| | 10 Things...Page 1 of 2 (1, 2) | OK ladies, I know this type post has been done before, but humor me. List 10 attributes you look for in men. 5 tangible(physical) attributes and 5 intangible(character) attributes. What does it take to make him either Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now? Guys, we might really learn something if we listen to what these ladies have to say and if we aspire to truely be or become what they are looking for, then we will be more successful in our relationships. I'll stand back now and let the ladies have the floor.  | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 5:52:59 AM | physical:
1) be well groomed (how can you care about me if you can't care about yourself?)
2) be taller than me (I don't know. This is probably a biological security thing)
3) make eye contact often (it makes you look honest)
4) Smile (it should go all the way to your eyes)
5) Three things: hands, shoes, 'package'
Women look at your hands and your shoes and yes we look at the old family jools area. Hey you look at our breats! Hands tell us what you do for a living (white collar, blue collar, etc), shoes tell us how successful you are at it, and unfortunately size does matter.
Anything else physical comes down to personal preference really.
Character
1) be confident and decisive
2) have an sense of humour (and be able to laugh at yourself)
3) intelligence (you can be really smart and not have a phd. Intelligence tells me that you have lots of interests and can converse well)
4) reciprocation (you will only get out what you put in. If you want some one to be supportive and caring of you then be supportive and caring of them)
5) Respect (Respect me, respect other people, don't litter, be nice to animals) | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 6:53:28 AM | "Guys, we might really learn something if we listen to what these ladies have to say....."
Ben....you are sweet....thanks for trying....but ladies have been saying it loud and clear for a long, long time.....men just don't listen...... | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 6:55:04 AM | I'll start of by saying Physical does not make a Mr. Right...But of coarse adds to it..
So Physically
1.) Eyes (bedroom eyes)
2.) Lips (if a man has nice lips he probably knows how to use them)
3.) Apperance how they present themselves. I love a man who has just got off work has a bit of the grunge look. But on the other side I love a man who dresses in clothes that show off his upper body a bit.
4.)I like a nice bum
5.) Baby face with a goatee
As for character (well I can list so much more than 5 but here are 5)
1.) A sense of humor. if you can make me laugh. I ALMOST would not care what you look like.
2.) A little bit of charm..
3.) Loyal and trustworthy
4.) Friendly and out going
5.) Confidence (without turning into an egotistical jerk of coarse)
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Posted: 9/21/2006 6:59:14 AM |
"Guys, we might really learn something if we listen to what these ladies have to say....."
Ben....you are sweet....thanks for trying....but ladies have been saying it loud and clear for a long, long time.....men just don't listen......
Actually I need to add here that It really varies and I can understand how some guys don't understand what a woman wants from them.
I mean SOME of the things are just non logical or unrealistic too you know? so we have to understand that it dependes also WHAT it is the women are asking for, this goes for physical and character wise, but I was more focusing on the physical with my statment. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 7:05:44 AM | | If you don't anything, so long you have $$$$$$$$$$$$, you'll be fine. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 7:10:12 AM | Physical
1. Eyes
2. Cleanliness
Sorry, that's my physical list. They can be bald or not, tall or not, thin or not. The men I've been attracted to have one thing in common: amazing eyes.
(this is not in order. they all rank equally)
1. Respectful
2. Honest
3. Funny
4. Intelligent
5. Strong yet vulnerable (ala a typical John Cusack character)
And wilde69, you are wrong about that, at least as far as I'm concerned. I dated a man who could only afford homemade picnics at the river and another who could buy me anything. The rich guy couldn't measure up to the picnic guy.
I know it happens a lot on POF, but please don't lump women into one pile. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 8:04:19 AM | Physically (in no particular order):
1. Height – just a personal “false security” thing, but I like my men taller then me.. say around 6’ (that way they can still be taller then me when Im wearing my heels).
2. Eyes – I love it when a guy can make me melt just by giving me one look, and bedroom eyes are super hot.
3. Smile – I like to laugh and don’t want to be with someone who frowns all the time, so a nice smile is necessary (nice lips are a bonus too).
4. Arms & Chest – I love being held close by strong arms. They don’t have to be muscles on top of muscles, but as long as I feel safe with them around me its all good.
5. And a good bum never hurt any one either.
Character (again in no order):
1. Have a sense of humour – really, I think this is a pretty standard one. As Marilyn Monroe said “If you can make a girl laugh, you can make her do anything”.
2. Honest & Trustworthy – I think they kinda go hand in hand (in my mind, its tied in with respect as well). I have to be able to trust you or whats the point?
3. Brains – I have to be able to hold a conversation with you that does not revolve around the weather or sports (even though I can talk about both of those). You also have to be able to make up your own mind rather then let someone else tell you what you should think.
