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Posted: 9/25/2006 5:43:47 AM | | when are women going to understand? men like to be pursued,called on the phone for know reason other than to see how his day is going,women dont understand,if i dont hear from them,and im seeing other women,and these women show more intrest in me,im going to go there,whats so hard to understand? confused,lol | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 8:36:50 AM | | sex is the price you pay for conversation? wow. let's talk about that some more, at my place... | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 9:21:18 AM | Ever thought maybe these women don't call because they know you are dating other women? And Not trying to change your subject here, but when are men going to call us when they say they willl ?? Women are just as confused by men as men are by us.
If we call, we are being "pushy, needy, wanted too much too soon, trying to check up on you, if we don't call we aren't interested. We can't read your mind no more than you can read ours. Just because someone shows interest in you does not always mean they are, just the same as someone who doesn't openly show interests does not mean they are not. People are different and life is not always as it appears to be. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 12:33:55 PM | | ^^Well now hunny? Isn't that just ducky! No wonder we are all single. I couldn't agree with what you said here more! I always seem to wonder, gee, should I contact him on msn? Should I call? Hmmm, no, I don't wanna look too eager. Tis funny to think guys can feel the same way. Dammit, there simply has to be a better way don't ya think! | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 1:16:44 PM | | Call me old school but I don't chase after men. If they want to go off with someone else, then I wouldn't be interested in them anyway. Too many people in datingland rushing into things. If someone doesn't want to take the time to get to know me, he is welcome to move on. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 3:21:15 PM | | I'm going through the opposite right now. The guy I like spending time with right now 9 out of 10 times will turn me down if I call him and ask if he wants to hang out. An hour later he may call me and ask me and I'm supposed to say yes. He makes comments that nobody ever calls him but after being rejected so many times why would anybody call him. I'm confused! I don't know if he wants people to call or not. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 4:03:01 PM | I think I'd be letting that guy fade into the sunset or change my phone number. His behaviour is bizarre. That guy is just too scary!
Tink, Calgary | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 4:20:53 PM |
The guy I like spending time with right now 9 out of 10 times will turn me down if I call him and ask if he wants to hang out. An hour later he may call me and ask me and I'm supposed to say yes
Doncha know you're supposed to be ecstatic that he changed his mind and honoured you with the pleasure of his company???? Sheesh, what's wrong with you girl??? ROFLMAO
It's the old "push-pull" control thing and he wants to control YOU. I've also had the scenario where I'm asked out to dinner and asked where I'd like to go. He agreed with the choice; however, when he turned up the locale for dinner had been changed to some other place or dinner was off (as he said he'd already eaten and seemed not to care that I hadn't) and he wanted to do something else. Happened just about EVERY time. He did the same with other things too. No matter what I suggested (after being asked to suggest), he always changed it to something else. It's designed to make you feel insecure about your decisions. I realized quickly that it was his way of making sure he controlled every situation. Needless to say, this person is no longer in my life. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 4:43:26 PM | | since caveman times women have been the gathers and men have been the hunters - that is just human nature - i enjoy being persued and feel i make it worth the effort of the persuer - if they dont feel i am worth persuing then oh well their loss, find some desperate woman who is willing to take over the man's role on the hunt - I do make it very clear from the start that I do not call men I do not know well unless I am returning their phone call. Is romance so dead nowadays that men no longer enjoy the catch and women are desperate enough to throw themselves at someone? I guess being traditional and old fashioned I need a gentleman who hasnt lost his masculinity in the game of "love" | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 6:05:24 PM | | I dont call, men , women are children, I hate the phone, if someone wants to talk to me they call I answer all question then hang up, not into the long hrs on the phone thing | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 7:26:45 PM | ..hey...I've pursued...their too fast for me. I tried tripping one once as he was running by, but damit, he still got away. Their slippery little buggers, but I have a plan...got somebody teaching me how to work that lasso...then watch out.
...maeflowers | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 7:39:02 PM | I've been pursued , but usually by people with badges and blinking lights on their cars ...
