| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 8:41:02 PM | | Why is it some men that you date, and they are so hot and heavy for you, they say they love you and then one day they just stop calling you and yu can't get in touch with them anymore. Are men cowards or what? or just scared to hurt the woman to call her and tell her he is not interested? I don't get it. Please help! | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 8:44:52 PM | | Because we cannot chase them,club them and drag them back to our caves. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 9:07:42 PM | | Sadly... I've found women do this as well... I think In the cases I've found they've just haven't had the maturity needed to have a relationship, even one that includes casual dating... but that may just be me... | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 9:09:38 PM | The times we live in are about quick consumption: fast food, fast cars: fast hook-ups... It's a sad reality that I believe is compounded by the anonymity of the internet, which eliminates the face to face accountability of an old fashioned relationship. Many people seem to think dating is like trying a new flavour of ice cream every week. They wantonly lie to their victems about their intentions, claiming they are honest shy people just looking for love, but in reality they're users - feeding their childish ego with yet another conquest. It's a shallow world where people have ridiculous expectation of what a perfect mate would be like... No-ones is willing to do the hard work of making a relationship last, they just slink out the virtual back-door with their tail between their legs. Leaving their trusting partner hurt and confused... The only way to beat this situation is to make people prove their true friendship over time and refuse to be anyone's conquest!  | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 9:12:44 PM | | Have you ever thought that it could be that maybe you are moving too quickly into relationship mode? I've done that before with a guy I went out with a few times...then he didn't call for a month! Then I sent him a text message and we ended up going out that night...and I got an explanation for why he didn't get in contact with me for a little while. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 9:16:38 PM | I think its cause ppl really dont know what hell they want anymore. Ppl look for happiness in other ppl and when they date someone a few times and they r still not happy they think it is the other person and move on to the next to see if that person will make them happy , well guess what if u r not happy yourself no one else is going to make u happy  | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 9:20:20 PM | If you cut his tendons at the knees......he can't run away 
Guy | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 9:23:32 PM | Or..Maybe its because...
They weally weally....scared!!!
But they can 
But they can't...HIDE!! | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/17/2006 11:53:23 PM | Could be several reasons.
- Could be his/her hormones telling you what you want to hear to get down your pants.
- Perhaps had a few on the go, and dropped you for something better.
- Liked you and all, but then you did/said something that totally turned them off.
- If you slept with them, they got the goods. On to the next.
- Perhaps too smothering and scared them off.
The list goes on. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:07:12 AM | And your on here why!!!!!?
vvvv yea ok! lol
Cuz they are all losers | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:20:31 AM | im saying the ones who change their minds r losers
get that straight | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 12:26:49 AM | | Is it really that bad? If someone stops talking to you after a date or a ****, isn't it really about being unable to deal with having your pride wounded or your curiosity satisfied? Don't we do it all the time in other social situations? I am going through that right now as we speak (receiving end--- ouch). So, I have no choice but to guess what the problem is, enjoy the silence, and place my thoughts elsewhere; hence, look forward, not back. Most men, after a date or a ****, don't realize the mistake they were making until the next day. And why is that so bad for women? They got out and got stuffed (one way or another.) Seriously, I know we all like to stay home sometimes; but, sometimes isn't it nice to just go out and talk about yourself or **** for the night even if it means it's over the next day or week? | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 3:09:02 AM | Because walking away provides an opportunity to get hit in the back of the head with a toaster oven, causing an unwanted 327$ emergency room bill* for 9 stitches...
*This is a 1999 quote | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 5:04:05 AM | Many guys do things for stupid reasons as do "us" girls....Men who leave without letting ya know. whther you did anything or not or hes "just" not interested just means hes to immature to do it the real way and pick up a phone or let ya know in person hes not interested. It has happened to me and i just look at it as. well this buddy is immature and acts like were dating at 12 so better i dotn talk to him anyway. the way I look at it. IF they are that immature they did "us" a favor by leaving,well me anyway. I dont need another child to reaise hehe | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 6:22:37 AM | | Great insight alicia, I understand I have dated girls like that. I am sick to death of being used by women, I am much too tender hearted of a guy to just want sex. I am looking for a wife not a **** buddy. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 6:52:59 AM | Tbird, your post just turned me on. lol
OT: For the same reason's that some women do that I'd guess. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 8:22:43 AM | click they got bored and clicked on the next fishhy........ | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 8:31:08 AM | It's the most logical way in most men's minds of ending the relationship. I personally prefer the detached approach while telling them in person. I tend to be very cold and emotionless when I end it. Either way I know I'll be attacked, insulted, guilted, or she'll bring up issues from the past and begin assaulting me with reasons why she should have ended it first. It's a rarity to find a woman who would simply accept it quietly and walk away. I make no judgment that men are any different, they respond often in similar ways.
I can make this statement time and time again, and women and men will continue to tell me "I wouldn't do it that way." -- well maybe not, but I'm not going to take the chance with the women I date. I'll hold fast to my detached approach and protect myself. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 8:34:50 AM | Well, to me if someone says they love you, and then they decide
to dissapear, something is seriously wrong with that person! Immaturity
for one !
Love is not something to toy with. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 8:49:35 AM | | MB58CS is absolutely right. I always let a woman know when it's over 'cause I don't like to leave someone guessing. I already know that most times she's going to be insulting. Funny though, some women you can tell straight to their face that your feelings have changed, but they simply won't accept it. Hmmm, maybe it's easier to cut and run, leaving them wondering. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 9/18/2006 8:55:07 AM | | It would be easier Loneshore, but it would compromise my integrity, and I suspect yours as well. That's why we at least tell them -- but detaching and protecting ourselves isn't wrong. | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/23/2006 9:13:10 AM | | Well, then that makes me think, If someone tells you they love you, and then they avoid your phone calls, messages, etc. Is that really love in the first place??????? Or might they be lieing???? or might it be games?????? Gee some of you guys get your heads on straight, please. Sorry, but I just had to say that!! Love is something you don't lie about or joke about or use it to get what you want. Remember what they say "What goes around comes around". | |
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/23/2006 10:21:39 AM | maybe they just leave you wondering so they can come back in case they change their mind ;)
amnesia and lost phone numbers rule..lol
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| why do men run away?
Posted: 10/23/2006 11:04:38 AM |
It's a shallow world where people have ridiculous expectation of what a perfect mate would be like... No-ones is willing to do the hard work of making a relationship last, they just slink out the virtual back-door with their tail between their legs. Leaving their trusting partner hurt and confused... The only way to beat this situation is to make people prove their true friendship over time and refuse to be anyone's conquest!
By and far one of the more intelligent posts I've come across in the forums. blueripples has really hit the nail on the head. However, I'm wondering, how does one "make people prove their true friendship". It seems this can easily descend into one playing games, which the whole goal was to avoid doing in the first place. It seems like there are two extremes: either be trusting and hopefully you'll luck out and find someone who's worthy of that trust; or be completely detached, expecting the other to "prove" themselves to you. So here's the million dollar question: How does one find a happy medium between these two extremes that minimizes one being hurt and at the same time minimizes the possibility that the other person perceives that you are playing games? | |
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