4. Open-minded – Keep an open mind to new experiences or ideas or theres a good chance we wont get along.
5. Have a back bone – You can still be a nice guy but not let people walk all over you. You have to be able to stand up for yourself. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 9:33:48 AM | Physical:
Eyes: I agree, eye contact is important
Smile: Smile a lot, and I like to see a smile in your pic too!
Hands: Nice hands, clean fingernails
Teeth: Have good teeth please!
Clothing/Shoes: Don't wear a t-shirt and sneakers to our first date please!
Character:
Sense of humor: Make me laugh!
Intelligence: Able to hold a conversation in full sentences, and without the foul language!
Curiosity: You should be curious about me and ask me questions about myself.
Sensitive: Should be able to discuss/relate to feelings & emotions.
Communication: Must be good at expressing yourself and a good listener when it's my turn.
Does that help?? | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 9:38:29 AM | | P.S. - well the sneakers are okay if we're just meeting for coffee, as long as they're clean. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 9:49:30 AM | Physcial:
1) Height. Taller than me in heals -- preference for about 6'1 - 6'5
2) Nice hair that's soft and well kept or razored completely off.
3) Nice smile and fairly decent teeth...
4) Average to some extra padding is perfect
5) I like brown hair and serious ice blue eyes... but that's not easy to find.
OE: also agree that clean, well groomed and wears appropriate clothes is a very important thing. :)
Charater:
1) Confident and stands up for what he believes in and is passionate about (needs passion and purpose in life!)
2) Ambitious and Driven (Goal Orientated)
3) Secure (a combo of financially and emotionally... a whole person to match where I am in life I guess?!)
4) Has a sense of humor and can have fun. At the very least... they should find me hillarious... hehe.
5) Respectful and values other people, animals and nature (his family, friends and neighbors... if we go to his office one night and he says hello to the cleaning staff like they are his equals  ) | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 10:11:58 AM | Cool thread!!!
What I look for physically:
1) Height - I generally prefer guys to be at least 6' tall, but if they're only 5'7" that's cool too. I just don't like when guys I'm dating are shorter than me.
2) Meat - Yes, I like my man to have something for me to grab onto, cuddle up to, bite into...not really into the skin and bones or overly muscular body types.
3) Arms and Hands - Strong arms and hands are a big turn on for me. I like it when a guy has his muscular arms around me, it makes me feel safe and secure when it's done lovingly.
4) Hygiene - You would think this is pretty obvious, but it's really not for some. A guy that grooms himself and actually does change his underwear daily, wears deoderant, etc. SO important! Don't forget to clean inside your ears too, it's a huge turn off to be faced with a potato patch when nibbling on an earlobe.
5) A great smile. Who isn't completely attracted to someone that smiles?! Yeah, it sounds overrated, but people who smile are far more approachable and appealing than people who scowl.
What characteristics I find attractive:
1) Assertiveness - It's great when a guy knows what he wants, and knows how to get it, and WILL go out and get it. You want the pretty girl, the smart girl, the cutie next door...CHASE HER DAMNIT!!!
2) Sensitivity - I LOVE when a guy isn't afraid to show me his sensitive side. I don't mean falling to pieces and crying buckets of tears over the Joy Luck Club; I mean when a guy isn't afraid to tell me or show me how he feels, even if it is a little "girlie".
3) Manners - These are surprisingly hard to come by these days. Men need to be gentlemen, with or without a lady present. All those things your mom made you do....DO THEM. Just because you aren't with a girl doesn't mean there isn't one nearby that could see you behaving so well and is, in turn, thoroughly impressed.
4) Macho - Okay, now you're going to think I'm being completely hipocritical. I think it's adorable when a guy acts all macho. To be more specific, I like it when they're doing it in a joking way, think Tim Allen - Home Improvement. It's absolutely endearing to see a man being a man. Keep in mind, there is a time and place, out with the boys, showing off for the woman of your dreams, teaching the pups how it's done...so cute. Just don't push it.
5) Balance - A guy that know how to keep the balance in a relationship is fantastic. Knows how to be calm if I'm screaming in his face, knows when to set me straight after said screaming. He knows when to turn it on and turn it off. Knows how to make me tell/show him that I want him and knows when I need to hear/feel that he wants me. Someone that can be my rock when I need it, but knows that I'll be his too. Balance, synchronicity...really hard to find that with anyone. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 10:14:13 AM | 5 Physical
1. Excellent hygiene
2. Height 6'2 or taller is my PREFERENCE, though not requirement
3. Nice teeth
4. No beer (pot) belly
5 Character
1. Cleanliness. His person and property
2. Intelligence
3. Kindness
4. Responsible for his own debts. Can meet his own financial obligations
5. Affectionate
6. Skilled and giving lover (figured I only supplied 4 physical, I get one extra character) | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 10:56:58 AM | | YAY I have a nice bum im in | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 11:16:02 AM | You have some power over women Ben!
Getting them to spill their guts and all!
So I guess there's no need to discuss it any further!