I'll stick to the pursuit of happiness ... anyone got a road map ? | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 7:54:03 PM | Same old song and dance....pursue or be pursued. Difficult to tell who is who and what is what in this internet dating world. At times I feel forward if I make contact, get answered then reply again. Other times I've been asked to make contact at certain times and I do and without an answer--or even the "I'll call or IM you at________(fill in the blank time)-I'm there and no call,etc. now this doesn't happen all the time (thankfully or I'd stop sooner than later)! It's all a dance and we have to learn the steps with each new partner. "A one and a two....."
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Posted: 9/25/2006 8:06:43 PM | If you have something that is mutual, its natural for either to call and you dont think twice about it. Remember, the person with the most "power" in the relationship is the one who loves the least. If both love mutually, there arent any power games.  | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 8:06:48 PM | | If you have something that is mutual, its natural for either to call and you dont think twice about it. Remember, the person with the most "power" in the relationship is the one who loves the least. If both love mutually, there arent any power games. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 8:51:27 PM | Msg 16 & 17: it's the finding of the mutually satisfying relationship that brings us here. Gotta try to find it somewhere--then find out if there is love being mutually shared.
And when you get that mutual love-then you share in the pursuit of one another!
nurcnurc
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Posted: 9/25/2006 9:07:29 PM | I walked down this road just in the last few days. When he didn't call or email within a reasonable time frame (in my opinion) after saying he'd be interested in seeing me again, I spoke up, only to find he'd gone out of town. BUT, he logged into POF a few times during the week. So, I figure he's not interested in me, but looking for someone better. Guess I should have been more forward and called him during the week. Who knows? It may have turned things around.
It's still hard for most women to do the asking or calling. Old habits die hard. | |
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Posted: 9/25/2006 9:36:14 PM | .
Most of the women I know communicate very well, indeed.
Too damn well, actually. 
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Posted: 9/29/2006 8:26:10 PM |
..hey...I've pursued...their too fast for me. I tried tripping one once as he was running by, but damit, he still got away. Their slippery little buggers, but I have a plan...got somebody teaching me how to work that lasso...then watch out.
Yes Mae, we usually coat ourselves with Vaseline each morning to elude such capture. | |
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Posted: 9/29/2006 10:38:07 PM | And my "Velcro" mittens aren't what they were...
Either that or I've given up giving a sh*t... | |
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Posted: 9/30/2006 5:32:35 AM | At mandi 413 (message 19)
As I have said before many times ...It is the "kid in a candy store" mentality on this site and others. When are both men and women going to stop this, find ONE person that they are truly interested in, and WORK on getting to know that person better?!?!? ...
RE: Communication with women: It works both ways. I personally do not like games. Either you want to be with me or you don't, if you do (and it is mutual) then SHOW it. If not, then be HONEST with me and tell me up front that your interest has wained and you want to end it. Closure is needed and no person either male or female should be left hanging or confused as to what went wrong. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2006 10:06:26 AM | I called a friend once, who called me often. I always ask if they are 'busy at the moment', out of courteousness, and he answered, "no, what do you want"? Well! I said I don't want anything, just wanted to say hi and let him know I was thinking of him.
Later that night when he called me I brought up in a light,teasing way, what it made me feel like... like I would just let him call me.
The thing is, he didn't mean to sound like that and realized how bad it sounded. Now we talk all the time and he has changed the way he answers the phone! I guess communication skills need brushed up now and then....leaves an impression. | |
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Posted: 9/30/2006 1:25:18 PM | .
Raises hand in admission. . . .
The thing is, he didn't mean to sound like that and realized how bad it sounded.
Sigh . . . I guess that’d be me sometimes. Unfortunately. Add a big, deep voice to that and it’s even worse.
When I’m working, I’ll get into what I’m writing and often forget to be nice about life’s little distractions. So, I’ve been known to pick up the phone (unthinking) and say “Yeah? What do you want?”
Whoops!
Friends and relatives realize I didn’t mean anything wrong. Not everyone (including my ancient mother) does, though.
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