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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 6:05:45 AM | OK, while I don't know about that messaging young girls thing.
Nothing wrong with a adult looking at porn, a male or a female. While not not a big fan of porn, there's nothing wrong with it.
As long as people eat at home, nothing wrong with looking at other menu's. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 6:45:06 AM | I would ask him if he found anything exciting he would like to share. He may even learn something new that you both can benefit from. (grins)
as for him messaging young girls...well..how young is young??
If they are legal then it is probubly all in fun.
Its ok to window shop, as long as we dont try anything on. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 7:00:09 AM | It depends on how MUCH he's looking at it.
Does he spend hours a day perusing pr0n? If so, then you have a serious problem on your hands.
Regardless, messaging girls, regardless of age, is a big no no. This is the sign of problems to come. If he has a girlfriend, what does he need them for?
This is how it goes. You'll have a fight, or he'll be bored, and zip online, and meet some chick that "understands him". Eventually, he goes to see her or leaves you for her. This is not a 100% certainty, of course, but I have seen men go down this road like lemmings off a cliff. It's not what they "intend" when they start out, but it's how it ends up.
To be honest, porn in today's American society is not that big of a deal anymore, if it's just casual use. Men are visual beasts. They want to SEE. Anything taboo is going to be of interest, eventually. (I don't mean pedophilia).
Nip this in the bud and let him know that the messaging of any female (for porn reasons) is NOT acceptable. If you catch him doing it again, leave him.
This is not a cycle you want to experience. Been there, done that. If you think your guy "is different", you are mistaken. People are people, and some behavior is highly predictable.
If the girls he was messaging were under 18, leave him immediately and don't look back.
Best Wishes,
Wendy | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 7:20:49 AM | | You found out he was messaging girls just by ‘playing on' on his computer. Right. You were snooping weren’t you? Porn sites could come up in the browser history, but his messaging history wouldn’t be available unless you did some digging. You have other problems in this relationship if you feel that’s necessary. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 7:41:01 AM | found he had gone to some porn sites,thought we had a good physical relationship,why do men do that?
Why do women continue to read romance novels after they have found the love of their life? Why do grown adults continue to watch sci-fi, fantasy, fiction and cartoons?
It is because of fantasy. Porn is nothing more than a romance novel for men. Pretty much everybody will concede that the male and female idea of romance differs significantly. For men, romance is two blonde twins covered in jell-o wearing g-strings and provocatively bending over while repairing your cable TV or delivering pizza. (That is why we think blondes are dumb, takes two of them to deliver pizza in all of our favorite movies)
Porn and romance novels differ a lot, but they are read for the same purpose. To light a fire in the loins! To escape from reality into a place where you feel nothing but alive. A way to bring the blood to the surface and heat up your libido.
Men and women both do this; it is just delivered in a different medium. (Although barely, I have read a couple of romance novels and they can be quite graphic and detailed.)
Instead of asking why and feeling like less of a woman because your man watches other naked women, why not try participating in his fantasy. If you notice a common trend in the type of porn he watches, you may have come across a fetish that you both could explore. That is how I came to read a romance novel when my g/f wasn’t looking. I read it to find out what her fantasy entailed. I then provided that fantasy to her in real life. She had no idea I had read her book, I was “thoughtful” and “spontaneous” as well as “insightful”. Women don’t tell us everything they desire. They want us to find it out and give it to them. Since we are not mind readers we must be resourceful. Use the clues she leaves behind for you to study.
Women should use the clues men leave behind too. Such as the porn left undeleted on the computer, because every guy knows you delete everything as soon as your done and don’t ever forget to empty the recycle bin. (This is a good habit to get into guys, you don’t want to scare the crap out of yourself when you see what you downloaded while you were drunk last night. Although, I never knew a male head could fit there before that one drunken night) | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 9:05:00 AM | God forbid someone caught you watching "Elvis", on the television a few years ago, that was "PORN" back than. Well, times have changed, now we have the "Internet", where you can find anything under-the-sun ! Porn, being one of them, and some emails I have received from this site, are worse than porn. Some have been out-right-scary !
So, sweetheart, don't worry about him/her looking at "Porn On The Net", I bet you have been the benefactor of his/her viewing. I think it is your own "Insecurities", and other related problems in your relationship, that makes you ask this question. Or, are you looking for an excuse, or a way out of your relationship, if you keep on digging, I'm sure you find something about your man/woman, that you won't of approve of.
So, next time you catch him/her viewing porn...........pull up a chair...........and enjoy the show, it might just add a little spark, to your dieing relationship !...........Benz
PS: If hes/shes emailing underage internet users, get him/her some seriuos "Help" ! | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 9:28:59 AM | ^^^ So I should be messaging guy's. That doesn't really work with my sexual preference.
Check your facts before insinuating someone is a pedophile
Not only that but try to be ignorant. Pedophile's are those interested in sex with those that have not reached puberty yet. A 30 year old emailing 14 year olds is just a sicko. | |
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| What would you do if you found your guy was looking at porn on internet?
Posted: 9/18/2006 9:49:31 AM | So you have been with this guy for 3 months? Is that like just dating, or are you married to him? Three months honestly isn’t a lot of time if you are just dating someone.
I completely agree with what ‘my secret life’ said above. How would you know he messaged anyone and just how do you know how old they are? Were the conversations lewd, or sexual? I think you only said that to add value to your argument about porn.
My question wouldn’t be about his internet viewing habits. It would be more about your insecurities in the relationship and the fact that you are snooping through his ‘personal’ things.
To everyone else: This woman is 44 years old. If she said he is messaging ‘younger girls’, it obviously means someone younger than her. These girls could just as easily be 30 as compared to 13. Being younger than her was the only thing that should have been implied. Check your facts before insinuating someone is a pedophile.
Cheers!
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