| | Do ladies really like good guys or just the IdeaPage 1 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | I am a single father of two boys, and I have changed alot since I am a single dad. I used to be a real badboy,And got alot more dates lol. Now I am a genuine nice guy and I haven't been out on a date in like 6 months. Is it me or my kids or am I ugly or what? lol. Anyway I just thought I would ask just for the fun of it.lol. Thx for your response and have a nice day James. | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/16/2005 10:46:48 PM | Change is good!! Especially when trying to do your best as a parent!!! I can only speak for myself; I really like a good guy who has his sh*t together and knows what he wants, knows how to be himself, most importantly laugh at the world!! ...he also can be a bit of a bad boy if he's true to his 'one' bad girl.  Unfortunately, haven't seen that one yet so can't really elaborate further. However you should hang in there, be true to yourself and evenutally you will find that girl who really likes good guys and NOT just the idea.  | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/16/2005 10:51:14 PM | Just one question.....did all these woman you dated when you were da bad boy run screaming when you had yer kids er.......were they aLLREADY Long gone?
Maybe I'm just(gulps)getting miNUTely older and would be MORE then happy if I just found ONE woman I wanna spend tha time I have with,then 2 or more that I flip flop between and never have a real fealing of attachment..............guess MY bad boy days er done toOoo............d*mnit..........this stinkx......gonna drown myself in my sorrows , and pass out now........I have some THinkin ta doOOoo....... | |
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dudio
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/16/2005 11:30:45 PM | Women like nice guys only when they act like bad boys when dating, otherwise they wouldn't look at them twice. You can't go by what women say they want. Most all of them say they want nice guys. But that's a bunch of BS. There's absolutely no correlation between what they say they want and what they actually go after. All you have to do is look at some of the revealing and alluring female photographs to figure out what is really on their minds and the kind of guy they want. They want the exciting, messy haired, muscular bad boy types. If nice guys want to get any action here, they better brush up their profiles and look virile and sexy because that's the only thing that is going to attract the women.
So, all my female dissidents that follow me around, flame away. Let's have some fun! No, I don't hate women, I just understand them. And no, I'm not an expert, just a guy who has spent seven weeks reviewing your profiles, pictures and sending you e-mails. You can't fool me anymore with this wanting nice guy junk you write in your threads, and some of you write in your profiles. Please ladies, be truthful and real and tell all these poor nice guy types the truth for a change so they finally get the picture.
There once was a good guy so pleasant and bright,
Who wasn’t wild or so handsome a sight.
No matter his gentleness no lady would bite,
Because of chasing after her bad boy delight.
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/16/2005 11:44:12 PM | | I don't have messy hair or huge arms in my pics and I have gotten a bunch of messages and a few messages returned in only 14 days on the site. I can't stand someone who pretends to be someone they are not and that is what you are telling people to be. Just be yourself and you will find that you can get results. | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/16/2005 11:49:56 PM | Pagemaster: Good for you; you're one of the lucky ones. I'm happy you are finding so much success. No, I'm not telling nice guys not to be themselves; I'm telling them to package themselves for success. It's not the same as pretense; it's good advertising.
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Posted: 3/16/2005 11:56:42 PM | I think another thing people have to realize is that the women on these dating sites are getting bombarded with mail. Also, MANY men are chasing the wrong women around on these sites.
But you are right, you do need to package yourself correctly | |
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Posted: 3/16/2005 11:59:50 PM | You're wondering why you're not getting as many dates as before. Well, what has changed? You say that you have changed from a "real badboy" to a "genuine nice guy". What do you mean by that?
Have you really made a complete change? Maybe you're still using "bad boy" strategies that just don't work with a "nice guy" persona. Makes the girls wonder which is your true self...and makes them think that regardless, you are lying on one side or the other.
I absolutely and totally like the good guys. And all but one of my former boyfriends were "good guys". That one, I couldn't dump fast enough! | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 6:13:26 AM | I just dont know WHAT I am anymore......I've changed so much over tha years.........I'm FAR from tha typical nice guy........yet no longer on the path of self-destruction soOoo......
