| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 11:42:45 AM | I have had three back to back relationships all the same started wonderfull ended badly, when i said this to someone recently he said that maybe i am just meant to be aloed dowe. Im oldest in my family and sisters are settled down with the first guys they met and im alone again .... So am i just meant to be alone ? even though i would love to meet someone and be happy  | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 11:52:32 AM | | I really think i am one of those people......I am 43 never been married... car no children attractive and employed...........But I always run across the useless men........ Plz explain | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 11:53:44 AM | | There's NOTHING wrong with being alone, you just have to enjoy it. I am alone, but not lonely, which is where the matter lies. Now, if I were moping and lonely, then I would have a problem, but I happen to like my life. If someone happens to come along, I have lots to share, but, until then, I'll just keep living my life. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 11:58:10 AM | | I do look at the type of men my sisters are with by comparsion to what i choose , i always have gone for men based on looks . These men treated me so badly , and always used my weakness again'st me. I do know that i need to look beyond the looks and start to belive that i deserve better than this? | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 12:16:53 PM | Oh please, you're 26, and you've had three back to back relationships that ended badly and you are already wondering if you are about to be alone forever?
I'm 27, and I haven't even had three serious relationships. My first girlfriend was when I was 20 and we dated for like three months and she dumped me as soon as she went off to college and found out that unlike in high school, lots of attractive frat boys were lining up to ask her out. She basically cheated on me and hid it until I dorve five hours to go visit her, her boyfriend pretended he was just a gay best friend so I wouldn't assualt him.
I suddenly found myself a junior in college majoring in Engineering. There were no girls in my classes, and every girl I had met pretty much hooked up with her first husband freshman year. For the next two years I pretty much went on a string first dates and met a lot of married women, women with boyfirends, and women that were single for obvious reasons.
Then I met my ex-fiancee. She dumped me three years ago, and I've been on two dates. One was with a girl that I drove four hours to meet at a festival and she brought her live in boyfriend, the other was with ym ex who took the time basically to tell me that she started talking to her ex that cheated on her and she constantly bad mouthed the entire time we were together right before we broke up and she was about to move corss country to see him.
So yeah, I'm 27, broke like a two dollar wristwatch, with a failed engineerng career behind me, there are no single women my age with no children for at least three states, and I seem to have bad luck in dating women to boot.
You're an attractive woman, men actually come to you! You'll probably have a boyfirend by the end of the month even!  | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 12:25:32 PM | judging from this and the other thread you started http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts5275382.aspx I think you are very confused and possibly in need of therapy....not a judgement just an observation
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 12:33:38 PM |
There's NOTHING wrong with being alone, you just have to enjoy it. I am alone, but not lonely, which is where the matter lies. Now, if I were moping and lonely, then I would have a problem, but I happen to like my life. If someone happens to come along, I have lots to share, but, until then, I'll just keep living my life.
Good comment and good attitude. It really is 'mind over matter' isn't it? If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.  | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 12:41:31 PM | | I don't think anyone with good intentions is meant to be forever alone. Lord knows it's felt like it for me though. Been single since 2003 and that one dumped me BECAUSE she was falling in love. A 45 yr old woman....and she did it by email. I am not considered picky. Just unbelievable how childish so many people can be. Keep faith hon. If you were near me I'd scoop you up in a second ;) | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 12:44:53 PM | First off, YOU don't have that problem. At least not yet. It's impossible to tell if it's even a possibility until you turn 40. You aren't even close. Lots of people -think- it's their destiny, but quite suddenly, it turns out that they find someone.
I don't believe that very many people are meant to be alone, but there are definitely a few of us who are. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 1:55:13 PM | Ive had 3 relation ships that got progressively shorter and shorter with women I felt less and less in love with. I feel my 3 strikes are up so to speak.
so to answer the question, yes I feel some people (such as myself) are meant to be alone forever.... | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 1:59:29 PM | No one is "meant" to do anything. You choose what you do then you do it or you don't do it. No fate or destiny invovled.
And I would have to say most relationships start great (that's WHY they start) and they end badly (that's WHY they end). People like good stuff that makes them feel good......like a new relationship. People avoid things that make them feel bad...like a relationship that has run it's course and is finished. No real magic involved in all that. Of course there are some exceptions, but generally it's all pretty simple.
If you had good times with these guys and it was a relationship (and not jsut a fling), then focus on the good times you had. Don't look at it as a failure. Even if it doesn't last a lifetime if it was good...that's something great for you to remember. And it was time that you were NOT alone. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 2:01:52 PM | No one is "meant" to do anything. You choose what you do then you do it or you don't do it. No fate or destiny invovled.
And I would have to say most relationships start great (that's WHY they start) and they end badly (that's WHY they end). People like good stuff that makes them feel good......like a new relationship. People avoid things that make them feel bad...like a relationship that has run it's course and is finished. No real magic involved in all that. Of course there are some exceptions, but generally it's all pretty simple.
If you had good times with these guys and it was a relationship (and not jsut a fling), then focus on the good times you had. Don't look at it as a failure. Even if it doesn't last a lifetime if it was good...that's something great for you to remember. And it was time that you were NOT alone.
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 2:11:43 PM | | you know something almost the same often happens to me, and just recently did, I meet someone, we start out good, you know the usual, kissing cuddling, and then all of a sudden they come out with they just want to be friends and I'm left there confused as anything, I would love to meet someone who knows what they want and wont back out when things start building, my problem is that when thing do build I tend to get attached to that person. and I've had a few like that | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 2:24:12 PM | | More and more i think both men and women just want some comfort a little company for the night , holding hands and i dont mean even sex ,just company. | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 2:31:39 PM | | Don't take this the wrong way but don't always go for looks, not to brag, I'm ok I guess in the looks, but my strengths are inside I've gotten out of goin for looks so much because by doing that you're not always seeing what is underneath, a person can look great on the outside but be a total (insert word here) on the inside, know what I mean, | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 4:40:17 PM | You know, there's more to life than meeting that special someone.
A lot of folks seem to take relationships for granted...it comes easy to some folks...not so easy for others...
What's the rush? Strange as it may sound, but count yourself lucky that the ones which didn't work out for you didn't work out...because if you tried to make them work when they weren't going to, those relationships would be doomed from the start. These things take time, and evolve naturally, so patience is a virtue...
And if you are destined to be alone forever...what's the worst that can happen? Obviously you can "stand on your own two feet" (ie, being independent and all), you're living proof that you can do it...so be proud of yourself! :-)
Take your time, don't rush into a "relationship" just because you feel it's what you need...and when the time and place is right, your fella will turn up in his own time (hey, us fellas are allowed to be late too sometimes, you know)!  | |
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| Are some people meant to be alone forever ?
Posted: 9/16/2006 5:00:03 PM | | I dont think that being alone is a bad thing ,but if everyone of the relationships ended the same way ,,look to see what it is that is going wrong ,,are you sure your not the one that is pushing it away? Only speeking from my own experiance ,probably afraid to let something real in ,,,Myself i think i just built a huge wall afraid to get hurt again so you push them away..dont know probably not that at all with you,,just a thought .... | |
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