladies, you want to know me? You're gonna have to meet me, anyway, so why waste all that time dithering about it?
And add one more thing- The tone of someones voice can be an indicator, but a raised eyebrow or a smile can tell you more. Things that are said over the phone can be misunderstood, or not said at all for fear of being mistaken. | |
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| Why dont guys want to talk on the phone?
Posted: 9/15/2006 3:20:48 PM | i agree with you about the part of your statement where you said that it is easier to get a feel for who the person is when you talk to them on the phone rather than leaving e-mails. i always rather talk to them on the phone. it does sound like something is up, it may be innocent but it does sound fishy | |
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