| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/25/2006 7:11:27 PM | I don't get this! People on their profile, they have pictures of themselves with kids, but then under do you have kids or do you want kids it says Prefer not to say, WHY WOULD YOU WRITE THAT!
And why would you put a picture of a kid on a dating site if it's not yours? I just need to understand this! | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/25/2006 7:24:19 PM | How many kids?
Do they have custody of kids?
How old are they?
Does it matter? (Prefer not to say = yes, but with more details than the checkbox would allow.) | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/25/2006 7:54:35 PM | i completely agree and is what i like to call a liar!!!! lol. now, in my pic i specicfy the little dude in my pic is my bro..but yeah...know what you mean.
people should never hide the fact that they have children no matter how old they are. if anything...be proud!!! | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/25/2006 8:28:33 PM | | I just don't agree with having children's pictures posted on a public website. I wouldn't post pics of my nephews. The appropriate thing, and honest thing, would be to mention the child in the profile. Providing the person has children. | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/25/2006 9:05:37 PM | i agree with CF
kids pic. don't belong on the dating sites
they can be shown later privately,once you get to know someone
you won't see my daughters on here(i hope for alot of years)lol | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/25/2006 9:09:16 PM | I agree with all who said kids pics should not be on dating sites...
Hmmm...I alwys thought the "want children" question meant: do you want *more* children.... | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 7:43:34 AM | | It creeps me out when I see people with their kids on this site. | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 8:05:42 AM | What gets me is when a woman asks for a guy's opinion and some women answer her question ASSUMING they know what the answer is.
A guy has a picture of kids in his profile because A) he loves children B) he doesn't have any of his own C) he is "borrowing" a child to show he knows how to look after one and finally D) he does not want to commit to being 100% "yes, I want a child" if he meets a great girl who doesn't and disqualifies him before they have a chance to talk about it.
God knows there has never been a woman whos NO ever became a YES under the correct conversation and circumstance. | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 8:10:57 AM | I totally agree with no kids pics on dating sites, that is why mine aren't posted.
For me, I had a struggle answering the 'Do you want kids' question on the profile and here is why; I have two kids and don't know that I want more.
Does that mean I rule out women who have their own kids? No way, I'm open to a bigger family. Does that mean if I found my perfect fish and she really wanted us to have a child together that I would refuse? No way, I'm open to that idea as well. But, does that mean I 'want' kids? Not necessarily. So, the options they give you for answering that question in my opinion are inadequate. (I have just changed my answer to Undecided/Open). I think some choose 'Prefer Not to Say' as there really isn't a good option to cover their situation.
I'm thinking my feelings would/could change depending upon the other person and their feelings as well. Something that would have to be worked out with anyone.
JMHO once again! | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 8:11:48 AM | its called honesty or stupidity. I would like to know if a person has a kid and ask them who the child is in the picture.
have you asked them who the child is in the photo?
maybe it's their niece or someone else's kid.
"Prefer not to say" is the default selection. | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 12:31:12 PM | Hey Original Guy ...
Thanks for the insight because I honestly never thought about it that way before ...it is a tricky situation ....
I do think the undecided/open part is probably better though in showing that there would have to be lots of room to discuss options if and when it became a topic of conversation | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 12:35:22 PM | Prefer not to say = Yes (usually).
At least that's how I interpret it to mean. | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 2:53:21 PM | Well IF they right Prefer not to say and it means YES. Then I don't believe they have the right to put a picture of them up there! First off. If you're gonna be a parent and put a picture of your kid up there, you're necessarily PROUD to be a parent! THEN we in the WORLD would you put an answer Prefer not to say! It's either your proud or not proud to be!
Pictures of kids, or grandma or anyone else then you should belong on here, there's nothing more frustrating then a picture of a group of people where you're like : so which one are you in the picture! | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 3:10:27 PM | | There's a belief among men that seeing them with a child makes them somehow more attractive. I have no doubt that a fair chunk of guys' profiles are trying to cash in on just that. I'm a proud fulltime father, so including my son on a profile pic helps give a glimpse into who I truly am. 'Prefer not to say' about children usually tells me that this is a very private person, or there are children involved that may not be a large part of his life, but he doesn't want to admit he's a deadbeat... I'm not saying this is the case everytime, but the fact that it's even the case some of the time disgusts me... | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 6:46:37 PM | cdnokie, thanks for the confirmation on my decision to change my answer to 'Undecided/Open'. I appreciate the feedback.
To bad you are so far away, from your profile it seems like we might click in several areas.
Happy fishing! | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 6:56:48 PM | NOBODY has to put ANY information they don't WANT to online. Don't have to fill in the first date section, don't have to answer to smoking, don't have to post a picture, and don't have to talk about their kids.
I have enjoyed this site a lot more since I got over my frustration with everyone not posting everything I want. Like it's all about what I want.
And then I pulled my picture.
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 9/26/2006 7:41:59 PM | | Im thinking that the 'prefer not to say,' is their of trying to fool people. It bothers me when they use it under the marital status question as well. To be honest, they arent fooling anybody. | |
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Posted: 9/26/2006 8:00:27 PM | ^^^ So you think they really do prefer to say, but they are trying to trick you into thinking that they prefer NOT to say?
"None of your business" is one of the most honest answers a person can give. No trickery there. | |
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Posted: 7/5/2008 12:51:24 PM | | Ive got a picture with a kid.. but its not mine.. its my room mates who was getting married.. the lil guy he was less then 2 at the time was having a hell of a time being comfortable.. people kept trying to hold him.. grab him etc etc.. he was in a little tuxedo and i dont think it was overly comfy for him.. anyways the ceremony happened and we were waiting to walk back down the aisle for pictures and stuff and somebody was holding him and he wasnt a happy camper about it.. He turned and saw me and literally lunged at me to get away from people.. I ended up walking back down the aisle with my beautiful bridesmaid and my now married room mates son. Makes a great picture. | |
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Posted: 8/27/2008 10:09:30 AM | | What is it with girls? In their profiles they complain about the sexual attention they get from guys, but then they post a dozen pics of their tits and asses. WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT? | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 8/27/2008 3:02:17 PM | I don't understand why someone would put
Everything you will say, will be lies. I'll trust anyone that's worth my trust. I don't lie and I expect the same from people I met.
on their profile!
I mean, if someone is a liar ... doesn't it stand to reason that they are going to lie about being a liar? | |
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| What is it with guys?
Posted: 8/27/2008 3:45:58 PM | low res pics of the kids help, showing a baby, 10 year old and teenager gives a rough idea of the age of the kids, also shows what sort of package you would get
guess from the op's view the profiles might be prefer not to say if not sure
whilst I would like kids, would only do it if it felt right :) | |
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