A retired bad boy with nice guy tendancies? I dunno........dEFFINAtely never lost my edge though ,allthough my helper ratted me out and now I have to wear safety gear when I do the crazy stuff.......I PREFER to live my life teatering on the thresh-hold of life and death.......its how I get my daily fix of addrenalin......but mAYBe it IS time I put a lil more value in bad choices and make atLEAST an aTTEMPT to live through to the end of tha day..................... | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 6:20:02 AM | Im a guy, and i have no clue what women want... so my opinion here probably does not have much value. But, i will give it anyways. I think women know what theyre doing. There are 2 kinds of guys: the kind that would be fun to flirt with, and the kind that would be good to introduce to your parents. The nice guy is obviously the latter. I think girls know fully well when theyre dating bad-boys that it isnt going to last. they dont expect it to, its just a Fling. But when a woman is ready to settle down, she will be browsing the good-guy section.(lets just hope she is smart enough not to get pregnant by the bad-boy first) | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 9:31:03 AM | | i have liked good guys and bad guys........what i dont like is a bad guy appearing to be a good guy and being really bad at it.................heehehe..............actually good guys are great........as long as they are not whining about their goodness..................the same way you fellas often drool over naughty women and yet take home the good ones to meet mama and the family............. | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 9:47:37 AM | | and with instant gratification and media surrounding us ..............its just so hard to limit ourselves..............and its physically exhausting trying to take a good guy and a bad guy on at the same time...not too mention moral nono's here........dang it all, just whats a girl to do taurus? | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 9:50:41 AM | "i have liked good guys and bad guys........what i dont like is a bad guy appearing to be a good guy and being really bad at it.................heehehe..............actually good guys are great........as long as they are not whining about their goodness..................the same way you fellas often drool over naughty women and yet take home the good ones to meet mama and the family............."
See, some women know what they want! Some bad guys do good things, some good guys do bad things. Some women know what they want, some don't. Some women like good guys! | |
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Sliv
| | Joined: 3/9/2005
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 10:02:19 AM | | Part of it might be the reflection of the boyfriend on themselves. I've noticed many, many women over the years tend to chat together about what's wrong with their boyfriends, and how good of women they are for putting up with it. If the guy's too nice or too perfect, I guess there's not much for girls to chat about. *shrug* | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 10:05:30 AM | | when i was younger i liked the "bad boy"-- but realized after i got pregnant by one- i never should have been with them in the first place- because we had no common goals in life- and i found out the hard way- you can never change people or their goals. SO after a few years of being alone and getting my head together etc etc.. the "bad boys" are a turn off and i am way into finding a nice 'good boy'... | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 10:06:11 AM | | There's nothing wrong being a nice guy who has changed for the better. I don't think having two boys is causing you to be single or your looks. Have you considered maybe its the women you're picking, they could be young or not wanting the same things as you in life. Give it time and I am sure you will meet a nice lady somewhere and in the meantime, enjoy the time with your boys and being single. | |
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 10:06:45 AM | Ladies seem to like me more when I am not working and have lots of time to talk about uselss stuff or just babble about nothing.
I am of the impression that aldies truly DO like good guys, yet lose the ability to hold out for one as soon as a sexy bad boy takes their attention.
Bad boys get laid, however, good boys get married.
and me? I'm all messed up because I'm somewhere in the middle. *scratches head* | |
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Posted: 3/17/2005 10:15:01 AM | Well it is hard to give good advice when you don't have the whole picture. But You are a single dad at 26....you have to face the fact's that most of the women your age are thinking more about partying and having fun than they are thinking about instant family.
My suggestion to you is to seek out single women with children and have dates that include the kids that way nobody has to pay for a baby sitter, There are picnics, concerts in the park and all kinds of thing that don't cost an arm and a leg for single parents. In your case friends first..build your network of friends with kids. Believe me you are not alone and once you have friends with kids in common you won't feel the pressure of trying to date..then you are open to all the possibilities of life.
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| Do ladies really like good guys or just the Idea
Posted: 3/17/2005 10:15:24 AM | | Hi Lady...good to see you ...I think anyone can find the right person regardless if they have kids or not...It all depends on the man or woman you are seeing. Don't give up some lucky lady will be happy to give her heart to you and your two boys. | |
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