| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/24/2006 11:34:04 PM | | I have stated in other threads that people should stop blocking all of the other categories that could be potential matches for them. Just because you are looking for "Long Term" does not mean you should block people who chose "Friends". Wouldn't you want them as a friend first anyway? I have met some wonderful females on this site that I enjoy talking to on a regular basis. Some of them are looking for "Long Term" but if they had blocked out the "Hang Out" then I never could have contacted them. All I can say is remove some of the blocks, someone maybe trying to contact you but just can't. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/24/2006 11:41:19 PM | I don't even block men and for the most I don't enjoy chatting with them.
Sometimes somebody is asking for an answer when no answer is absolute, that's
why on the forums a lot of people agree to dissagree... Most conversation end
up spliting in two because nobody is ready to affirm everything.
My bait is fine and everchanging.
You don't always catch the best fish with the best worms... sounds familiar.
The Ocean a many, the Ocean a plenty... what are you looking for... who cares
just as long as we get-along, long-long
I do smoke cigarettes and refuse to change it to contact a woman because then she'll
have a lie on me.
( - ) = quickstep | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/24/2006 11:44:49 PM | excellent point...unfortunately the options only give us one pick...
but i dont block anybody from writing me...
in this brutal singles world 'specially for us guys...thats kinda like suicide... | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/24/2006 11:55:19 PM | | I even go out of town a lot and saw a lady in another state that I pass through often. She had a restriction on anyone more than 75 miles. That stopped me cold there. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 12:01:26 AM | Let's fight and get some of the power back but let's be nice... I don't need to filter
my mail but why wouldn't you accept an invitation when you want...
Girls are being themselves because they can and sex is hapening because they can
but they don't have a toll on love.
Men are willing to cherish a woman freely while women keep it a secret if they can.
I am being a sexist in a unisex kind of a way because all those complaints are already
getting worked on and we have come part of the way... Accept the fact that all and
nothing is true and it starts being interesting... philosophy you say... well I don't have
many words from others but Socrates was a hoot! Made me laugh, I
had to read twice sometimes but he still made me laugh.
Only one part and not for very long... I wonder where the other part as gone
Writing, writing, it's making me talk in rimes... I have done it in speach, with some stonger lines... or is it just reality that's much more consuming. You want to see my mind?
That's all that matters, enjoy the show honey.
I shall cherish you're words and hope to be funny as well.
The funny times... those were the days.
I don't want to wear my shades at night and I don't want to pick up a fight... well sometimes it sounds like a good idea...
Seemed like a good idea at the time.
Never too far off from being kind... the game for public face...yes sir, yes sir...are you
looking to see what goes beyond words, you have to meet.
Words can be cool, happy the plenty.
I love the pof idea...
It's good practice and I don't think that there is a bottom, maybe repetition, do not look
at The question, think of you and watch my words... I do my best and that's my bait!
Which is the one that captures them all?
Just try and try... avoid the fall.
For nobody loves them all. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 3:24:25 AM | | yes I agree with you on this one. I have seen guys/girls posting who are getting all bent out of shape because they get no messages and then I look at their mail settings and they have every category blocked except one. Of course, it can start as email/talk, then photo exchange, which becomes friendship, hangout moves to activity partner, then to dating, short term and eventually long term. The only one I am still not sure of is "other relationship"..that one scares me LOL. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 3:38:57 AM | Cut Bait usually works 
But it clearly depends on what kind of fish your lookin for..
You know cat fish are bottom suckers..
I myself like crappys and fish that taste clean..
Oops sorry just joshin with ya!! 
Judy | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 4:08:34 AM | Here's the problem "photo exchange" means different things to different people...I have plenty of photos up and change them frequently...why do I need to put photo exchange. Usually when men online want to exchange photos with me, they are looking for nude photos...or sexier shots.
I want long term or dating...and want someone in the same mind set. I've yet to ever meet a man in person who had his mind set on ''friends''. These men will talk your ears off online but no they're honest in saying, they just want a ''friend'' and that's that. I find a lot of them are newly divorced, separated or some even married and all they want is a chat friend or a sex buddy (I've been propositioned by EVERY man contacting me as a ''friend". Once they figure out I'm not doing the sex buddy thing, then they have no desire to meet in person. That's all fine and dandy for some women, and I do still talk to a few men as friends. But, my main goal is meeting people to date and possible find someone for a long term relationship.
I still get the occassional ''just want sex'' man messaging me, so obviously they're lying about what they want in order to get through to me. I would rather get a few ''quality'' and ''meaningful'' messages, than a whole bunch of unnessesary chit chat. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 5:27:14 AM | You could always switch your profile to match theirs (ie, long term), then email them and change it back. :P Once first contact is established, those restrictions don't apply anymore.
It's sad but true.
Unfortunately, those selection criteria also affect the list of last 10 people to check their mail that shows up across the top of the screen. I discovered this when I unchecked the smokers box. Since I use that feature more than the search, I want those people I see there to meet my more important criteria... so I blocked smokers again. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 5:30:01 AM | Why don't you go ahead and say PEOPLE SHOULD NOT USE RESTRICTIONS THAT BLOCK YOU.
