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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 4:33:06 AM | | it's not rocket science, seperated = married anyway until the papers are signed, and the ink is dry. It isn't a lie, they are say they are still married. If you choose to date a married man or a "seperated" one, you are choosing to take the risk. | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 4:39:23 AM | Grace, I agree with you. If you date someone who is seperated yes.. youre taking a risk.
BUT.. what about the genuine guys are genuinely are seperated, that doesnt make them liars and players! Come on guys!
And, dreamcatcher30, if you read my post it says he was in love with me. My name wouldnt be posted on a name and shame site because I don't treat people badly and Im very selective upon who I will date.
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 4:50:45 AM | *** Grace, I agree with you. If you date someone who is seperated yes.. youre taking a risk.
BUT.. what about the genuine guys are genuinely are seperated, that doesnt make them liars and players! Come on guys! ***
you get burned and still want to justify the " genuinely seperated guys" as ok. well honey they are not ok. they're still just as married period and will be until divorced. this is where the heart ache comes into play alotttttttttt. as they romance you on the one hand they are trying to stay connected to the partner on the other. then if they work it out hes gone and you can post these kinds of threads asking WHY.
*** And, dreamcatcher30, if you read my post it says he was in love with me. My name wouldnt be posted on a name and shame site because I don't treat people badly and Im very selective upon who I will date. ***
tell us once again just how SELECTIVE you are? that and the fact of your being suckered by a seperated guy don't quite have the agruement here now does it?
if he/she says they're seperated and you want to go ahead and date them and they in the end burst your TRUSTING bubble. don't come crying about the married ones pretending to be single as if its the same as being single and divorced. my advice... stay away from anyone whos not divorced and has'nt a home phone number to call whenever you want. ( and seperated is NOT the same as divorced )
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:32:05 AM | nos30.. fair point.
But hang on.. the whole point is that if this bloke hadnt been lying.. and told people he was in fact unhappily married there wouldnt have been a date would there... Maybe I should have started this thread as LIES.
and dreamcatcher maybe youre his wife hahah would you like me to send you his boxer shorts by first class post so you can wash them?
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 5:40:08 AM | Whilst were on the subject of dreamcatcher30 I would like to know why she/he feels they have to contact me privately and not on an open forum unless you are hiding something?
So I think we should all ask dreamcatcher30 just exactly what she/he has to hide? Come on Guys don't let me down here. | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:23:13 AM | | Well I'm watching channel V and Black Eyed Peyes' Fergie is just being a complete Hog/Sow. Singing about her "London Bridge" n stuff. I mean it's so disgusting. I love it! XXXX 4 eva ... I love it! Know what I mean?..... | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 6:26:47 AM | Thanks for doing the naming and shaming for me.
Thats you thats been named and shamed by personal admittal.. and then...you named and shamed mine for me. TOPS! Thank you!!
New profile name maybe TIM NICE BUT DIM
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:20:29 AM | It is sad but would you talk to some one if he said he was married? Or would you just consider him a dirty old man?
I talk to a few married men on here, they are still human - just because they are married doesn't make them any less human. Talking is a way of helping each other through life.
Unfortunately it appears that sometimes it is taken to far - but with ladies offering their wares who can blame them for having fun?
Often it would be enough for a guy to just have some one to talk to as this is what he really needs, he is unable to talk to his wife sometimes as relationships are stressed. Often a man given time will admit that he is married if you let him.
But I hear what you are saying and there are some idiots out there - but there are women who are the same as well! | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:34:24 AM | Yeah I do firmly believe theres women out there doing it too.. I know from some male friends theres lots of girls at it. Loads of fake female profiles too.
Thing is.. if someone said to me, Hi Im married but Im only looking for talk/email, hey thats really no problem. Each know the truth and where the line is. They're not tricking anyone. I do genuinely talk to a couple of men on here who are married. Nothing wrong with talk. However.. really, if someone is happily married and creates a bond of friendship with a female for instance, why would it be on a dating site? Temptation is so obvious. I don't believe happily married men come on here they would have better things to do (well I hope they would have something better to do).
Its the ones who are married, say theyre not, theyre always SOOO convincing as well!, and the fact that they attract you through their own insecurities and lies is my point I suppose.
Really if everything is so innocent, its not a case of them admitting to you eventually that they're married because by then they've already lied to you.. and whats the foundation of a relationship, even a friendship? Trust. It's kind of a big thing to hold back, especially on a dating site. If we're all honest we all just want to be loved and we want someone special in our life. Thats why we're here. Liars dont go down well in my book though!! | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:39:48 AM | Who's Dan? Who's Tim? Did some posts get deleted? I missed all the juicy naming-and-shaming stuff.
The answer to the original question is some people are liars, plain and simple. There's no solution except to fine-tune your radar for it and if it fails for some reason, pick up the pieces and carry on. | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:47:35 AM | Ok, I guess I am unclear as to what he told you exactly....did he tell you he was seperated? Or did he not even mention that and say that he is not married?
Common sense tells someone that if they are separated that they are in fact still married.....or am I missing something?  | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:54:58 AM | Hi Carol..
His profile said single. No kids. 36. I trusted him.
Some time later, when feelings were established..(ie Im deleting my profile for you, I love you etc) it came out. May I also point out that the truth came out AFTER several dates, and other activities i care to forget.
Seperated, BUT under the same roof as his wife (who he probably sleeps in the same bed with), and 1 kid but hang on lets change it to 2 kids. Oh, and 40.
Its not going to be a case of I dont trust again, but i was interested to know how often this happens and other peoples experiences. For me it took some getting over and im still building my confidence again now.
Nothing wrong with seperated people.. i notice that on my forums people think im slating people for being seperated.. not at all.. its the liars that im talking about.. liars can be any status.
What sort of a boke does that.
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 7:56:03 AM | We're still married. Legally anyway, but emotionally, spiritually, sexually, and romantically we are not. Personally I cannot stand these generalizations people make. Why are ALL GUYS liars. Why don't MEN ever call back. It's NOT ALL MEN that do that and it's not ALL women. It's the few that people have met.
Some men are separated...they are living elsewhere and without walking in their shoes we should not be so quick to make a snap assessment that they are liars. | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 8:07:27 AM | | The difference between having friends who are married and talking to some one who wants to be with you long term is that you bare your heart to some one you think you will share your life with. Lets be more careful next time we give our hearts. | |
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 8:36:09 AM | Yet another thread proving why you should never, under any circumstances date someone who is "seperated". I have done it, I gave it the full benefit of the doubt, and its just doesn't work. I have no ill will towards those who are currently seperated, and want to move on with their lives and find both love and happiness, as I was in the same boat once as well, but yikes, now I fully understand why some women didn't want to be involved with me back in those days.
OP, best thing you can do is take this as a "life lesson" learned, and move on. In the end that is the only thing that makes any clear sense.
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| Why are there so many married men pretending to be seperated?
Posted: 9/22/2006 1:30:02 PM | *** Seperated, BUT under the same roof as his wife (who he probably sleeps in the same bed with), and 1 kid but hang on lets change it to 2 kids. Oh, and 40. ***
My point. if you're over 25 and have been online dating for 1 year theres no reason to be taken by anyone. GET HIS/HER home phone up front before 1st date or pay the price...
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