| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 5:32:14 PM | | I'm new to this site but have tried others and have a general internet-dating question. A lot of women I know say a woman should never contact a guy first. So I'm assuming they put their profiles up and just wait for a guy to contact them. I can understand we all like to be chased...but...For you guys out there - do you dislike it when a woman contacts you? Thanks! | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 5:36:09 PM | extremely redundant topic. A thread search would have help stear you to threads already discussing this topic.
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 5:38:22 PM | | I like it, but then again, I like women who know exactly what they want and are willing to go after that. Besides, it gets tiresome on these sites (for me anyways) because women will naturally get more messages than men. That generally leads toward a lot of men being filtered out. I don't like being filtered and after getting so many "no responses" or "Match Closed" kind of things gets pretty frustrating. Compare it to finding a job, after you submit your resume and contact companies for what seems like forever... sometimes you start losing hope when no one hires you or many don't even want you for an interview. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 5:43:59 PM | | Ok, apologies - I didn't do my research on how to use these forums. I had looked for this topic but clearly didn't search as I should have. If I knew how to delete my original post I would! | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 5:48:27 PM | I can say that i've developed better freindships from the people i've been contacted by. The people I make first contact with don't go as well. So i guess one could assume that it would be a better idea if the women made the first move.
I was reading another post and i wish i could quote them. But the jest of what they said is that a man can have an easier time shifting from freind to lover but a woman can clearly define her relationships and keep them there.
So yeah i guess i would like to be contacted first.
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 6:40:53 PM | | Yep, I do. That's just me though. I don't think anything odd, just that this is someone who would like to talk with me, or had something they wanted to say. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 6:56:01 PM | If you were standing in a room of 1000 people to date.
You're attracted to 1/3 of them. That leaves 333 people and a midget left over. Of these left, you have no idea who's attracted to you, or would even welcome you talking to them.
Would you rather just approach all of the ones you were attracted to, or just shout to the room "Hey, if you're interested in me, step forward!" and then pick from the ones showing interest?
A lot of women I know say a woman should never contact a guy first.
Because they hate it and will make up any excuse in the book to avoid it. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 7:40:33 PM | | I don't dislike being contacted and neither I dislike contacting girls first. You like someone, you simply message them. If it works out, great and if not, that's okay too. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 7:41:54 PM | | Thanks for the feedback from you and the rest....even though I see it's all been said and asked before on this site (live and learn...). I'm glad to know that most guys seem to be ok with a woman initiating contact. I've usually thought it's a bit "old-fashioned" (for lack of a better term) to expect a guy to do all the initiating. And your example is a good one, might as well go for it. Thanks ... | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 9:44:07 PM | If it gets me with the right lady I don't care if Goerge W contacts me.
I can't look at every profile in here, nor can you......whoever see someone interesting andd the criteria matches.........contact away
The worst thing that happens is ........nothing happens
And that was going to happen already!!!!!!!!! | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/24/2006 10:27:36 PM | | I think a better contact would be for your friend to make a contact for you so that the initiation isn't so forward if you don't like to be the one doing it. If your friend on here (or in real life) acts as a go between to contact for you then it would be very nice for both the guy and the girl to be "introduced" in such a way. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/25/2006 6:15:27 AM | Of course we do!
You know what you want. you contacted someone because you liked em sooo we dont have to wonder about that. theres that base line of being 'liked'
Two your independent and decisive. Always good. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/25/2006 9:00:56 AM | Why not? it is a dating site.
I for one have no problems being contacted first or contacting them.
either way someone new to talk to and get to know. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 9/25/2006 8:53:22 PM | | if you see something or someone you like -whats wrong with throwing a rock at them (metaphorically of course) -give them a chance to say "no", -you miss all the shots you dont take... | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 11/7/2008 12:55:18 PM | | Yes. I think women should do the contacting on these things first for as impossible as they make things for themself. ie; not replying to men who contact them that fit what they are looking for to a "t". | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 11/7/2008 1:21:28 PM | wouldn't hurt my feelings !!!!!
i'm new here also.... some think us newbies should know the site inside out... just ask anything you want....... | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 11/7/2008 3:08:12 PM | | It would make more sense to ask why so many women don't contact the men who catch their interest. Remember, he might not even see you among all those other fishies ... or even if he does view you, there might be something in your profile that gives him reason to think he'd be wasting his time by writing you. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 11/7/2008 5:17:46 PM | | Absolutely. A girl that does gets huge points from me. If a girl can't initiate first contact she doesn't deserve my time. I like a girl who isn't afraid of talking to people or afraid of getting rejected for that matter. It means she's strong. A lot of guys like prissy girls who can't stand up for themselves though... but that's not going to do it for me. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 11/7/2008 5:19:59 PM | | THATVIBE: You make a perfect point. You would be loosing out if you didn't initiate contact with a guy you thought interesting. I've passed on many girls because of what they wrote in their profile... but if they were showed interest I might give them a chance to "redeem" themselves LOL. | |
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| Do guys like to be contacted first?
Posted: 11/7/2008 5:23:41 PM | | I like being contacted first. It shows confidence on the part of the woman to be able to initiate the conversation. In addition to that, it also can show that the woman is at least somewhat interested in me. | |
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