Stop being selfish.
Respect someone else's preferences.
Get over it.
Move on.
Pining for someone you cannot have will make you a Romeo in a coma. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 11:18:45 AM | | It's not a matter of not respecting other's preferences. I don't think a lot of people really know what catagory they belong in which gets them blocked and the one's that set all the restrictions don't realize how it may be hurting their chances of finding a match. If you truly know what restrictions you want, fine continue to fish in peace. This was started for those that may not know its impact on their search. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 11:20:35 AM | | I'm really not sure, I'll find out soon enough. I've gotten a lot of e-mails but nothing that I'm interested in yet. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 11:31:11 AM |
have stated in other threads that people should stop blocking all of the other categories that could be potential matches for them. Just because you are looking for "Long Term" does not mean you should block people who chose "Friends". Wouldn't you want them as a friend first anyway? I have met some wonderful females on this site that I enjoy talking to on a regular basis. Some of them are looking for "Long Term" but if they had blocked out the "Hang Out" then I never could have contacted them. All I can say is remove some of the blocks, someone maybe trying to contact you but just can't.
hahaha...you preach it, dang it! I think people take this waaaay too seriously...if you don't like the mail you get, don't reply to it! How hard is that? Since it's left up to perception anyway, why not allow for the fact that someone else may not have been absolutely certain what they should select, or just didn't ponder the selections overly much? Let 'em in...if they don't please you, nuke 'em later, but at least give them half a chance.  | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 12:26:42 PM | ok ok... maybe it's not such "good" advice. I opened up my parameters including age on my mail account.
I just received an e-mail from a 27 year old guy asking if I liked "younger men who are well endowed." How long did THAT take?
That's the reason I had tight parameters on my account. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 12:40:15 PM |
ok ok... maybe it's not such "good" advice. I opened up my parameters including age on my mail account.
I just received an e-mail from a 27 year old guy asking if I liked "younger men who are well endowed." How long did THAT take?
That's the reason I had tight parameters on my account.
LOL ~ I'm sorry, I'm not laughing because that happened to you, I'm laughing because the exact same thing happened to me.
I took my restrictions off in May when I couldn't talk to some forum people. Once you take the restrictions off, there will be a period when you get undesirable mail, but that does stop eventually. If you don't like the mail you receive "read/delete" it's pretty simple. I think the OP has a point. I'm not here to date ~ however, if someone amazing appeared in my inbox, that very well may change. It has yet to happen, but one never knows. If you take the restrictions off, bold itallic a message on the top of your profile your estimated age preferences/etc. As for slimey emails ~ I post them in my profile. Not often do I get them, but when/if I do, cut and paste into the infamous: My Email Hall of Shame. (no user names allowed, but I am willing to give that information via private email.) | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 12:43:55 PM | Willnevergiveup, I've been following this thread, and your latest post made me laugh out loud. "Younger men who are well-endowed..." Wanna bet he's 69 with a really small weenie?
I ALWAYS keep the mail restriction regarding intimate encounters. That does seem to help cut down on the p*enis messages (but some will always get through...) | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 1:02:49 PM | I had to choose between some of the categories because I agree with what you said. Before developing a relationship you need to "talk/email", be "friends", "hang out" and "date". Most of the categories are part of the process of getting to know someone and seeing if you might like to be "long term" with them. Another thing is that I might meet someone who is only looking for friends, but changes her mind and wants long term after meeting me.  | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 1:03:24 PM | I have tried all kinds of bait........still can't find the right fishie......have released a few and been released a few times....not keepers.
What bait does a guy use to get a few "Taco" shots?..... I feel so left out. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:04:22 PM |
What bait does a guy have to do to get a few "Taco" shots?..... I feel so left out.
A nice fat burrito. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 1:05:55 PM | OP,
Everyone have their own purpose to be on this site. Yours is to look for people to hang out with. Perhaps you should zero into those who want the same thing as you do. There are plentiful of those on the site.
Those, who chose long term, dating on their profiles, are on different agenda than you are. They have real life friends to hang out with that is for sure. Many women here in their 30s or 40s are mature enough to know what they want and many of us just simple don't have time to entertain hang out or friends. I believe there are friends to be made just on dating or long term because not everyone will be attracted to one another in the romantic way or more.
Also, the hang out, friends, other relationships..etc.. has a different implication--it is almost like making a statement--" I just want to play."
Don't complain when you are baiting for something else all togather than those who actually set out to bait for something more meaningful than wasting time on the internet for just for playing games. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:10:12 PM | OP..
Ive been contacted by alot of woman who have a block on people who have OTHER relationship on their profile ...but mine says other relationship.Yet they contact me.
Its good for a laugh.. Plenty of fish in the sea. | |
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| Are you using the right bait?
Posted: 9/25/2006 1:16:45 PM | Itooam1, I may sound like a cretin, but what IS an "other relationship" when one is single, as you indicate in your profile? Is that like an intimate encounter, only prettier? I always thought it meant a married person looking for something on the side.
This is a serious question. Please educate me! | |
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