I'm all that and more! You women can stop looking now! | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 11:20:54 AM | Character:
1. Trustworthy
2. A good sense of humor
3. Respectful/Well Mannered
4. Intelligent
5. Romantic
Physical:
1. Nice Eyes
2. A warm Smile
3. Good Hygiene
4. A little taller than me
5. and a little facial scruff
I don`t expect a man to meet all this, but this would be my ideal. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 11:26:04 AM | I'm always amazed how much stock women put into height. Especially when I read thier profiles and see they're looking for a guy who's 6'4" and they are 5'2"!
I'm 5'8" and I do get the whole desire to not be taller than someone yoou're dating when you are in heels bit but if you're 5'2" - how much higher than a 6" heel do you need to go before you'll feel secure?!?
In the end, I find it even more amazing that so many women are choosing guys based on shoe compatibility to begin with.
D. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 11:43:41 AM | Physical:
1) Tall ~~~~6 feet-6'3''.
2) Black eyes(optional)
3) Shoulder length black hair. But, long hair is optional. Although guys with long black hair are hot!
4) Extremely fit body. No extra fat please.
5) He should be very clean and tidy hygiene wise.
Emotional/mental.
1) Educated and intelligent. Can't be one without the other. This is the most important factor for me. I'll never compromise on this one.
2) Must have a sense of humour. If we don't get each other's jokes, then the relationship is doomed.
3) Should not be divorced with kids. Should not have kids at all.
4) Kind, caring, faithful, trustworthy, practical and responsible.
5) Should not be a religious fanatic. | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 2:35:00 PM | physical:
no major health issues, nothing life-threatening
low odour: strong smells cause migraines
clean, but not compulsively-obsessively so
normal-looking (not flashy, not a gargoyle)
pleasant voice
character:
always compassionate (to humans and animals)
often thoughtful/pondering (in similar ways to me)
sometimes passionate (mentally) but not angry or scary
essentially self-reliant (in all ways: happy on his own)
loving/appreciating/accepting me exactly as I am | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 2:42:55 PM | Physical
1. Broad shoulders
2. Taller than me
3. Good Hygiene
....thats all I really look for physically, everything else falls into their character which to me is the most important to base a relationship on.
Character
1.Must be appreciative
2.Respectful
3.Confident
4.Intelligent
5.Goal-oriented
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Posted: 9/21/2006 4:29:29 PM | In no particular order:
Physical
smells delicious
taller than me when I am wearing heels
has hands that can be soft and comforting and rough and sexy
looks good in jeans and Armani or nothing at all
he has a mouth you think of kissing all night long
a little facial hair - I love that (although it may be a recent thing LOL)
Character
Means what he says and does what he says
intelligent, can provide stimulating conversation with you
you can count on him in a crisis or for everyday things
he gets that women and men are different and embraces those differences
he wants to know what's happening in the world, outside of his neighborhood
he calls after sex
he loves that you like him as a person and tells you so
can laugh about the little things
is ambitious, driven and committed | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 5:32:53 PM | Things that get my attention:
1. great smile
2. beautiful eyes
3. physically appealing to me...and my tastes vary
things that keep my attention:
4. honesty
5. shows respect for me at all times
6. reliability (the one that keeps dates, and calls when he says he will or when he can't make it somewhere)
7. sense of humor
8. intelligent
9. creative
10. has ambition and purpose in life | |
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Posted: 9/21/2006 6:26:11 PM | Physical attributes I prefer,
1) small to medium framed, (tightly muscled, not scrawny)
2) neatly trimmed facial hair, (I just love a man with a goatee!)
3) head hair, or the lack of it, is unimportant as long as it is kept neat.
4) a nice smile, and smile often!
5) and of course, A good butt!
Character traits I prefer,
1) CONTROL OVER THEIR TEMPER!! I should VERY rarely see a violent reaction.
2) a good sense of humor
3) affectionate
4) trustworthy
5) genuine concern for others | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 10:33:15 PM | Ladies, Thank you so much for your input, it gives men a chance to see in black and white some of the top things you are looking for in us. I realize that we often seem dense to you, but we truely aren't speaking the same language at times. Men and women see, hear and preceive things so differently and what one sex thinks is as obvious as the nose on your face is a complete mystery to the other. It is evident by this thread and most like it that communication, clear and concise, in terms that both parties can understand, is absolutely necessary in any good relationship. I believe that if we would simply be honest and upfront about our expectations in a relationship that we would all get along better. Most people of either sex aren't mind readers, so we must TELL one another what we want, innuendo and assumptions just don't work. Please feel free to continue with posts, I'm very interested in more opinions.  | |
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Posted: 9/22/2006 11:46:27 PM |
Educated and intelligent. Can't be one without the other.
Could you explain this one for me please? Because, I believe anyone could be intelligent, even though they may not be formally educated. I assume that one might take it upon themselves to educate themselves as well if they are intelligent. Just want to know what exactly you meant by it :) | |
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